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DoubleScreens · 31/01/2024 15:47

I have name changed for this. I have stage 4 cancer and treated bi polar. I am on quetiapine for a mood stabiliser but it is an anti psychotic. I'm also on the max dose of venlafaxine.

I took a week off work and on my return today I had a return to work with my managers manager, who frankly was so offensive it has shaken me to the core.

I work in the nhs in an admin role and this is a snippet of the conversation I had with my managers manager.

She asked me if I'd increased my medications whilst I was off, googled the quetiapine and said oh an antipsychotic, are you even safe to work here ?

Then later in the conversation about my absence (which wasn't because of my mental health) she said who am I actually dealing with here? Are you a risk to me and the other staff?

Wtf??? No. I'm not a risk. It's a mood stabiliser. Even if I was a 'risk' I disclosed it to occy health.

Problem is who do I take this to? She's the head of the service and not my direct manager. There is no one above her.

The more the day goes on the angrier I'm getting. I am in a union

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Tel12 · 31/01/2024 15:52

I would have said go to HR but as you are in a union they may well be your best bet. I am sorry to hear of your health issues. It's appalling that you have been spoken to like this. I would suggest that you write everything down while it's fresh in your mind and make sure that a union rep accompanies you to any further meetings. Hope you get some actual support soon.

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