Mums, is this weird or am I being weird?

I’d be happy to do it. The dad is probably just trying to keep everything as normal for his dd as possible. Lovely to be able to something so simple to help out a neighbour. Now you can get to know them a bit better (if that’s something you’d like) and it’s always good to be on good terms with people who live so near to you.

I think you're really kind to help him out and I would do the same.

awwww! hes problem solving. Whilst-is certainly a weird request, if you can and your willing to-its actually quite sweet. shes used to it get done every morning. awww

Awww 😢

It is a little strange but you’ve done the right thing saying yes op - I’d have done the same. In fact, I’d love to braid a little girls hair now mine are all grown up! Send her to me 😂

OP I just wanted to say that I think you have done a small thing that this little girl will remember because you gave her some normality and ritual at an anxious time. It’s funny how we say things like “it takes a village” but when someone does something a little different we are suspicious! I would love if community worked like this naturally and I’m sure if you couldn’t do it one day it would have been ok. You’re lovely!

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Oh I feel sorry for the dad , bless him! The little girl probably likes having her hair done nice , it’s probably something mom does all the time and dad is trying to keep normality . I think you’re doing a really nice thing , taking a bit of stress from dad at a difficult time and keeping normality for the little girl . I would think mom would be touched that you are doing it for her and probably also touched that dad is trying to keep her looking nice whilst she can’t do it .

I don’t think it’s weird - he’s probably just thought as you are pleasant to each other and you’re next door then there is no harm in asking . At first I thought you were going to say he has asked you to look after her as that would have been odd as you don’t know them that well but if dads with her and you’re just plaiting her hair I don’t think it’s weird . You’re doing a lovely thing for them .

I did lol at “ can’t she do it herself “ 🤣 try have a peek at what her hair is like after a day at school !

My brother is a single parent and his neighbour helps him with plaiting and styling his daughters hair. He tries his best but my neice isn't very impressed with his efforts! If you are comfortable to help then it would be a nice gesture. If not suggest a ponytail or bunches.

I’m surprised people have turned this into a man vs woman thing, why would anyone ask a man to do this when predominantly they have short hair or have long hair but don’t plait it?! I would expect someone to ask me because I have long hair and I plait it most days and my daughters hair is often plaited too.
and the reason my partner can’t plait and hasn’t learnt is because he has short hair, and our daughter only started school in September (before that I didn’t plait it much) and he has already set off for work when she gets up…would others get her up earlier just do he can attempt to plait it?! So he hasn’t had the opportunity to learn. If I was in hospital he would manage the best he can, but he would not magically be able to plait!! It’s not easy!!!

I think this is fine and I would also agree, and I can see my partner asking our neighbour something like this in that situation, although we do know our neighbour.y daughter is 5 and no she can’t do her hair herself. I imagine my partner would probably just scrape it into a pony, but he knows I prefer it plaited to avoid nits.
i don’t think this is anything weird except he’s stressed and could use a hand.

You're a very kind neighbour - especially to think about the little girl not feeling left out.

I am hopeless with hair styles. I can just about plait hair, but can't put my own in a bun or French plait. I'm just too cack-handed, and I would have loved a French plait at various stages of my life too.

I noticed on FB that my local Men's Sheds had a session recently for Dads and daughters. It was run by a local hairdresser to teach Dads how to do their daughters' hair. Don't know if it was sexist, but at the time I thought it was a lovely idea - there were some lovely photos too.

I think it was a really nice thing to have done for that little girl and will have been a big help - at a similar time my DP struggled with my daughter's hair and her school teacher kindly refit it for her at school so she didn't feel silly. He tried - he really did- but it looked awful even the most basic style. I was so grateful to that teacher.

@CroccyWoccy thinking about it in my house I know how to set up the Nintendo Switch, Wii and DVD player and my husband doesn't.
He knows how the air fryer and the steam cleaner work and I don't.
Yes we would both figure it out eventually in a moment of crisis maybe not 😂

Also maybe he's already tried to plait and just not very good at it/daughter upset hair not done properly just a thought.
It can be very time consuming.

Haven't rtft its a bit weird but I would just suck it up for a few weeks now you've agreed.
I wouldn't do it as a long term thing.

I think it's a bit strange and he'd have no luck with me. I'm a boy mum and my hair is always in a mum bun 🤣.
I do think it's very nice of you to agree to help though, and maybe don't over think it. Maybe there'll feed your pets when your away next for example?
Being a good neighbour has kind of died in my experience, be nice if you could rely on yours and be friendly. If the mum does have a problem tell her to talk to her husband.

God help me if anything ever happens to DH, in the first 24hours my DC will be distraught that I don’t know the Netflix password or how to load a new game on the Nintendo.

Men and women can have a fair division of household labour without both people being equally skilled at every task.

At that age, kids can't do their own hair. At least not neatly in plaits.
I actually think it's quite sweet he's asked you. I'd assume he has got a lot on at the moment and if he's anything like me, learning how to plait isn't a 5 minute thing. His daughter is probably really missing his mum and has been begging for the usual hair do.
I bet his wife is mortified he's asked you, but also very grateful if you could do it. I'd definitely sort my neighbour's kids hair out in a similar situation.

@Hmmmmaybe I'd email the link to a Youtube video

It sounds very odd. And how will the child get to school after you've plaited her hair, or are you on school drop off too?

I'd gladly help a neighbour, and every friendship has to start somewhere, but it's a bit off he's asking a stranger to do something that he could perfectly well do himself

Honestly... No!
"Let me go and ask that woman next door as all women are born with the knowledge on how to plait hair"
The key is, girls may learn to plait hair from about 7/8 but they are children! You're telling me a grown adult can't master it with a few practice runs?
FTLOG!
I'm embarrassed for him!
I hope to god this is bullshit.

@ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees aww nice to hear about the baby👶

Some on here need to get a grip, you have no idea why he doesn’t know how to do a plait, maybe mum has always done , his daughter only allowed mum to do etc
the pile on is ridiculous, newsflash there are some women that cannot do plaits as well. And all those we are equal parents that doesn’t mean you all have to be able to do the same, sometimes one parent is just simply better at something than the other. Currently my dh is teaching ds to drive, does that make me lazy because im not, i could do it but hes better and more patient than me.
yes a bit random that he asked OP as does not know her but he just seems to be trying his best.
typical mumsnet assuming the worst and also how much superior there partner is.
I could probably change a tyre but I don’t want to learn so would get my dh to do it or go to a garage, Im sure my dh could do many things I do but he doesn’t have to as I do it and vice versa.

What a lovely neighbour you are! I bet they are so grateful to you for helping where you could! People need more people like you and I bet this little girl won’t forget what you did!
agreed some of the comments are so ridiculous it’s mad but you know you’ve done the right thing x

Responding to your comment on a thread openly asking for opinions on the scenario isn't ''bitching''. It's simply having an opinion, one which some may disagree with which is fine.

Or is the only acceptable response to this thread ''aww bless him''.