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To open my window on the bus

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notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 12:17

It seems to be a mission for some people to fight to have all the windows on the bus closed, for all of every journey? Why? Before covid this wasn't an issue - now it seems people have a point to make.

I get there can be a chilly draught, but just put your coat on, or put your hood up?

I am immunocompromised, and wear a mask and open the window on my way to and from work. Every single time I get ill, ( currently a couple of times a month) my classes are left with non specialist agency staff. I take all the precautions I reasonably can to keep from catching anything, but this constant battle on the bus every working day is really wearing my down.

OP posts:
PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 22:23

Rachie1973 · 28/01/2024 22:15

Ah but OPs a teacher don’tcha know! Her job is the ONLY one that matters!

Waiting for the OP to ask what my father does for a living and the complete dismissal as it not being anywhere near as important as her Core Subject Teacher job Hmm

TerrysOrangeScot · 28/01/2024 22:21

I forgot some buses have windows that open. Our local buses now do not. They have the heating on in winter and AC for summer. The only window on the bus is the driver inside their cab.

Rachie1973 · 28/01/2024 22:15

betterangels · 28/01/2024 22:13

It doesn't seem to occur to OP that other people can be made ill by sitting in the cold. Other people's illness is clearly unimportant, and we're just silly.

Ah but OPs a teacher don’tcha know! Her job is the ONLY one that matters!

betterangels · 28/01/2024 22:14

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 21:48

My father has a severe lung condition where he cannot leave the house in the very cold weather, yes he has ended up in hospital with it. This is an immediate thing not "picking up an infection he could have got anywhere but is blaming the bus" but actually being taken in an ambulance straight away.

REAL consequences not some made up "this is what I think is to blame" bullshit.

As a result, I am now his carer and drive him everywhere because people like you think that your illness is worse than his. And you are asking when people became so self centred? The irony!!

Definitely this.

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It doesn't seem to occur to OP that other people can be made ill by sitting in the cold. Other people's illness is clearly unimportant, and we're just silly.

hummmmm · 28/01/2024 22:04

If they can't be in the cold how do they get to the bus stop and wait for the bus? 🤔

DontTouchMyDog · 28/01/2024 21:49

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 21:48

My father has a severe lung condition where he cannot leave the house in the very cold weather, yes he has ended up in hospital with it. This is an immediate thing not "picking up an infection he could have got anywhere but is blaming the bus" but actually being taken in an ambulance straight away.

REAL consequences not some made up "this is what I think is to blame" bullshit.

As a result, I am now his carer and drive him everywhere because people like you think that your illness is worse than his. And you are asking when people became so self centred? The irony!!

Completely support this comment. Some people who are immune compromised are seriously affected by cold and it could land them in hospital. That doesn't matter though, as long as OP gets her needs met.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 21:48

My father has a severe lung condition where he cannot leave the house in the very cold weather, yes he has ended up in hospital with it. This is an immediate thing not "picking up an infection he could have got anywhere but is blaming the bus" but actually being taken in an ambulance straight away.

REAL consequences not some made up "this is what I think is to blame" bullshit.

As a result, I am now his carer and drive him everywhere because people like you think that your illness is worse than his. And you are asking when people became so self centred? The irony!!

DontTouchMyDog · 28/01/2024 21:44

I've never come across this being an issue. Usually the bus driver has taken care of windows on any buses I've been on, and no-one changes it.

I think the problem is your sense of self importance, OP. No-one has a job that is as important as yours, or even more important, so they can deal with it. Your needs seem to come above anyone else's. Other people matter too.

Comedycook · 28/01/2024 21:05

I'm a big fan of fresh air anyway. Festering in a warm airless space makes me feel quite queasy.

Alicewinn · 28/01/2024 20:53

I always open the bus window, it’s revolting when it gets steamed up

Clafoutie · 28/01/2024 20:48

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 19:36

Well, there are quite a few pages I have not caught up on, but the vote at the front says it all really 60/40. This is pretty much what it is on the bus - about 40% of people want to sit by an open window, and about 60% seem to want every window on the bus tight shut.

Never mind that people could die of covid or flu or chest infections if the windows are shut, but suffer no more than temporary discomfort if the windows are open.

And no, don't try and invent some convoluted scenario in which someone is going to have their life put at risk by the windows being open.

This very strongly illustrates the sheer selfishness among much of the population. "I will put your life at risk to save myself from temporary discomfort" - and no doubt these people are the first to complain if their child does not have a teacher, or their parent does not have health care.

If I sound angry, it is because I am angry. How did we end up with such a self centred, self absorbed selfish population?

Tomorrow the battle will start all over again. I get more and more assertive all the time. I see so many other people over ruled and bullied when they are just trying to get to their place of work safely. I originally was quite meek and mild and backed down and even got of the bus quite regularly. Not now. If I don't stand up for myself and everyone else like me on the bus, then the city really will end up back to sending students home because there are no teacher, and sending elderly people home because there are no carers.

