A pet peeve: Having your photo taken when you'd rather not!

People don't like photos where they look awful no, but just 'not looking their best' shouldn't be an issue. The photo is to remember the good time you had, not some tiny thing that is 'wrong'.

Whether it is or is not an issue for someone is not your call ro make @Gwenhwyfar.
'Shouldn't be' doesn’t come into it.

You can't seriously expect a photo of 10 people to require consultation with 10 people and a veto from one person because it's not her best side.

I would prefer to be consulted about my photo being put on social media, although I know people don't do this usually - unfortunately. I find it staggering that you are actually happy to put up photos when you know not everyone will be happy with them.

Sometimes in a group situation/friendship the understanding is that any photos taken will be uploaded and that's okay. But it's certainly not an understanding in many cases. A relative of mine likes putting family photos on SM. By now many family members have told her not to put up any photo that includes them. She didn't think to ask permission at first but has come to understand that lots of people just aren't comfortable with it.

I hate having my photo taken apart from at home and will leave a group until photos are taken if my boundaries are not respected.I don't care whether that annoys the person taking the photo.

Larger people exercising should be praised and celebrated, not mocked. Surely the point of exercise is to improve your health, not to show off your 'perfect' physique.

This was exactly my thought.
I haven't given my permission any more than a child could have.
So don't do it. 🤨

YANBU in the least.

YANBU. A relative or friend taking a photo for their own private memories is one thing, but finding your image splashed all over social media is quite different. Unless they ask your permission, it is insensitive and out of order. Stay firm OP, just say no!

You don't understand consent or boundaries do you.

I wonder if people who insist on ignoring people's wishes about photos also go around posting photos of other people's children on social media.

I've not admitted anything at all.

do you go around insulting people in person too?

I'm with you OP. I think it's extremely bad manners, anti social in fact.

I quite like this new apparent teenage craze of covering their noses if someone takes a photo. If I do it right I can cover my mouth wrinkles and double chin.

@MargaretThursday
I can understand your sadness at not having family photos, but I do feel your daughter is entitled not to be in them if she doesn't want.

I have no photos of me past age 7, when I was old enough to say "No!". And I'm in my 40s now, still don't have photos, and I'm fine with it, despite other people having different views. I don't have any pics on social media either.

I believe that your desire/lack of desire for photos of you (personally) trumps everyone else's opinion on the matter. But equally, their desire/lack of desire for photos of them also trumps anyone else's wishes. Everyone gets to make that decision for themselves.

At least you're admitting it now.

"Not many people like pictures of themselves when they don't show them at their best. I don't think I'm unusual there."

People don't like photos where they look awful no, but just 'not looking their best' shouldn't be an issue. The photo is to remember the good time you had, not some tiny thing that is 'wrong'.

"I don't see why people feel entitled to put up images on SM that others in the picture may not be happy with."

You can't seriously expect a photo of 10 people to require consultation with 10 people and a veto from one person because it's not her best side.

But it isn't, is it?

The person taking the photo asks, and you step out (or take the photo). They get their group shot, but no-one who doesn't want to be in it is forced to. Win:win, no need for aggro.

My body my choice.

I'm not sensitive but I stopped going to aerial and pole fitness because apparently people find a size 16 doing it hilarious, took the photos off social media and mocked them

Ridiculous because they say fat people should exercise then when I do exercise it gets mocked

My mother in law insists on taking photos when the family are halfway through eating. Everyone hates her for it

Rude

I think it’s really rude. I have no issue with posing for occasional photos, if they’re for friends to look at themselves but have no desire to plastered all over the internet.
I frequently move out of shot when people who litter social media with photos of what they’ve been up to get their phone out. sometimes they’re bothered, sometimes they’re not. But I flatly refuse to participate in such braggy behaviour. There is nothing wrong with my memory- I can remember all the lovely things I’ve done, I don’t need a photo on the internet to commemorate it.

I also think the poster of the pictures will tend to leave out any unflattering pictures of themselves, while possibly not being as considerate of others. I've certainly seen some thoughtless shares in my time.

Whereas you are insensitive.

I'm not very sensitive in general, though I realise it may sound otherwise from what I've said. Not many people like pictures of themselves when they don't show them at their best. I don't think I'm unusual there.

I don't see why people feel entitled to put up images on SM that others in the picture may not be happy with. I think it's unfair of them to assume no one will mind. I think they're guilty of being insensitive more than I am of being sensitive really. Not being happy with my appearance doesn't stop me doing things and I don't mind people taking photos, but SM is a step too far for me.

Once you established everyone is ok with it and does it as well, sure. However, you would want to know one of your friends isn't ok with that, wouldn't you?

Yes, so you're sensitive.

I don't like my photo taken because I'm not happy with my appearance at the moment. I'm bad enough in RL but I've never been photogenic and really dislike how I look in most photos.
So vanity I suppose?
I really don't want my (ugly) image plastered all over social media, it embarrasses me.