To think giving me one day a week actually isn’t ok?? Or AIBU?

I think he should be home on Friday night to spend some time with you and have ( prepare ) breakfast, lunch and dinner with ye on Sat, he can do admin from home on Saturday,

Otherwise you might need to put up with this situation for the moment until the contract ends and then say you won’t be putting up with it in the next job

I would definitely let him take the baby for the Sunday and you have the day off. As this is a temporary contract I think your going to have to persevere but this is clearly not working for you. Before you had the baby was it made clear that you would be doing most of the childcare and that him working away was a very likely possibility? I wouldn't be happy with this arrangement either, your living as a single parent 6 days a week.

A lot of 'admin' can't be done by anyone else. The only person who can write/dictate my clinical assessments is me or a junior colleague under supervision. The only person who can verify my clinic letters, referral letters and other correspondence is me. The person with ultimate responsibility for the investigation results and treatment planning for the patients under my care is me.

'Admin' is frequently used as a broad term to cover anything where we might be able to sit down to do it.

Having efficient Admin colleagues as part of a team makes the team much more efficient overall, as does having any other experienced and efficient team members, but it doesn't remove those responsibilities from clinicians.

Additionally, Admin posts are frequently under-staffed and under-resourced. The days of permanent or temporary consultants being guaranteed 'having' access to a dedicated medical secretary just for their work are fading into the distance. And I don't 'have a secretary'. I work with Admin colleagues as part of a multidisciplinary team. If I started going around claiming ownership they'd very quickly (and deservedly) put me in my place.

@whatsappdoc I'm confused, Are you the OP? I'm just wondering how you know his shift times?

There are some breathtakingly naive posts on this thread - like, oh, he should just speak to his supervisor or just do his hours or do the admin in the evenings after clocking off at 5pm

Bless - and lucky you!

How on earth so you come to that conclusion? He is going out and providing for his family, please go and take a walk into your local a&e and have a look at the state the NHS is in!!! It's absolutely on its arse and so are the staff. It's actually disgusting the amount of naive people that are on this thread coming out with the shit that they are, eyes totally closed as to what's going on in the NHS, it's actually scary that some of these people are allowed to vote!

love the idea of OP giving a work performance review and assessment of her DH 🤣

@ChampagneLassie If he works less, potentially something gets missed and someone dies. This includes the admin.

If he upsets someone, it can be really hard to get another job. Because the jobs are so specialised, suitable ones don't come up very often. If you are a hand orthopedic surgeon, for instance, they won't take you if they are looking for a spine othopedic surgeon. It's also a very small world, and everybody knows everybody.

@misteek That's hilarious. There is never enough admin staff. There's also a lot of admin - like clinical letters etc - that can only be done by a clinician.

@whatsappdoc No, it's quite possible that he's doing clinical work + admin in the evenings as well. Honestly, people have no idea at all what it's like.

surely if he is so important he will have a Secretary for Admin, whatever that entails,

And If he doesn't have the time in the week?

I'm sure you've posted about this a few times before, yanbu to be fed up with it all but you both need a serious talk about finding a solution.

Not a solution but I don’t think anyone should be working like this, it’s totally unreasonable and unhealthy. What if he just worked less? It’s only a contract what are they going to do? And look for something with better balance next.

Every evening because if he was spending them catching up on his admin for the day he wouldn't be spending Saturday doing it.

I think it sounds fair. When does your husband get any down time OP?

@pineapplesundae

how does one try to enjoy their life? Any tips?

Wouldn’t it be better to arrange childcare for Sunday (maybe a part-time nanny) so you can both have some down time. It’s pretty obvious he needs to recharge his batteries too.

For pity’s sake the man is working six days a week,which you’ve always known ,and you expect him to work a seventh.Poor bloke

Even low down managers work late, the higher up you go it is expected to work till 9pm most nights. It just becomes ‘normal’ within management field. Not sure I have ever met a manager that went straight home like clinical staff.

He has to work hard all week

For the 15th time, OP works. While she hasn't specified how hard exactly, she works. Plus takes care of her toddler 6 days and nights per week.

“Women! Know your place!”

Sounds like you’re hassling him unjustly. I would spend the bit of time I have when he’s there enjoying his company, not complaining. You said that you are near family; doesn’t that help? You have it better than your husband. He has to work hard all week and then spend hours on the road, to come home to a nagging wife. Try to enjoy your life

@Heather37231 I agree with you. I don't doubt they're over worked, but don't believe that volume of emails