Would you assume someone fancied you if

Do you fancy her? It seems like you do otherwise why would you be giving this a second thought.

Isn’t it just. I assume this poster also thinks the OP obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school fancies her, on the basis of the occasional chat, is also tragically juvenile, and has no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that aren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

If you was her would you think I fancy her ? Or just two adults having a chat?

If I were her, @Sporty2024, no, I wouldn’t think some bloke fancied me because he talked to me and gave me a lift.

Probably because I’m an adult and a parent, so I’ve got more going on in my head than imagining whether anyone has a crush on me like a teenager.

what an incredibly nasty reply

No. He’s just being a friendly civilised human being.

Sorry I just saw your update. If he has a partner then I think there's probably nothing in this. Maybe I'm naive but I wouldn't take these small interactions as flirty esp from someone with a partner , id just think he's friendly .

Maybe... it's hard to know for sure. Id be paying attention to body language, eye contact etc

Well, talk to other people too, if you’re that concerned about the optics?

Ok I take your point but Mumsnet is full of threads like this so I don’t see how me getting a point of view is any different to anyone else who creates something similar.
Im not obsessing, I just wondered how I may be perceived. Perhaps my thread seems juvenile, it’s more to do with the fact that she’s the only mum that I talk to.

@Sporty2024, I would think that a grown man obsessing about whether a fellow-parent at the school gate thought he fancied her, on the basis of the occasional lift, was tragically juvenile, and had no conception of any opposite-sex relationships that weren’t overtly or covertly sexual.

Sorry to hijack the thread.I’ve name changed but just come across this thread, I’m aware there’s many similar threads to this with school playground parents situations.
This is actually a role reversal one. I’m a guy who’s married and also don’t school run but not always due to work. There is a particular mum who I talk to, sometime she will initiate a hello, a smile, sometimes I’ll initiate it. I don’t know her well as such but I know her name and she lives a few roads away from me,although I don’t know her outside of school.

I genuinely like her company, she’s the only mum that I chat to. My daughter is in reception, as is hers.

We both attended a school time assembly last week , I offered gave her a lift home afterwards , likewise I did yesterday because I literally go past her house after drop off. She doesn’t drive.

Shes single I’m married , my question is will she think I fancy her? Because I chat to her and offer her a lift home now and then?..

I have no ulterior motive , I think she’s pleasant to chat too, she’s attractive but then are so many other school mums.

I just wonder if I’m giving her the impression I fancy her, I don’t want to cause embarrassment in the school for anyone.

In terms of do I fancy her, as I said our children are friends , I enjoy chatting to her and I offer to give her a lift home now and then because I literally drive past her house .

If you was her would you think I fancy her ? Or just two adults having a chat?

If he was the least bit interested in anything other than a chat at the school gates, he'd act like he barely recognised you when his partner is around. Also if he's a chatter and she's more introverted, she's more likely to be annoyed that they're not making progress towards home, than because she thinks he fancies you.

His suggestion re phone number is probably because he thinks his wife needs some school mum friends or because he'd like you to arrange meet ups for DC.

It wouldn't even cross my mind. I would just assume I was one of the school parents that they preferred to pass the time with during a mundane part of the day

Well, it sounds to me like he just enjoys your company. Also that his partner's deeply suspicious, and he's trying to convince her there's nothing to it.

Yep, happened to me with a friend's husband whose behaviour started like this and got more and more weird. Declared his love over text, which was a mistake. I felt like I was in a soap.

I have one like this, not on the school run but another group situation. Everyone else seems to think there's something going on between us, but I think I'm just a safe place for him.

I'm pretty sure he like me more than he likes the others, but I haven't had any indication that he fancies me, just sees me as a comfortable friend.

By all accounts (and from what I've seen), the school playground can be quite an intimidating environment for dads, so it's likely that - being a nice person who's willing to talk to him without sideways glances etc - you've become his safe place.

Of course, it could be that he fancies you too, but I doubt it would've started there.

No, this just sounds friendly to me.

Some folks really think a man and woman can’t be friends, it always needs to be sexual. It is far from true.

Are you both single ? I'd say he definitely likes you if so ..

If you are both married it's a bit much / creepy

No I'd assume you were friends.

If a woman acted in the same way would you assume she fancied you?

No, I’d assume he was a friend, or a potential friend. Our architect had a son in DS’s class, we got talking if we coincided at drop-offs, and he’s now a good friend, although his DS moved schools not long afterwards.

Depends what the chat is? If general life stuff, then you're a safe mum pal to pass time with, if it's deep gazing into your eyes and winking at you and flirty banter with light touching (moves fluff from your coat) then he's into you.

I'd need the latter to be very very clear before assuming this.

Is the other parent commenting mixing it up? Stirring away for entertainment?