Really Annoyed This Morning ...

@DropDeadFreida I have nothing to prove. I'm simply giving my thoughts. You, however, are extremely judgemental and unable to understand that you don't have the full picture of anyone's situation, and therefore may be judging too harshly too quickly.

Maybe you're the one who needs to get a grip. Or maybe just learn to think before you speak.

I'd have to agree.

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos please get a grip. I did not make any grand statements about all of mankind. Maybe you are so defensive because you're trying to prove something (to yourself more than anyone)?

Definitely telly off at whatever time you want them to go up just go in and pull the plug and turn Wi-Fi off. Tbh I don't see the point of him doing his own washing it will just mean more electric and washing powder because you can guarantee he will do one thing at a time . Get him to do his lunches the night before and put it in the fridge. It will be fine, and Get into the habit of sorting out the dishes the night before as well, no arguments whoever cooks the other does the dishes end of. If one of the kids has been ill in the night they don't need loads of cups or glasses in their rooms they are too young at the moment to carry things up so you as parents are responsible so keep a laundry basket and perhaps a tray on the landing to put things in to even a small child can do that.

Is he blind? That is the only reason I can think of as to why she would have needed to ‘ask/remind/tell him’ to do something that blatantly needs doing in a house that they both live in.

Why allow TV before your DC1 is up, dressed, had breakfast and ready for school? And tell DH to stack the dishwasher every night and put a load of washing on every morning. And why are you all shouting at each other? No one wants to listen to someone shouting.

Helpful.
its not a competition.

Yr a sahm so it’s yr job, go back to work and do 50/50 on the housework.

Rules need to be put in place, I don't cook but I clean as well as husband and we share the other jobs in the house from washing clothes to hoovering. Our teens empty the dishwasher and will be responsible now moving to clean their rooms

Please don’t take this the wrong way bc I genuinely feel your pain and it’s utterly shit when you’re lumbered with everything and nobody is complying/helping/or even aware. BUT you do sound a bit passive aggressive. You are capable of getting your needs met you need to assert yourself more. Look your husband in the eye and say. I need to to pull your weight around here, it’s disrespectful leaving your dirty socks on the floor for me to pick up, I don’t want to have to do it again and if you ignore me then we’re going to have a much bigger problem. If your kids don’t respond to being asked to get dressed the first time, be proactive. Go over and stand in front to of the TV and ask again directly and assertively and turn the tv off. If they don’t go, take then by the hand and lead them upstairs to get dressed. They’re still little so probably need more direction/assistance but if you’re expending that energy feeling frustrated and saying the same time over and over why not just focus on getting actual stuff done.
it sounds like your husband is a 3rd child so maybe you need to treat him like one. Give him a clear choice and set your expectations. Say to him, do you want to make the lunches or get the kids dressed? You need to do one of those things now.

I'm sure I'll get blasted for this but as a SAHM would it not be reasonable to collect the pots from around the house and make husbands lunch for him? I know that's what I'd do. I work but still do this. Child watching tv? Then don't allow tv on a school morning, we just have the radio on in the morning. You're the adult, your rules. If you don't incorporate them then you can't really complain.

But she didn't, she meant just glasses apparently!

I actually agree.

Didn’t realise ‘pots’ was a dialect thing. People get employed as pot washer is pubs and restaurants and we use the word a lot. Oh and pubs employ a pot collector - meaning they collect the glasses. I’m NE but also used when lived NW.

misses point of thread

All this arguing over the phrase 'pots and pans'. Surely it's not a huge leap to work out that the OP means crockery and cutlery and it's just an expression?
Too much focus on this instead of helping her to come to a resolution with her husband.

In many parts of the country, "pots and pans" literally means "pots and pans" - as in, the metal pots and pans you use to cook food in. It doesn't mean plates, cups, glasses, crockery etc.

Precisely!

Yes, pots and pans meaning, well, pots and pans. Not meaning all items of cutlery, glasses etc. Nobody is saying they haven't heard of pots and pans, they're saying they haven't heard it to mean more than pots and pans.

I first heard of washing the pots on Teen Mum UK and was confused. Then here. Nowhere else.

Have you not heard the expression pots and pans?

Not entirely. As I said I'd heard of it once before in relation to general washing-up. I didn't realise could mean just glasses and cups. There's a difference between dirty plates and cutlery being left in bedrooms and just drinking vessels.

It's obvious from the context what the op meant by pots. The proper response is to think "That's interesting- I haven't heard that usage before. Now what can I say that might help the OP?"

Don’t you come back home after the school run? Sort the sheets and dishes then? I assume your husband is away to work!

@DropDeadFreida you're projecting. You speak of all men/husbands/fathers with a disdain that you maybe even can't see.

I am another who has never heard of the term ‘pots’ to mean all eating, drinking and cooking utensils.

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos you are really projecting here. The thread is not about you and your partner and routine, but about the OP.