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Would you assume someone fancied you if

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Luckofthedraw97 · 31/01/2024 09:08

Met them in September. on the school run they

  1. Run fast to catch up with you and walk and talk after drop off
  2. Come and stand with you even after dropping their child off (there child is year above) and I was still waiting in play ground with mine but they came to stand with me and chat

Weird question but one of the other school mums thinks he fancies me because of this and I just think he’s being nice. What would you think?

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GaroTheMushroom · 31/01/2024 09:49

No and sounds like they are winding you up

Divebar2021 · 31/01/2024 09:49

I wouldn’t assume he fancied me but I wouldn't rule it out ( and if I wanted to date him it would be no one else’s business )

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 31/01/2024 09:47

Who initiated the first conversation and how?

Lovemusic82 · 31/01/2024 09:45

I would just assume he was a friend. If it was a mum doing this you wouldn’t think any more of it?

Just to add, I wouldn’t want to be in any kind of relationship with any parent in the playground, it’s a bit icky and everyone would be talking about you not to mention the gossip when it all goes wrong. Seen it happen before, single dad dated several mums from the playground, didn’t know who was going to be next or what drama would come with it 😬.

gannett · 31/01/2024 09:45

No, I wouldn't assume anyone just being friendly to me fancied me. Many, many men and women have struck up random conversations with me and the vast majority have not fancied me.

Obviously if they did fancy me, striking up a casual friendship would be the first step for them. But it could also just be a casual friendship with someone you like chatting to. If it was the former they'll presumably make an actual move at some point and you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

LemonLight · 31/01/2024 09:41

I don't think it's enough to go on to be honest. Are they flirty or just friendly?

5128gap · 31/01/2024 09:39

It would depend mainly on how attractive I was generally. If I was the sort of woman who men regularly fancied, then probably. If I was the sort of woman who men were rarely attracted to, then I'd assume he was just being friendly. If I was somewhere in between, then it could go either way, so I'd need to see some signs, subtle flirting etc before I drew a conclusion. I'd also consider things like his own attractiveness and the pool we were in (how likely he would be to single me out) our relative ages, if he was generally just a friendly type or an attention seeker etc.

britnay · 31/01/2024 09:31

Maybe he just enjoys chatting with you? If he were another mum, would the others presume that she fancied you? Probably not.

PonyPatter44 · 31/01/2024 09:30

He might fancy you, but perhaps he just likes your company and enjoys talking to you. I dont buy into the 'men and women can't be friends ' bollocks. There are lots of men that I enjoy chatting to and spending time with, who I don't fancy.

Newsenmum · 31/01/2024 09:28

Is he one of the only dads? He may find you one of the friendly mums who is actually nice to him.

Precipice · 31/01/2024 09:27

No, I'd assume this person just liked my company and wasn't in a rush to get anywhere, and wanted to chat.

determinedtomakethiswork · 31/01/2024 09:15

I think it depends on whether you're both single. If so then yes I think he likes you and fancies you.

LenaLamont · 31/01/2024 09:15

I’d assume you were friends

autienotnaughty · 31/01/2024 09:14

If it's just general chat I'd assume he finds you easy company

CombatBarbie · 31/01/2024 09:12

If he's singling you out from rest of the mums then yes I'd say he maybe does.....or he's using you as a safety thing. Are you both single?

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