Inheritance issues !

I think it should be split evenly. Every time unless there is a child with disabilities that can't support themselves.

I'll plan it well

In the parents shoes I’d get give her 1/3 and split the rest equally between the brothers

It’s really only fair to split inheritance equally four ways as often people associate inheritance with love - so it’s easy to assume favouritism. However with such disproportionately wealthy siblings it’s common sense to all want DS to be comfortable and be able to get on the property ladder. For me the fact she has endured DV, lone parenting, hard work in an emotionally demanding role to keep a roof over everyone’s heads means a lot.

You will need to live seven years subsequently

They will go on the deeds they will own the house. Shrouds have no pockets.

Share it out and leave it out of the will to much fucking about and giving this government more money for them to put in their back pockets. King Charles and Kate get special care while the rest of us rot fuck em.

Don't write it in your will but personal letter.

You work all your life and for what to give it back to the Government. Before I die I will leave my property in all my children's names so them bastards don't get a penny 😡

HMRC are now looking at jewellery for probate. Anything insured they will be aware of. I'm going to uninsure some pieces I've decided.

I can't speak for the OP but my troubled brother has been a pain for the last 35years and before that was an unpleasant child. At what point does it stop.
My brother doesn't give a shit about me, my kids or our parents, he'd literally walk past you for a pint of Fosters and a fag before he'd say hello.
He gets special rules, special money and all the allowances under the sun. It does undermine my relationship with my sibling and my parents. We're sorting out stuff at the moment and it does worry me, how bitter I feel.

Sometimes circumstances dictate the course of certain people's lives for the worst in spite of good decisions or efforts. Anyone can suffer ill health, disability, redundancy, or other awful things.

People can give two siblings equal chances and opportunities to do well. They may choose to use these to the best of their abilities, and get on in life with luck and opportunities on their side. Conversely, you could have all the best education in the world and have a marvellous career, for it all to come to a grinding halt with a devastating health condition.

My dear departed DB was just as lucky to have a wonderful childhood being adopted by mu parents, as I had an equally amazing childhood too. Yet, he wasn't quite as "good" as he could have been, and passed away from bowel cancer due to a rather hedonistic lifestyle of drugs and partying.

I did ok in my career etc but it seems a long time since I've had any confidence in myself after I had a head injury and post concussion syndrome before being injured by psychotropic drugs.

There by the grace of God go I...

This is one of the most sensible answers I've read on MN. Spot on reply 👏

My mum is about to financially rescue my brother, again.

I have a house, kids, a dog. My mother has no idea what is in my bank account but we drive old cars, don't eat out and manage a holiday every other year.

My 50 year old brother has just walked out on his lovely girlfriend who has supported him through severe mental health problems.
He smokes 20 a day, drinks frequently in the pub, plays with crypto currency and gets obsessive with hobbies. No kids.

Apparently his complete lack of savings means he needs bailing out and he couldn't possibly cope in a one bed, he needs a two bed flat for his computer.

She gets sucked into sorting out his poor decision making decade after decade and she argued like many above that the split should be on need rather than equal.
It's arrogance on my mum's part that she believes she knows exactly what her kids who left home 30 years ago have done and will do and she's dividing it this way 'for the best'

If one child is doing really well, earns a high j come, has investment property etc then he is very greedy and selfish to be so upset unless there’s more to the story where the parents have consistently treated the kids differently.

So a child who has made a success of life is to be pushed to one side in favour of the ones who need 'support' because they haven't worked as hard, assuming they all had the same opportunity.

I couldn't disagree more.
They simply want all their children to be safe and secure
In my family we'd be delighted that our sister would be more comfortably off and wouldn't have to struggle even if meant we didn't get a big lump sum given that we were financially comfortable anyway .

Surely you can see the difference between a situation where the reasons for the unequal split have been articulated and there is a background of a good relationship, vs an adult being randomly cruel to a small child?

I'm sorry that happened to you but it doesn't mean the motive behind unequal distribution of resources is bad.

I think it's hurtful to leave your brother almost nothing. I could see why this is probably upsetting.

Prior to this did everyone get along well?

There are a lot of these threads which should show how contentious inheritance is.

@Another2Cats that’s lovely. As a parent I would like to think that my children would be happy for me to leave one of them more if they needed it. As pp have said it’s not about loving one child more than the other but recognising their different needs…

@Troublesome3

"But see that’s the point .. I see it as just over a years wage
my sister would see that as winning the lottery."

And with the proposed split, she will be getting rather more than that.

I was in a similar situation when my father died last year. I was left a third of his estate and my brother two-thirds.

At first, I was very angry. What, he only loved me half as much as my brother?!?

But then, various things came to light while we were sorting out the funeral. I found out that my father had been supporting my brother and his family financially for quite a while.

To be frank, the difference for me between a one third and one half share of the estate wasn't all that great. But to my brother, that was a large amount of money.

I really don't begrudge my father giving extra to my brother when his family needed it.

It’s unfair. Why should be he punished for being successful. Presumably all the siblings had the same upbringing. Your sister and younger brother made bad life choices and he made good ones. They get rewarded and he gets punished.

When MIL died she left all equally between DH and BIL.
BIL wanted nothing to do with the property, he made this clear before she died. He then signed it fully over to us no monies involved.

If we ever sell it, we will still give him half if he's alive. No children to consider for him. It's a long term rental now.

However where money is involved things tend to get ugly for a lot of people.

When my father died he left everything to my youngest brother. They had cared for him over the years. My other brother and I received nothing. We were happy for him to have it all. We were both comfortably off. His need was greater for various reasons and he is a good man

Equity Isn’t always equal in nature and that’s the whole point of it.

However I can also see the perspective of the person who is basically left out because they have been fortunate enough to secure a good income / career as sometimes (and not necessarily suggesting this is your family) some siblings are sacrificed continuously for others. When a child is capable and mentally strong they can often be overlooked and left to their own devices where many resources and parent time / energy is put into the siblings who aren’t as robust. I have personally experienced this! So whilst I’ve technically done better and don’t “need” any inheritance, a lot of my life has been impacted by the constant enabling of my pain in the arse sibling by my parents.
To then deny me further is just reinforcing the message isn’t it - we don’t bother to parent you to the same level because you don’t need it as much (which isn’t fair nor true)

Are you saying you should get more of what?