Mums, is this weird or am I being weird?

It is Abit bizarre, however hes a dad and I have known dad's to do stranger things to keep their kids happy. He properly tried to do other things for her but she wasn't happy with it so he came to the nearest women he knows to do it 🤣 bless him!

I would find it a little weird, but dad's obviously thinking of other things just now and the little girl will be missing her mum doing her hair, think of it as a nice way of starting a friendship with your neighbours...

Absolutely

One way of getting to know your neighbours better!

We knew all our neighbours when I was kid - I find it weird that as an adult and living down south, I know them only to wave/say hello to!

Lovely of you to help out.

I think the OP is a genuinely kind person and her updates are great.

A lot of couples fall into routines. You get the packed lunch while I plait her hair etc.
He tried a plait, managed a plait but his DD wasn't happy as it felt and looked different. Rather than continue with something they both found stressful he asked for help.
It sounds like he is willing to learn from OP. And everyone was happy with the arrangement.

P.s I still haven't mastered french plaits and I've got 4 long haired daughters....I just can't get my head round it. 🙃

I think it's lovely you helping them, it doesn't mean he's a bad husband or father...just he's never done plaits before. My husband is very hands on but I've just always been the one to do the kids hair. It is a bit random, but If we all helped each other out a bit maybe our neighbours would be friends not strangers ❤️

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A friend of mine went into hospital leaving her husband and six year old girl at home. Her daughter is lovely but very particular and can become extremely upset about her hair. As her mother does it for her every day and her father hadn’t a clue how to do French plaits he called me flustered one morning asking if I could go round and sort her hair because he couldn’t get her out the door to school. I wasn’t able to help, I have two young kids of my own and I’d already left for work. Obviously I know this family by I’d say this man is just navigating a hard time and trying to find a way to make his daughter happy and feel settled while her mum is in hospital.

@saraclara I suggest you read the comment I was referring too!

@WhitewitchYorkshire exactly this! x

I wonder if you’d all think it was weird if the mum came round with the same request?
just interested….

@charabang he only asked if OP could plait his daughters hair. Not being able to style hair is hardly a man that can’t take care of his child.

He's an idiot man who is passing his responsibilty for his child onto the nearesr random woman. Why has he never learned how to look after his own daughter? Ridiculous!

So when I couldn't get the oil filter cap off when I was trying to top up the oil on my car, knocking on a neighbours door to apologetically ask him if he could wrestle it for me was 'asking daddy'? And yes, in my late 60s I'm definitely a grown up.

Good grief. I hate having to ask anyone for help, but sometimes you have to, and I very much hope that if I could help, a random neighbour would feel able to ask me. Especially if it depends help an anxious child.
That's pretty much how I grew up, in a community where people with skills would help out a neighbour who didn't.

I haven’t read the replies so if this has already been said I apologise!

Yes it is weird for him to ask you BUT to put it another way, also really thoughtful too. The last thing he thought about was hairstyles with the anticipation of a new baby on the way and and especially for mum to be in hospital unplanned. We all know it takes years and LOTS of practice to master just even the simplest of ponytails.

Regardless if you have children or not he clearly appreciates you as a neighbour and more so trusts you with the task at hand.

on another note……I would love for someone to brush and plait my hair (it’s long and reaches by buttocks). You free for adults too 🤣🤣

Lucky you're a women than, because if you were a man unable to do hair, you'd be deemed dumb, manipulative, lazy balh blah

@OldPerson and proper grown ups don't ask mummy to advise them on such irrelevant rubbish!

Dear god!

They can say, I can't do it, but OP is happy.

It's good to see someone with such an awful outlook on people is sound so having not even read the updates, just talking rubbish.

The baby's been born a girl, coming home Sunday and OP didn't look after the child, she just did the plait! Also, where does it say that the child was left with her alone? She mentions that she had a chat with dad, he introduced himself properly, he was less stressed (presumably because his wife who was taken to hospital by ambulance, was stable), so you've made up all sorts of nonsense and assumed the absolute worse, because he is a man!

Shameful!

Just remember that NAMALT !

Well I suppose there is more chance that OP with long hair will know how to plait that the bloke the other side that shaves his head knowing..... ??

Stop being so bloody touchy!

If OP didn't know, she'd have said ...... I don't know how to plait.

I don't think it weird , the dad needs a bit of help he asked a neighbour.. some of you need to get of your soap boxes

Firstly, I don’t think it is weird, you’re a neighbour not someone random, albeit you don’t know them other than waving and saying ‘hello’. Secondly, if it was me that was asked and the time was ok I’d gladly do it to help out, only problem with me is I can’t plait, except when it’s from a ponytail. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ My two girls had beautiful hair, I just couldn’t do all the nice hair styles, they just had simple ones, I was always envious and amazed at the school gates of the mums who could do beautiful styles, I always felt inadequate.. My ex husband could do their hair better than me, I’m too fingers and thumbs. 🤣🤣🤣 Lastly, I think it’s nice that a loving father wants his little girl to have nice hair for school, plus I’m sure the mum will be pleased and thankful. Girls and boys that age can be mean, it’s best things are kept as normal as possible. From a grandma aged 62.

It is a little odd, but very kind of you to help! When I was in hospital before having my son (I was in and out a good month before having him)…my daughter was in pre school, and my husband had no idea how to do her hair…but he tried. When she left pre school she/we were given a portfolio of her time there with photos etc and you could tell which days my husband had to do her hair just by looking at the photos 🤣

My family has been in the position as your neighbour is now....l had got cancer again, for the third time, as it was the same as before, we knew l would be in hospital for months. My daughter had just started primary school, she was four...Of all things l was so worried about who would "do" her hair everyday for school, it is extremely long , l did not want to cut it.....I went into her school to imform them what was going on at home, mentioning how worried l was
about her hair....sorted in an instant. The school asked she bring a brush, elastic bands ribbons etc & they would do her hair, every morning befoe classes began ..Perhaps you could suggest this to your neighbour?

I had 4 younger siblings and I'd say 2 arrived while I was at school, and my mum had to stay in for 2 weeks with one, hair wasn't right for school all that time even though to an outsider it was fine but my dad didn't do our hair usually and it didn't feel right, I can remember it to this day, all j remember is I missed my mum and my hair wasn't right, everything else he obviously did fine!