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Haemorrhoids help

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:29

I think I've had them for around 8 months. Finally pulled down my big girl pants and showed them to a doctor. She said stay away from creams as they thin the skin and instead just use epsom salts and change my position on the toilet. Essentially her advice is that I have to manage them as they are here to stay. If I want the area 'tidied up' I'd have to go private. Then she congratulated me on my haemorrhoids. It was all very funny but...

Since I've stopped using the cream the pain has come back and they've swelled again.

I'm not sure I have time for a 3 x daily sitz bath.

Online I've read so many different opinions. They never go vs they clear up in a few weeks.

I'm tempted to get another opinion...

So...

YABU yes haemorrhoids never completely go. They just kind of shrivel and then return so just live with the discomfort and 😳.

YANBU get another opinion and try to get rid of them completely. No-one can live like this forever.

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Blarn · 01/02/2024 08:53

I have internal ones, or skin tags, I am not certain. I went to the gp a few years ago and she said they are just to be put up with. I always feel more uncomfortable with them when my period is due but recently the seem to be permanently bad. I have ordered some germaloids cream with my shopping - is it the right thing? I don't get constipated, that's the weird thing. They must have been created by pregnancy alone. Fun times.

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:49

Lifestooshort71 · 01/02/2024 08:41

Use suppositories when bad and try to relax with raised legs - walking and standing makes your bum drop out. When not bad, be constantly on edge, don't get constipated or too loose and slide them back in with greased finger when necessary. Had mine for 40 years and only caused real problems when I took codeine post-op - avoid anything that bungs you up!

That's good advice and good to know. Thank you.

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:48

NCforthisobvs · 01/02/2024 08:44

I had haemorrhoids removed. They were a nuisance but I could have lived with them, but being in my 20s, they were unsightly and so had surgery to get rid of them.

It was the most painful thing I have ever been through - and I have since had two children!

The surgery also left me incontinent. There is a risk that can happen but as all surgeries have risks, I dismissed it. But my internal sphincter muscle was damaged as a result and I now suffer from bowel incontinence. I complained about ugly looking haemorrhoids. Bowel incontinence is a thousand times worse!

So, think carefully if you’re thinking about pushing for surgery!

Oh gosh I'm so sorry. That sounds rough. Thanks for sharing your story and advice.

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:48

DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:41

How small does it go when you’re using cream? I have a permanent lump on my anus that is a pile, it gets bigger and more appear when I have a flare up.

It seems to go from my borrowing across my perineum. It isn't huge but I can feel it when walking. When I look in the mirror it is like a grey colour. Looks like a skin flap.

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NCforthisobvs · 01/02/2024 08:46

NCforthisobvs · 01/02/2024 08:44

I had haemorrhoids removed. They were a nuisance but I could have lived with them, but being in my 20s, they were unsightly and so had surgery to get rid of them.

It was the most painful thing I have ever been through - and I have since had two children!

The surgery also left me incontinent. There is a risk that can happen but as all surgeries have risks, I dismissed it. But my internal sphincter muscle was damaged as a result and I now suffer from bowel incontinence. I complained about ugly looking haemorrhoids. Bowel incontinence is a thousand times worse!

So, think carefully if you’re thinking about pushing for surgery!

Just to add, I did the surgery privately with a renowned colorectal consultant and I was still left incontinent.

JamesPringle · 01/02/2024 08:46

I used the creams etc but the only thing that actually worked was witch hazel. You put some on a tissue and leave it between your cheeks for a good while. Makes a huge difference. You can get it in health food shops or online.

NCforthisobvs · 01/02/2024 08:44

I had haemorrhoids removed. They were a nuisance but I could have lived with them, but being in my 20s, they were unsightly and so had surgery to get rid of them.

It was the most painful thing I have ever been through - and I have since had two children!

The surgery also left me incontinent. There is a risk that can happen but as all surgeries have risks, I dismissed it. But my internal sphincter muscle was damaged as a result and I now suffer from bowel incontinence. I complained about ugly looking haemorrhoids. Bowel incontinence is a thousand times worse!

So, think carefully if you’re thinking about pushing for surgery!

DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:41

How small does it go when you’re using cream? I have a permanent lump on my anus that is a pile, it gets bigger and more appear when I have a flare up.

Lifestooshort71 · 01/02/2024 08:41

Use suppositories when bad and try to relax with raised legs - walking and standing makes your bum drop out. When not bad, be constantly on edge, don't get constipated or too loose and slide them back in with greased finger when necessary. Had mine for 40 years and only caused real problems when I took codeine post-op - avoid anything that bungs you up!

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:40

And so am I always going to have a lumpy bottom even when they aren't flaring up? It's like a horrendous skin tag.

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DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:38

I believe removal is only done in extreme circumstances. I remember a woman died many years ago, after having piles injected when trying to shrink them.

DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:37

Yes.

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weatherbell · 01/02/2024 08:36

So is the idea just to use cream/suppositories when they are causing pain or itchy or swollen and then ignore the rest of the time?

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myusernamewastakenbyme · 01/02/2024 08:36

I had piles a couple of weeks ago...i used Anusol suppositories....they gave almost instant relief...the creams did nothing for me.

Hermittrismegistus · 01/02/2024 08:33

Use the cream!

DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:31

And no, I got mine in pregnancy and they’ve never gone completely. They get worse if I have loose stools and in the heat.

DustyLee123 · 01/02/2024 08:31

Get the cream back on, and buy some suppositories too. And find a new GP.

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