A pet peeve: Having your photo taken when you'd rather not!

She insisted on being in a photo even when you explained it was for SM which she didn't want to be on?
Okay, but that sounds very unusual. Unlikely to be a common issue.

The wardrobe malfunction obviously can't have been seen as that mild by the person who suffered it if she asked you to take the photo down? I do understand you didn't notice it but I think that's part if the problem actually - that photos are uploaded so casually and with little thought of how they may impact on others.
I've often seen a group of photos of an event put on SM and thought well, x isn't going to like that one, or y was caught at a most unfortunate angle there, and I wonder why the poster didn't think.

Fair enough, but very few people do this.

Some people like to keep photos for their own memories rather than for sharing on social media; so I'd say that I don't mind a photo, so long as it doesn't go on social media. Some people will then leave me out of the photo; others will take picture including me, but not post it. Either is fine with me.

What isn't fine is for people to just assume that it's fine to post pictures of people on social media without asking permission. Especially if their social media posts are not restricted to friends, but visible to the general public.

Agree with others, this is worded suspiciously. The poll is usually just a visual gauge, it doesn’t mean anything. OP is definitely not only asking this out of curiosity.

Fiesty?

I hate it too.
Left over from escaping DA and crossing the country to get away.
I still get out of every photo.
My response to anyone questioning me on this is I could tell you but I’d have to kill you. Shuts them up every time.

@BeenThere0

(Wow, these MN threads can get feisty...)

You're male aren't you @BeenThere0 ?

Not publishing this anywhere isn't the same as not actually being a journalist or doing research though.
Are you a journalist/researcher?

What now?

Being photographed at all is annoying but assuming you should be posted on sm is completely unnecessary!

"did that one person insistthat the photo be taken in the first place, that's my question?
Because that's what you claim happens -"

She insisted on being in the photo, yes.

"why would you put up a photo showing someone's wardrobe malfunction in the first place?"

I didn't see it - it was mild.

YANBU. I don't mind if people take photographs just for themselves and friends, but I don't want my pic shared on social media. My main (though not my only) reason is that I have what amounts to a disability with regard to face recognition, so other people will recognize me from my pic far better than I will recognize them, which could put me in a vulnerable position. I find that if I explain this, people usually co-operate.

But even if someone just doesn't like it, it should be respected. My mum hated being photographed, even before the days of social media, and found it quite hurtful if people disregarded her wishes.

for after the poll closes, so I'm limited on what I am going to say now (I don't want to overly influence the voting), but I'll have more to say once the poll closes

There isn't a poll showing for me the way it normally does on AIBU at the bottom of the first post. Where is the poll?

Thanks for replying. Many people don't want their thoughts published without their consent so knowing whether you're a journalist or not is important.

But are you a journalist @BeenThere0?

I'm concerned now too as you haven't answered pp.
Bit ironic on a thread discussing rights to privacy...

Only one person has done it to me.

But did that one person insist that the photo be taken in the first place, that's my question?
Because that's what you claim happens -

They don't get to insist on being in the photo and then veto it being shared therefore spoiling it for everyone else.

Also - why would you put up a photo showing someone's wardrobe malfunction in the first place?

Not unreasonable at all.

I utterly hate having my picture taken and there are very few in existence.

If some of the previous posters think they are entitled to take and share my photo they are sadly mistaken. I am just as entitled to say no

@BananasInThreePieceSuits

YABU. I don’t entertain such nonsense. If I took your photo and I want to share it, I will (I’m talking entirely in a personal capacity, not professional/hobby etc).

Everyone knows what you look like. They can literally see you. So being touchy about a photo is just ridiculous.

What is wrong with you that you have such an unpleasant attitude to people's reasonable wish for privacy?

There a lots of people who have VERY good and serious reasons for not wanting their photo on social media. A simple example are victims of domestic violence who don't want any information that reveals where they are.

Even if you aren't talking about serious reasons like that, there is nothing wrong with just wanting to control your own privacy and information about where you are, what you do and who has access to that.

Many people are very casual about identifying locations and times of images.

It's now very easy to identify people from images because of the accuracy of facial recognition software. Search yourself on Pimeyes and for some people you may find it locates you in the back of photographs you don't even know are on the internet.

https://pimeyes.com/en

I agree with you @BeenThere0 and your personal preferences is part of your right to a private life under Article 8 of the European Convention on Human Rights.

I wasn't flattering you, I was asking a question based on your comments. Are you going to answer it or divert?