For letting 18 year old son lay on my lap

My 18 year old son likes to sit on the sofa between us and stretch out so one of us gets his head and the other has his legs draped over them. I cherish it. Your husband is a dick.

I like the sound of him!

You’re somewhat missing the point, we’ve already established her husband is being an unsympathetic dick here. Suggesting the op is turning her autistic son into a ‘man child’ isn’t much better.

My 15 year old DS loves cuddling with me and we’ll get all cosy on the couch, with blankets and a teddy or two.
The same boy has a death stare like Medusa and a sharper tongue than any MIL 😂

(not suggesting for a minute that all MILs are like that! It’s just a lighthearted reference to the plant known as mother-in-law’s tongue!)

I have a 17 year old and a 19 year old. Both still have cuddles regularly, both would get into bed with us for a chat and a hug, both say “love you” to us when ending a call even if their mates are there. It’s often the case that all four of us will watch a movie on the sofa and snuggle up (together with the dog and two cats!) Your DH is being a dick.

Did you miss the part where the op said her son was autistic?

Take it affection was in short supply in his family.

Yes your husband is weird. Your son is allowed to have a cuddle with mum, the fact he’s autistic means there’s more sensory seeking (especially when ill) as well. One of my autistic children isn’t one for cuddles, but when ill or upset constantly presses himself into me for comfort. As parents we are their safe spaces no matter what their age.

DS 17 has taken to wanting to watch half hour of TV or so at around 10pm after studying and just before bed. He lolls over me and the sofa, and we chat, watching mindless TV. Part of me would much rather be heading to bed, but the bigger part of me knows this is such a short-lived period of his last year of school and I love the closeness.

You are very lucky that you get to cuddle your 18 year old son , my 2 older than your sons would be welcome for a cuddle any time , i am quite jealous actually !
Show your husband this thread , he needs to apologise .

Huh me and my siblings are in our 30s and we still cuddle up to watch films etc. And all my kids still love there cuddles even tho one is a 13 boy lol. Nothing like cuddles with your mum or fam

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I do hope you got a photo

As a mum of 4 boys (eldest 2 22& 18) they all cuddle me my older son has cried on me a few times and my 18 year old is so cuddly: you’re their mum ffs why can’t you be affectionate with your kids and vice versa
It’s your husband that’s got the issues imo
hope he didn’t make your son feel bad

DS got a bit tipsy on a work night out and came home and fell asleep cuddled up to his Dad on the sofa. He looked like a 6ft 4 baby sloth hanging on for dear life.

Your husband is completely in the wrong, I’m glad your DS has at least one parent who cuddles up to him.

Same

An occasional hug is all I get from mine now

Absolutely nothing wrong with it OP

I read somewhere how much teens still need physical affection but don’t always realise it, so you’re meant to hug them til they push you away. I do this and it totally works - sometimes I get a. “Urgh mum get off”, sometimes they tolerate it briefly and other times they hug me back for a while. It’s a bit like playing roulette 😂

Oh this is just lovely ❤️

My 16yo son sat on my knee last night... I think it's lovely that they can ask for physical comfort like that, no matter their age. Your h is being ridiculous.

Oh gosh that's not weird.

My niece and nephew grew up next door. She is 22 he is 20. Christmas Eve we always have a film. This year I was in middle, them either side, then my four split two each side of them, all cuddled in under the duvet.

Of course it’s not “weird”.

Did you ask him exactly what age it became weird, and why?

It sounds like you are a lovely mum.

What a mean thing to say to your DS. My DS is the same age and we often have a cuddle. I love that he still wants to cuddle me. Him and DH are a bit more man-hug and back slappy now but I still get the cuddles and I hope that doesn't change because I still cuddle my Mum and Dad.

Cross post, his df, he feels awkward, but it is your choice. Dh is odd for having weird thoughts about it. Maybe he thinks it's sexual, but that's his problem.
Be a great mum, that's what matters.