A pet peeve: Having your photo taken when you'd rather not!

I don't like my photo taken unless I feel good. But there is a special place in hell for people that post unflattering pictures of other people.

I’ve got a couple of friends who do this all the time. I hate it. I’m not photogenic and I don’t particularly want everyone to know what I have been doing or who I am hanging out with. I do untag myself on facebook but it’s harder to ask someone to take pictures down but I have done it.

That’s just rude. Just don’t take it. People have reasons and it’s not for you to judge.

I hate people sharing photos of me. I'm not photogenic at all and I don't like being in photos and try to avoid it if at all possible. If someone's going to stick photos of me on social media I would rather be asked first. I think that's just basic courtesy

I hate it too it's very intrusive . I told someone not to the other day. We'd just sat down for coffee and she shoves her phone in my face . No thanks . I don't live my life through Facebook

I totally agree, OP. I hate having my photo taken and just flat out refuse. We come back from a holiday with many, many photos and not a single person on any of them 😂 I don't know why people think they have the right to insist on taking my picture.

If people are identifiable (I.e. not blurred in the background, turned away from camera or obscured by something), it’s only reasonable to ask if they’re happy to have it shared and abide by their decision without judgement. Some people have very valid reasons for not wanting photos published.

I don't mind being in the videos or photos shared on instagram etc from my classes. It happens all the time. However we are given the option and you don't always want to participate, and sometimes I will step out if someone is brandishing a camera/phone.

I find the opposite annoying. Taking photos then not sharing them.

I don't like photos taken of me. Possibly related to the fact that as a child my mother would take photos then laugh at me and say how fat i was. (I wasn't actually looking back. But after the eating disorders then yes I was). Even now she will take a photo of me surreptitiously and laugh at how I am a hobbit, or got my father's fat genes. I find photos being taken of me genuinely traumatising.

But that said- I used to work in child protection and having photos shared randomly of some of our clients and / or their mothers could be very genuinely dangerous for them. A picture of a child in the background of a facebook post put out by the local paper led to the family being moved in an emergency to another LA.

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I was probably just a bit tired yesterday, I have voted now!

And I do agree with you. One should ask before putting someone's photo on social media. And accept when someone says no.

Yes - it drives me mad. I think it shows really poor boundaries and respect for others.

SIL is a constant repeat offender. I ask to not be in the photos (as I really don’t like them being shared with people I don’t know) and she ridicules me in front of the family if I politely decline. It has actually made me really dislike her.

Me?
Affray, and carrying a bladed article. Separate occasions. Both mental health related.

Laughing at your Kung Fu Panda comment 😀

A Police mugshot? What were you are arrested for? 😬

Yanbu there's nothing I hate more on a night out than people constantly interrupting the fun to pose or ask for a selfie. I'm very self conscious about my looks so it immediately makes me uncomfortable for that reason but even if if I wasn't, it's just not necessary. Have fun without having to document every moment and post it in live time. I swear a lot of people just want to brag about what a great time they're having. It's sad we can't just live in the moment.

I think there is a middle ground.

I don’t think it’s ok (generally) to share photos to social media without asking, unless there was a reasonable expectation that a photo might be used for that, or unless among friends where it’s accepted it’s the done thing.

But people who just won’t let you take pictures of them at all are a pain. I want to remember occasions with them included! It feels a bit selfish to be overly precious about it.

Just my two cents.

It is rude not to ask if someone wants to be in a photo.
People who don't ask are twats.
There's no two ways about it.

I know it is rare, but some people are on a witness protection program and don't want their photo and location shared.
More common will be women fleeing abusive relationships etc, that also do not want to be plastered all over social media.

I follow a photography group on Facebook with 44k followers.

there’s someone everyday that posts photos of people who don’t know their picture is being taken and posted to 44k people

I think it’s a real safeguarding issue as these people might not want their pictures on Facebook. I don’t want my picture on Facebook as I ALWAYS take a bad photo

Yes it’s so annoying, just pay pay models to sell your course/workspace/fitness class/pottery class even the other day

I can understand why people don't want their photo on social media, but don't understand why some will sit and be in group shots then say they don't want them shared!