For letting 18 year old son lay on my lap

@okayokokay you do know the OP's DH is not her son's father don't you? So he hasn't known her DS his whole life and doesn't necessarily have her DS's best interests at heart. I don't think the OP specified how long she has been with her DH but it may not even have been that long.

Your husband is a cunt. HTH.

Cuddler is one thing, but that isnt what the OP is talking about!

@Alwaysgoingforit ,

It's probably just thinking @Katemax82 husband that his 18 Yr old son is far too grown up for stuff like that,
percieves as something you would do with a youngish child,

Men and boys are quite often socially conditioned brainwashed to not show obvious vulnerablilities just in case its taken advantage as a weakness amongst men,

there is rare occasions when it's OK to show affection or emotion and passion such as at football ⚽️ or other types of sports matches,
that's probably another reason why they are so popular thinking about it,
realize of pent up stress too..

What a bizarre comment. Wanting affection doesn’t point to co-dependency. Would you say the same if it was a daughter doing the same? Would you expect a son to be pushed away when they need a hug or some TLC? Sharing affection is a sign of strength, knowing they have support when needed and able to share love with those they care for. It’s something to be celebrated, not frowned upon

Please tell me you don’t have a son. If you do, your parenting will no doubt create another disciple for Andrew Tate. Well done you.

It doesn't matter that he was ill or that he's autistic, he can have a cuddle with his mum if he wants to!

My DS would do just this. He is 19 and also autistic. Absolutely nothing wrong with it.

What a lovely lad you have, enjoy the cuddles.

He sounds jealous. If not, then he’s just an idiot. Or perhaps a jealous idiot.

Ugh.

Weird from your husband OP. Perhaps there was a lack of physical affection growing up from his parents? Maybe he wanted that with his own Mum and never got it.

How old is too old to want comforting by your mum when you're ill?

It makes me think of the Spartan mums and their "come back on your shield or on it." And once when the sole survivor of a battle returned and his own mother was so cross with him for not dying she killed him with a roof tile. I like history but I am glad I am alive now. I think men should be too.

Awww poor kid. My DD's cuddle up with DH on the sofa watching TV. Why wouldn't you have affection in a family?

I still occasionally sit on my dad's knee.

Last week I was taken ill with chest pains, and while waiting for the ambulance, ds, who's 16yo, came and cuddled up next to me in bed. It was a lovely moment in a time when I was not at my best.

(It was covid induced pleurisy, so better than it could have been)

Yh seeing another man laying on your wifes lap is weird as fuck for any man BUT not being able to distinguish that man as a stranger or being your son/stepchild is a sign of brain injury....

Fingers crossed he gets it sorted out sooner rather then later 😒

Maybe if he was in touch more with his feelings he wouldn't have lost*

*I mean obviously not really. But I don't think the deeply messed up dynamics of royal families/political dynasties at the time are anything to emulate.

But do we not have to prepare our sons for the brutal world that they will encounter?

How about raising sons who will bring more kindness into the world and make it a bit better.

I hope mine still wants to do this when he is 18.

Its lovely that yours still does and is not weird at all.

Weird comment ftom your husband. You did nothing wrong.

Your husband is wierd for thinking its wierd? Has he seen too much wierd incest porn? Because I can't for the life of me think what else would make him think it's odd. I hope my son wants to have cuddles and be close like this when he's a teen 😊

Oh god, I hope my son will always want to cuddle up to me! No matter how old he gets.

Definitely not weird, it’s lovely how close you both are.

Whilst there is nothing intrinsically wrong with it, most young men would not want, or need. this level of intimacy with their mum. You seem almost too delighted about him doing it which makes me think there is some co-dependency going on there.

I was ill recently and mum came by to help at home as H had to work. When he was sorting kids dinner I laid on the sofa and had a hug with her because I was feeling totally crap. I’m 42! It’s not weird. It’s family caring for each other.