To ask If you have terrible neighbours how do you cope?

@tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz - I'm really sorry to hear this. When I was going through it everyone thought they had an easy fix and as if I hadn't thought of it. In part because people are naive and also it's never happened to them. Even when people witnessed it they just left me to it.

I reported it, rang the police, begged with them to stop, sent my bf round, tried doing it to them. Nothing worked but my mental health got worse.

I sold and lost money to go but I appreciate not everyone can. It took me years to stop getting upset by loud music and shouting.

I think there is an impact. I was always on edge and it's taken a long time not to be jumpy. I'm not quite there yet.

// absolutely this @zenzenz

So much fun f this thread resonates with me ... and yes having to live with this makes you quite unwell both physically and emotionally. You begin to hate your home. Lots of helpful people will tell you to move but we can't all afford to do that. Plus, if like us the issues includes a neighbour who uses his front garden as a skip which never gets emptied ... as a buyer would you want to buy my house?

Its fucking miserable and I hope there is a special place in hell reserved for people who treat their neighbours with such disrespect

@TheaBrandt - I don't think it's being snobby we just want to live with quiet, decent, respectful people.

I was amazed with my last neighbours who made noise all day and night on one side and would scream from 3am the other side that they hated others noise. Noise like mowing the grass or someone's doorbell. So it was alright for them to disturb everyone and push me to a nervous wreck.

I wish them both the same now they've moved.

Yes and if you didn't like each other you politely ignored each other .

We were so anxious before exchange we hung around in the road our current house is for a few evenings. It was blissfully quiet. The only sound we hear from our current neighbours is gentle conversations about plants and odd clink of glasses. As opposed to gangsta rap /screaming /out of control dog barking and loud drugged up gatherings of undesirables. I am extremely snobby about where I will live now.

15 years on still appreciate my lovely quiet
normal considerate neighbours. We moved to top of our budget area so live in a place where people know how to behave decently. Sorry if that makes me a snob but having experienced the alternative that’s how
it is.

It’s awful. Really awful and having experienced it I have extreme sympathy for anyone with awful neighbours. Sorry to sound melodramatic but it is like torture. You have no peace in your home then are on the alert for it starting up again.

@Itsacrazyworldisntit - I did too. It did such a number on my mental health it took years to fully recover. I wish it happens to them (particularly as they were both very noise sensitive when others were just mowing the lawn).

My husband's mental health really deteriorated.

We moved, and have never been happier

We sold up (at a loss) and moved. Nobody should have to live like that.

@bluewanda - it didn't happen so much years ago. We all still lived our lives but we had respect. Even when I was a student we were quiet at night at home because other people didn't want to hear the noise.

I always lived in terraced houses and we never heard our neighbors.

I've been through two nightmares with neighbors and the last lot were the worse.

Not overnight.....but gradually over the last 20 odd years in my experience.

AddictedToBooks · 29/01/2024 17:09

Got a disabled space outside my house as my mobility is really bad and will be worsening yet when the council painters came to paint it in, the neighbours from opposite (who NEVER speak to me and know nothing about my life) came rushing out and were demanding the painters stop.

Fuck
Ing
Hell!!

I can only hope that he crashes his car.

You do have to declare any formal concerns with neighbors but most people don't have formal concerns and just sell up. Going around at different times of the day, asking locals what the area is like and knocking on doors is really good. I'd just say that you were checking the area because you are very quiet and need to live somewhere quiet.

I haunted this area and had a friend who lived close by so I knew it was quiet. I am soothed by sitting in my home again.

I’m desperate to move because I hate my neighbours and I have become obsessed with every little thing they do as I worry it will impact us in some way (eg having dangerously big fires in the garden). I’m worried that I won’t get my house sold before the summer as then I’ll have to put up with the worst behaviour for months. No one will buy this house in the summer as they will hear the neighbours and be put off. The previous owners tried to sell for 4 years until us mugs came along. When I eventually do sell, I am going to knock on the neighbours doors to introduce myself with any property I like and want to buy. Will they think I’m weird if I say I’m checking to see if the house has nightmare neighbours before I make an offer?? 😆

One side is ok the other side look down their noses at us and don't speak unless they want something. But they could be worse at lot worse