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I’m so fed up I want to cry

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PopGoesTheWeasel3 · 02/02/2024 01:34

My boyfriend was offered to play sport in Australia from October to March, and he accepted. I came with him as this was offered, and it was a perfect way for us to see a country we’d always wanted to.

The sports club paid our flights here, and we will pay our flights home. They gave us a car too.

Until about around christmas, we were in the novelty of it all. We were travelling around on mini holidays, we were soaking it all up. Had some amazing moments But now I’m completely fed up and I want to go home. We only have 5 weeks left but I want to cry.

Boyfriend has to stay here until the end of the contract otherwise he has to pay them everything back, and I don’t yet have enough money to get home. They gave me farm work which I do quite enjoy, but it’s been raining so much that I’ve missed so many shifts.

We’re staying in the middle of nowhere, the closest shop is a 50 minute walk.
Our car broke down a week ago, and we’re having to wait two weeks for a repair. This means we literally cannot get ANYWHERE at the moment. There’s no cabs in the area. Our housemate has offered lifts but he’s out most of the time and works during the day.

I’m losing my mind. We’re living in a farmhouse which has rainwater as drinking water (gross), a really weak shower and SO many bugs. My boyfriend is having to scrap for lifts to work (at sports ground) and to matches, and I am stuck in the house. The house which, may I add, has no aircon and it’s roughly 35 degrees every day.

Another thing, the sports club is so uninclusive and clicky. Not one person has made an effort with us, we haven’t been invited anywhere, been to anyone’s house, nothing. We tried so hard but no one really gave us anything back. We haven’t made any friends. My boyfriend feels the same and is fed up of everyone.

I feel like I’m losing my mind and I want to cry. I thought this would be an amazing opportunity and we’ve had some amazing moments, plus I love living with my boyfriend (who is really supportive). But I don’t know how I’m going to survive the last 5 weeks

OP posts:
SilverSideUp · 02/02/2024 05:13

If you feel so bad it isn't worth risking you Mh. I'd stick flights on a credit card and come home

notmyrealuserna · 02/02/2024 04:39

Sounds awful. I'd create a routine for my self to give some structure. Wake ups, meal times, exercise, cleaning, hobbies, relaxation etc. And work as much as possible to pass the time.

Jammeroo · 02/02/2024 03:39

Sounds really rubbish situation you are in at the moment and being so far away from home too.

5 weeks will flypast and it would be a shame to not make the most of an opportunity that you will never get again. It's not forever and things will hopefully seem a bit brighter in a week's time.

If not is there an opportunity for you to pick up work somewhere else for a few weeks where there is more to do?

FrozenGhost · 02/02/2024 03:02

Where are you exactly?

It sounds annoying but five weeks isn't much more. I suppose my ideas would be either pass the time as best you can with reading and TV.

Or (my preference) leave your boyfriend behind in this town and get public transport to the nearest capital city. Stay in a hostel and have a backpacking type holiday by yourself for a few weeks.

ChellyT · 02/02/2024 02:13

Can I ask where abouts you two are? I'm in Sydney

ilovesooty · 02/02/2024 01:55

It sounds tough. Did you post before about being really excited to be going out there?

I know it sounds a long time when you're miserable but there are only five weeks left. You've done most of it. I hope you get the car repaired and can enjoy some of the remaining time.

Mystro202 · 02/02/2024 01:47

Gosh that sounds tough OP. You've done well sticking it out this long. I have experienced the remote Australian life too and I struggled. We were in Central Queensland, 5 hours drive from the nearest town. I ended up paying a fortune to fly out of there & didn't finish my farm work for 2nd year visa. I don't think we appreciate just how remote & difficult living in the outback can be. It's unfortunate that people are unwelcoming as you may have a totally different experience if they were. Is there a bar around or a shop? Perhaps you could work there instead? At least you would have something to focus on until your time is up. Or perhaps you could move to a town/city for the remainder and see your partner at weekends? You could stay in a hostel.