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To open my window on the bus

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notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 12:17

It seems to be a mission for some people to fight to have all the windows on the bus closed, for all of every journey? Why? Before covid this wasn't an issue - now it seems people have a point to make.

I get there can be a chilly draught, but just put your coat on, or put your hood up?

I am immunocompromised, and wear a mask and open the window on my way to and from work. Every single time I get ill, ( currently a couple of times a month) my classes are left with non specialist agency staff. I take all the precautions I reasonably can to keep from catching anything, but this constant battle on the bus every working day is really wearing my down.

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ClairDeLaLune · 28/01/2024 23:25

Surely the people on the bus are dressed for the weather conditions whilst waiting at the bus stop? So they aren’t going to be cold on a bus with a few windows open. YANBU OP.

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 23:18

Pray theater because even in the depths of winter, you can be gasping for Breath, cheek by jowel standing up on a bus with water poring down the windows, stuck not moving.
I can't imagine that in summer, people will be fainting.

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 23:16

Measles is kicking off big time and you can still get it inspite of being inncoclatead, along with many other air borne diseases.

Who would want any of them if you can mitigate their risks with occasional window opening.

Theatrefan12 · 28/01/2024 23:13

Most of the buses on the routes near me don’t have any windows that can be opened or closed and it’s been that way for years

Most of the new electric buses are the same

So how will the OP cope if her buses change of design and she doesn’t have a choice?

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 23:13

@PyongyangKipperbang
I've had 3 close relatives with various disabilities and issues we had together work around in different ways when out and about.
In your dads case we would have snoods snd things because we have just come out of a pandemic.

I'm sure it's extremely stressful having a dad vulnerable in that way but other people are in need of fresh air for the same time reasons because they are immune compromised etc.

When I've been struggling with my relatives I couldn't expect others to understand their needs nor change their behaviour due to their needs.

The compromise is bursts of fresh air.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 22:58

Comedycook · 28/01/2024 22:55

I just don't understand if sitting on a bus with open windows is so dangerous for some people, surely that means they can't be outside at all?

Being outside in the cold was ok for my father if he was bundled up and breathed through a thick scarf for example. Gets on bus, takes scarf off, person in front opens window and a fast draught of cold air hits him in the face.....yes it causes real problems. Its why we cant risk public transport for him anymore. 99 times out of 100 its fine, but when someone like the OP, who is the only person in the world with a real illness, does this it has put him in hospital and on oxygen.

betterangels · 28/01/2024 22:58

Comedycook · 28/01/2024 22:55

I just don't understand if sitting on a bus with open windows is so dangerous for some people, surely that means they can't be outside at all?

Correct. Not in the cold for very long at all. That's the reality of some disabilities. Be grateful you don't know.

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 22:56

If the OP is as insufferable as this at work, I would imagine that her colleagues and students would be more than happy that she is off sick again!

Comedycook · 28/01/2024 22:55

I just don't understand if sitting on a bus with open windows is so dangerous for some people, surely that means they can't be outside at all?

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 22:54

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 22:50

Having regular open and closing windows won't make anyone instantly cold it takes time for the air to cool down and heat up. It takes moments to let proper air in and reduce stale air.

A cold draught straight through a window and into my fathers face can (and has) made him very ill very quickly, it stops him being able to breathe properly.

But hey, as long as the OP can get to work, who the hell cares right? In fact, why not call me a liar and laugh....oh no she already did that.

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 22:50

Having regular open and closing windows won't make anyone instantly cold it takes time for the air to cool down and heat up. It takes moments to let proper air in and reduce stale air.

Dismaljanuary · 28/01/2024 22:49

A cold draught!!. Fresh air!.. Even for a few moments every now and then windows should be opened definitely to clear the air.

Op I really feel for you, I struggle on short bus journeys and I run to open every other window if no one is on it.

Right in one of the lock down lulls we were on a hot train and we couldn't get a window open even though it felt like the air con was broken and no train staff had a key that worked.

Chichimcgee · 28/01/2024 22:45

@notknowledgeable you have a very apt username.

Ghentsummer · 28/01/2024 22:43

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:30

Don't be daft. I have arthritis myself. None of those things are going to mean you are incapacitated by sitting on a bus with a window open 😂

I'll be sure to tell my mum that. She will love to know that her experiences of her own arthritis where if she gets too cold she can't physically stand up are not incapacitating. Maybe she reacts differently because she is not a teacher and therefore not as special as you.

SpidersAreShitheads · 28/01/2024 22:38

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:30

Don't be daft. I have arthritis myself. None of those things are going to mean you are incapacitated by sitting on a bus with a window open 😂

Tell me you don't know anything about Multiple Sclerosis or COPD without telling me you know nothing about Multiple Sclerosis or COPD....

You realise both those conditions are life-limiting, right? And exacerbations can and do put people in hospital?

And exacerbations can be aggravated by the cold?

And you might want to have a word with the Arthritis Foundation as you appear to be the miraculous sole person whose arthritis isn't affected by the cold. There are reams of articles in medical journals dedicated to the importance of arthritis sufferers avoiding getting cold but I'm sure you know better.....

Your amusement at the seriousness of other people's severe medical conditions really just does underline what a thoroughly unpleasant individual you are.

If you'd come on here and said "I know other people need the window closed for their health reasons, but I need it open for my reasons and it's causing me no end of problems" you'd have received lots of sympathy.

But by refusing to acknowledge that ANYONE else might have a very valid medical reason to need to avoid the cold, you've just shown yourself up to be not only selfish but deeply ignorant.

iLovee · 28/01/2024 22:38

Lol. Also a teacher, also take the bus to school. You are totally insane and I feel incredibly sorry for your students. There is absolutely no way that schools are still implementing a window open policy in 2024.

