To ask If you have terrible neighbours how do you cope?

We have had our fair share. We've been unlucky.
They move eventually.

We had a guy who had hot tub parties at 4am. Then he'd kick them all out and they would stand outside our house talking loudly and kidding themselves that he was meeting them in a minute. Lik fuck he was. They were there another hour before phoning for a taxi, chatting absolute drunken bollocks.
It became a running joke that our neighbour was the weekend slag pied piper.
Another neighbour expected me to be a childminder. She suggested we share our gardens. Erm...I don't think so.

Complain to whoever owns the house and keep complaining, hopefully they will at least start keeping an eye on their property more. Try and be out more. Put your house on the market and move.

i currently have new nightmare neighbour. If there not having super loud sex throughout the night and i mean loud and every night , there screaming at each other at all hours. There smoking weed which stinks the street out. They Sit outside at all hours talking really loud or blasting 80s love ballads with the patio doors and windows open. They are a bloody nightmare. I hate spending time in my own bedroom and back garden because of them. I used to love my house but since they moved in, they have really affected my happiness. Cant do much as they bought it.

I’m sure this kind of shit was far less of an issue 50 or even 40 years ago. Have people just become a lot more selfish and disrespectful?

Another random thought, if you have the letting agent's name and DoB, can you look them up on 192.com? If you have a vague location, likely to be local....They're probably ex directory though but maybe worth a try.

As you can tell, I was driven so mad by mine I investigated all avenues.....

Unfortunately, whilst there are ASB laws in place, these only work if you have reasonable people and guaranteed if your neighbours are causing issues they are by definition not reasonable people. If they rent you can contact the landlord but you are forever waiting for the noise to start again. It takes over your life and really effects your mental health. The only thing you can do with appalling neighbours is move ASAP.
I do not know what the solution is with people who are poor neighbours because they have to live somewhere. These days you really need to research the area you are planning to move to. Turn up at different times of day and hope that your neighbours do not sell up and move elsewhere.

My mental health has suffered terribly since we got new neighbours in December 2020. I won't go into the full ins and outs but he has an alcohol and anger management problem and the two don't combine well, he goes at the drop of a hat and we are his targets every time because I asked him twenty million times to stop blocking our driveway with cars.
We're desperate to move but after DH being made redundant and my business performing very poorly for the last two years, it's taking longer than we hoped. Shame because I loved this house and loved being in it. Now I hate being home when he's around and I'm scared to go in and out too much and run the risk of bumping into him in case I look at him funny 🙄
In the interim I've decided to try and take care of myself more this year because I can't go on with the heightened level of anxiety constantly. It's physically affecting me.

I own

My nightmare neighbours also own so there is no recourse unfortunately other than selling up an moving.

It can be utterly horrific. Issues include;

They have 3 dogs that are never walked, left out in the garden 24/7/365 & bark constantly

They rarely clear up the dog shit so it stinks

They hose their dog wee over their patio and it runs under my fence

ine dog is viscous and has broken through their fence into my garden and they do nothing to stop it...i have had to baracade it on my side but the dog savages the fence every time i walk in the garden

They have VERY loud rows with language that would make a tailor blush.dd has learnt some delightful words

They have the TV so loud I can hear it over mine

They play exceptionally loud music and sing louder along with it badly

They have drunked parties with weed smoking etc

And then they have the audacity to complain dd makes too much noise between 3pm and 6pm...she doesnt finish school in a village 5 miles away til 3.10 and is in childcare til 6pm cos I work full time

They have come round screaming abuse because they couldn't park outside their house...we live in terraced house with no off road parking. Apparently because they have lived here longer inhad to move my car so they could park near their house...err nope first come first serve.

We went away for a weekend, my parents had my dog (they live about a mile away) and we came home to the wife coming out the house to scream at me that my dog woke her up at 2am barking in the front yard. MY front yard isn't fenced in so the dog is never out the front alone...never mind the fact the dog wasn't here

Abused me on Facebook because the dog was barking at home and disturbing them...I have cameras so sent them the feed showing them the dog was sound asleep...they record whenever they capture movement...she hadn't moved in about 2 hours (she is very old). I phoned a friend and asked her to pop and get the dog, didn't tell neighbour. Dog was collected about 15 mins later...3 hours later they started more abuse the dog was distressed and yapping etc...my mate posted a picture back saying BS dog is in X village about 5 miles away!

They are CRAZY.

I think they wanted to buy the house themselves to extend theirs into it and were pissed off that my offer got accepted and theirs didn't.

I tried killing with kindness and after nearly 5 years inhave given up. We don't make excessive noise but I no longer curb dd from making noise and may have actively encouraged her trumpet practice in her bedroom whilst wearing noise cancelling headphones

I live in a poor area where more and more houses are turning into flats/HMOs owned by slum landlords. One bought a house near me last spring, promptly chopped down a beautiful miniature cherry tree in the front garden and did a ton of dodgy looking building works. It’s now occupied by a revolving door of tenants who sit out front smoking weed, doing drug deals and leaving litter strewn across the front garden. Oddly I can’t find any record of who owns it as there’s nothing on Land Registry.

I would approach your local councillor though, if nothing else it gets an issue raised. It's their job given council tax, to at least listen. As said, mine are actually really nice, and we have the occasional meeting with them as a group of two streets, where they've put action plans in place, engaging is better than not.

Were you our neighbours in Barnet?! Our upstairs neighbours forced out the next door people, we used to hide in our hallway so we could have secret strategy meetings! It was hell for a year. The next door neighbours moved, they were the attached semi, so no escape from the idiots and their music or the bloke throwing his girlfriend round the place.

We called the cops, environmental health etc. We sold up, I was gutted. It helped us buy a house, then a much better house, so kind of good long term, but it was horrific at the time. We spent a fortune staying out as much as possible. 🤬

Sorry op no advice as we eventually moved it was that bad (parties, drugs etc) Felt a bit shit for the new owners and still wonder if they had it as bad as us 10 years later.

That's odd. You could check Company's House I guess for him and the affiliation? It sounds a bit weird. Best of luck though, I know how it frazzles your metal health, I was hanging on by a thread at one point. No sleep, scared to leave the house in case they saw me, it wasn't good.

We just completely blank them. They blank us too. They hate us though, been here just over a year and they complain about everything to us it’s so petty so now we ignore them.

We plan to move next year though cuz they’ve really tainted our whole experience of living here.

It took me over a year to settle and not be freaked out by every sound from the street or neighbour once we moved.

I’m 6 years on, now in a detached house, and I still tense when I hear loud voices outside or a car with loud music passing.
We also need to move/downsize due to health & all we can find are semi’s. I get in a panic just thinking about the prospect after the hell I went through.

We moved.

We went to one of those "free legal advice for 15 minutes" things, and the lawyer said, "Move." He was right. All the other, nice neighbours struggled with them too, but just one bad lot made everyone's lives difficult.

We put up with it for some time, hoping the obnoxious neighbours would move and we wouldn't have to, but instead we got a second lot of obnoxious neighbours moving in at the other side, and that decided us.

Do you know the letting agent's company name? If so, they'll have a website with contact details. Good luck.