This forum is full of people describing the horrendous affects of the current viruses and bacteria going round. Weeks and months of incapacity in many cases, and multiple hospital admissions. Yet people don't want to take basic hygiene precautions - fine, get ill, whether you are immunocompromised or not, you don't want these germs, but go ahead and get them - just don't force everyone around you to take that risk too, just because you don't want a draught around your neck

I stand with you OP, though we will be very much in the minority 😔

BashfulClam · 28/01/2024 20:15

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 17:30

No one is getting hay fever in January

I’m not talking about January, I’m talking in general, I have allergy symptoms from April to September.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 28/01/2024 20:04

With all due respect hun
you're only a teacher
not a brain surgeon
and clearly no response to a suggestion that could
solve your problems and mean no more public transport

willWillSmithsmith · 28/01/2024 20:02

I think the rule should be, if you want the window above your seat open then you swap places with the person behind who doesn’t want it. That way the person sitting below it won’t feel the air but the person behind will, so it’s a win-win.

Freshstarts24 · 28/01/2024 19:58

If someone is going to die from an open bus window then they have no business being on a bus.

You are being ridiculous.

BassoContinuo · 28/01/2024 19:57

flea101 · 28/01/2024 19:56

Same here. I have mentioned this to op but they have chosen to ignore this!! One rule for them one rule for the rest of us it seems.

I mentioned it as well.

It probably comes under the convoluted reasons she doesn’t want to hear.

flea101 · 28/01/2024 19:56

mydogwantsabone · 28/01/2024 19:48

I'm asthmatic and my kids are asthmatic. Luckily their school doesn't have any policy about having windows open all day as there are plenty of times when they need to be kept warm. Otherwise they'd have to be kept home and unable to access their education.
I don't get the bus, fortunately for me, but a cold draught would set off my asthma and I could quite easily cough until I vomit or worse. I've ended up hospitalised multiple times with asthma attacks.
According to OP it's just a preference though.

Same here. I have mentioned this to op but they have chosen to ignore this!! One rule for them one rule for the rest of us it seems.

Mybusyday · 28/01/2024 19:56

SpidersAreShitheads · 28/01/2024 18:32

Oof OP.

Personally, I prefer open windows but your attitude absolutely stinks.

Firstly, given that you're apparently all masked up on the bus and schools are absolute germ pits at the best of times, the chances are that you're getting ill from where you work, and not from the closed windows on the bus.

Secondly, you do know there are other jobs that are just as valuable as teachers, right? And people doing those jobs may have serious health conditions which are exacerbated by the cold - even putting them in hospital, just like you.

@catelynjane listed a whole heap of serious medical conditions such as Multiple Sclerosis and arthritis which you dismissed as "not genuine". I am honestly speechless about how callous you have been.

COPD is another one to add to the list - the cold is a known trigger and yes, could put someone in hospital. Funnily enough, there are also immunocompromised individuals whose condition is made worse by the cold too.

Have a google and you'll find a very long list of medical conditions that are made worse by the cold, leaving people with extended periods of extreme pain, immobility, or hospital stays.

I have complete sympathy with wanting the windows open. I struggle with closed windows for a variety of reasons. But I'm not so selfish that I think my job, my wishes, and my health automatically trumps that of everyone around me.

I also think it's deeply ironic that you're complaining that no one cares about your health while you are displaying a shocking lack of care about the health of others, which may be equally as bad or even - gasp - worse than yours.

Well said 👏👏👏

Mybusyday · 28/01/2024 19:54

flea101 · 28/01/2024 17:55

Why does your health condition trump others that are made worse by the cold?

Exactly - everyone is struggling with something and some people can be so selfish

Mummy3Plus1 · 28/01/2024 19:53

The hypocrisy is hilarious. You are the one being self centered and rather obnoxious.

I am a teacher, I am immunocompromised, I am more important than you.

You are not.

You have chosen to ignore posts explaining how your open window can hospitalise them or cause them an insane amount of pain (including myself) but you ignore them as it doesn't fit your narrative.

You say you are tired of seeing people be bullied and then proceed to say how you plan to bully others into letting you have your way.

If you can't see just how messed up your argument is then no amount of AIBU posts are going to change that.

Mybusyday · 28/01/2024 19:52

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Same here

Mybusyday · 28/01/2024 19:51

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It was me OP was responding too and my condition is made worse by the cold

Mybusyday · 28/01/2024 19:50

lieselotte · 28/01/2024 17:40

If people get too cold, they can wear layers. If people get too hot, you can't exactly cavort around naked.

So the ones who want the windows open win.

I am cold no matter how many layers I wear

NoodleNuts · 28/01/2024 19:50

Wow, your attitude is astounding.

It is not just a bit of temporary discomfort for everyone who sits in a draft. Plenty of people have pointed this out but you are ignoring those posts.

I would also be interested to know what you teach, seeing as it appears that you are the only person in the country who can do it! Just leave - it is not your problem if your school cannot find a replacement for you.