Please either post the risk assessment or DM me a copy. At the very least, that part of your diatribe is total shite.

BassoContinuo · 28/01/2024 22:36

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/01/2024 21:48

My father has a severe lung condition where he cannot leave the house in the very cold weather, yes he has ended up in hospital with it. This is an immediate thing not "picking up an infection he could have got anywhere but is blaming the bus" but actually being taken in an ambulance straight away.

REAL consequences not some made up "this is what I think is to blame" bullshit.

As a result, I am now his carer and drive him everywhere because people like you think that your illness is worse than his. And you are asking when people became so self centred? The irony!!

Ah, but OP has said sitting on a bus with the window open doesn’t incapacitate anybody. So you must be imagining things. OP’s a TEACHER, don’t you know?

BassoContinuo · 28/01/2024 22:34

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:29

because there is no alternative

Try Access to Work. They might fund a taxi.

betterangels · 28/01/2024 22:34

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:30

Don't be daft. I have arthritis myself. None of those things are going to mean you are incapacitated by sitting on a bus with a window open 😂

Imagine being this dismissive of other people's health conditions but wanting consideration for yours at the same time. I guess I have to acknowledge the boldness of it, really.

Rainbowloverparentx · 28/01/2024 22:34

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:29

because there is no alternative

Taxis? Surely if this is such an issue and we'll documented via health care professionals you'll be eligible for PIP.

Unfortunately, if there really is no other alternative, you also have to think of others.

The bus is not aware of your circumstances nd therefore you also aren't aware if others.

Get a disability lanyard, that may help.

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:30

SpidersAreShitheads · 28/01/2024 22:28

*"Never mind that people could die of covid or flu or chest infections if the windows are shut, but suffer no more than temporary discomfort if the windows are open.

And no, don't try and invent some convoluted scenario in which someone is going to have their life put at risk by the windows being open. "*

Temporary discomfort???!

Convoluted scenarios??!

That's your response to the very serious medical conditions that PP are describing?? The medical conditions that could very easily land them in hospital or in severe pain and bed bound?

Multiple sclerosis, arthritis, COPD....I think I'd describe those as a little more than temporary discomfort.

Jesus fucking Christ. The level of your selfishness knows no bounds.

You're not the only person that matters. But you are the only one on this thread insisting that you're the most important.

Absolutely no point talking to people like you. Disgusting. Just disgusting.

May karma work its magic and jam shut every bus window you ever try to open....

Don't be daft. I have arthritis myself. None of those things are going to mean you are incapacitated by sitting on a bus with a window open 😂

OP posts:
Rainbowloverparentx · 28/01/2024 22:30

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 14:32

All the windows are open and I stay more than 2m away.

Do you have any proof it's from the bus though? You are a teacher.. Why is it the bus and no other factor in your life such as supermarkets etc?

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 22:29

Rainbowloverparentx · 28/01/2024 22:27

A car would likely be more beneficial?

I understand your situation but I feel its a big entitled ti believe the world revolves around you.

I don't understand why you are even using public transport if it makes you so unwell

because there is no alternative

OP posts:
SpidersAreShitheads · 28/01/2024 22:28

notknowledgeable · 28/01/2024 19:36

Well, there are quite a few pages I have not caught up on, but the vote at the front says it all really 60/40. This is pretty much what it is on the bus - about 40% of people want to sit by an open window, and about 60% seem to want every window on the bus tight shut.

Never mind that people could die of covid or flu or chest infections if the windows are shut, but suffer no more than temporary discomfort if the windows are open.

And no, don't try and invent some convoluted scenario in which someone is going to have their life put at risk by the windows being open.

This very strongly illustrates the sheer selfishness among much of the population. "I will put your life at risk to save myself from temporary discomfort" - and no doubt these people are the first to complain if their child does not have a teacher, or their parent does not have health care.

If I sound angry, it is because I am angry. How did we end up with such a self centred, self absorbed selfish population?

Tomorrow the battle will start all over again. I get more and more assertive all the time. I see so many other people over ruled and bullied when they are just trying to get to their place of work safely. I originally was quite meek and mild and backed down and even got of the bus quite regularly. Not now. If I don't stand up for myself and everyone else like me on the bus, then the city really will end up back to sending students home because there are no teacher, and sending elderly people home because there are no carers.

This forum is full of people describing the horrendous affects of the current viruses and bacteria going round. Weeks and months of incapacity in many cases, and multiple hospital admissions. Yet people don't want to take basic hygiene precautions - fine, get ill, whether you are immunocompromised or not, you don't want these germs, but go ahead and get them - just don't force everyone around you to take that risk too, just because you don't want a draught around your neck

*"Never mind that people could die of covid or flu or chest infections if the windows are shut, but suffer no more than temporary discomfort if the windows are open.

And no, don't try and invent some convoluted scenario in which someone is going to have their life put at risk by the windows being open. "*

Temporary discomfort???!

Convoluted scenarios??!

That's your response to the very serious medical conditions that PP are describing?? The medical conditions that could very easily land them in hospital or in severe pain and bed bound?

Multiple sclerosis, arthritis, COPD....I think I'd describe those as a little more than temporary discomfort.

Jesus fucking Christ. The level of your selfishness knows no bounds.

You're not the only person that matters. But you are the only one on this thread insisting that you're the most important.

Absolutely no point talking to people like you. Disgusting. Just disgusting.

May karma work its magic and jam shut every bus window you ever try to open....

Rainbowloverparentx · 28/01/2024 22:27

A car would likely be more beneficial?

I understand your situation but I feel its a big entitled ti believe the world revolves around you.

I don't understand why you are even using public transport if it makes you so unwell