To want to give this prize back after 6 months.

So YOU forgot about the school event and YOU asked for double the tickets?

Can't see that the kind donor has done much wrong, really...

This one is on you OP.

Complete CF to double the prize. Mist people woukd have taken it as itcwas meant, I.e.if you gave one ir to other children etc.

Secondly "don't hold unconfirmed date". Absolutely unnecessary and could have been worded better.

As the prize giver, I would be well fed up of you now snd would simply response with "I have 4 tickets for the 8th or the 24th...can you let me know when 24 hours which you wish to use"

I'm pretty certain he won't be offering a similar prize again.

B, but without the embarrassed bit. I'd say sorry must have misunderstood when you said we could have extra. Four is fine.

I CBA with this tbh. I wouldn’t go if it was me. If you do go, then I would defo make a comment about him saying extra tickets were fine - but as others have said, he probably wont even remember who you are..

You've had a lot of faffing about just to get to this point so just go. Swallow your pride and go.

He is clearly a poor communicator if he had of said "I won't be able to confirm until closer to the time"....he would not have gotten your back up.
It's interesting you think he is metaphorically clicking his fingers and watching you jump into action. I know VIP tickets can be last minute so that thought would have not crossed my mind.
It would be a treat for your son to experience VIP. Go, don't go - its clearly made you angry enough to spend time on this so I can't see how you will be civil to him on the day. I just hope you let your son go.

Yes this !

Making a big deal of it will just embarrass whoever is with you and he'll not remember anyway.

You aren't going to get any closure, so just take the free tickets and try to enjoy the event as much as you can.

Do not under any circumstances email the school about this unless you fancy your family being social pariahs.

Your best bet is to send an oily email "Oh that's wonderfully kind, thank you, we will be there on 12th. Looking forward to it."

Take the tickets and go, and when you see him at the event, thank him profusely and say “I’m so sorry for asked for extra tickets - when we won the raffle you mentioned you might have more, but that was so long ago that maybe I got the wrong end of the stick! I’m mortified if it made me look greedy.” Just keep it lighthearted and it will all be fine.

My guess is that when he offered more, he maybe meant “The prize is four tickets but obviously if you’re a family of five or six, I’ll arrange enough for you all to go” rather than “Have as many as you want and invite your friends”. But it’s really no big deal, don’t overthink it and just go along and enjoy the day.

I mean it was prob a bit cheeky to ask for 4 extra tickets instead of maybe one or two

but I’d email back something like

‘brilliant thanks so much. It was really kind of you to donate the prize and to offer us extra tickets in addition- we really appreciate it and are looking forward to the event. ‘

Oh lord just tell him to stuff it, what a time-waster!

This. Just go

I know the type. My guess is that he'll have no idea who you are when you get there and will have no recollection of ever meeting you before. It's his problem, not yours and it's kind of funny if you choose not be be annoyed about it.

As it's a one off event just take the tickets and go enjoy yourself. You can laugh about it all when you get home

That’s the vibe I’m getting too. OP is being unnecessarily nasty because she made a fool of herself by asking for four extra tickets!

Seems like you have a problem with his wealth and are jealous of his status at the school.

You are a CF for asking for DOUBLE the amount of tickets he probably meant one or two not to bring a whole gaggle along.

If your nose is that put out don't go you clearly have a issue.

This makes me think of those people who give you vouchers as presents, e.g. a night's babysitting. And then, when you try and pin them down to a day and time it's incredibly difficult to arrange a date and they leave you with the distinct impression that you are massively inconveniencing them...

You’re the one who was cheeky asking for double the number of tickets offered. So why are you being so nasty about him?

Is there actually 8 in your family or have you invited another family too?

You asked to double the prize and had an attitude about it - 'I don't hold unconfirmed dates'.

You sound like you've been quite unpleasant to deal with tbh.

You're going to look petty or that you've been messing him around, and you've obviously already invited the 7 other people so you'll be messing around and disappointing them too. Just go.

From what you've said I'm guessing he's a C-level kind of person. In which case they usually come across abrupt as their default setting. It's nothing personal, it's how they communicate because they're very busy. If he wanted to refuse to do 8 he would have done, because these people always like being in control and having the last say (which is why you have the snippy comment).

I bought something like this at a charity auction, the holder messaged me offering a range of dates, I picked one and that was that. He sounds a bit disorganised/ busy. I wouldn’t read anything into it about lording it up. Just do A. I think asking for double was a bit cheeky, but just do it don’t go down the embarrass route. He’s said yes, stop reading so much into everything

What? He's literally offered the prize 😂

So he's donated an expensive prize to make himself look good to the school and curry favour, but has no intention of actually following through. He has made it very difficult for you to use the prize with his lack of communication.

I would hope you have an email trail, remind him in this that he told you you could have more tickets, but say that if that is an issue, you will happily use just the four that you won. Say you were disappointed that you missed the early dates that you requested due to lack of communication, how constantly having to chase him has taken the shine of the prize, and perhaps he should consider this before offering this as a prize in the future as it's clearly causing him an inconvenience.

Then I would copy in the head teacher. He's not doing you a favour, if he couldn't deliver his prize, he shouldn't have offered it.

Just go. He's been less than helpful with his vague 'as many as you like' attitude and having ignored your emails. He should have been clear and efficient. He's not the 'lord', just thoughtless and disorganised.

He was rude and disorganised. I'd use him. Take the tickets and go. Acknowledge him when you're there, but enjoy it with your family.

Just go and chalk it up to this man being a prick.