To want to give this prize back after 6 months.

Just say thanks.

Or if he’s the type of person I’m imagining, encourage your DH/ DP if you have one to be in charge of future dealings with him.

He does sound very disorganised. In fact he sounds like a particular Dad whose son used to be in my son’s class (and was the class bully).

So why didn’t you ask for 10 more tickets? Or even 15? Where’s the line for you between accepting an offer and taking the piss?

This. I would have assumed he meant if you had a larger family or whatever, not effectively doubling so you can take extras.

I'm cringing at you asking for 8 tickets - double the original prize. He probably meant if you had 3 kids he could make it 5 tickets.

To ask for double does sound pretty rude.

There is a lot of cap doffing here with people claiming it'ss 'so rude' to actually take someone up on an offer. I find this depressing. the guy said it because he meant it - why would anyone presume otherwise.

Its bad manners that the OP had to chase him at all -

Why though? He was under no obligation to say yes. It’s ok to ask for things.

The fact you asked for double the number of tickets is cheeky AF. I'm not sure you've really been wronged here.

I'd go. Why disadvantage yourself because of his crap behaviour. Just reply, saying thanks it's appreciated and it sounds like he might have forgotten your conversation where he offered additional tickets, but you'll note for next time if you ever win again.

I feel bizaarely angry on behalf of the OP here. She has done nothing wrong!

the man said very clearly - it's not a big deal if you bring more people - he stressed that very specifically to her. He didn't need to say it and he said it - he didn't say - I could add a couple more tickets - he said 'it doesn't matter to me if you bring more than 4 just let me know'

Quite clearly he will literally never think about this again as he barely considered it while she was trying to get the tickets!!

the fact she has been left feeling embarassed is on him and his poor manners.

why though? If someone offers extra, surely believe they mean it. If they don’t mean it, they shouldn’t offer.

Would Op feel better if she offered the school an extra donation for the extra tickets? Hope she enjoys the game.

Since this is over email (they will keep it), make sure you explain where the 8 tickets came from. let the email be dignified on your end.

”They will keep it”?! 😆😆 This thread gets more and more deranged. It’s a corporate event giveaway that the giver forgot about. He’s not going to take the OP to court to try to prove he never offered her eight tickets.

Also - and I can’t believe I’m having to point out this very basic fact again - he gave her the eight tickets!!!

I agree.

I think even if someone offers extra it should not be taken up, if you wanted to bring more than the four then pay for the extra without mentioning to him that more are coming with you .

He's a generous but busy person and the dates were swapped around a bit.
All ended up fine so just go. Attend, enjoy and thank the fellow face to face - especially for giving you eight tickets when normally he offers four. Shout him a beer.
There is no way he would remember exactly the conversation from months ago.

Did you indicate the number you wanted in your first e-mail?

Yes, asking for double the amount of people is a piss take tbh.

you've done nothing wrong. this is someone who is very rude and making you chase a prize you won. I think you should take the 8 tickets, but give him the opportunity to decline (he will look like a bigger dick). But be very (polite) clear in the email it was because he offered 8. Don't say "i'm embarrassed", when he should be embarrassed. Since this is over email (they will keep it), make sure you explain where the 8 tickets came from. let the email be dignified on your end.

it's all got too awkward so I'd say thanks, but you're no longer available and don't ask for alternative dates or make any reference to him offering more than 4 tickets. 8 tickets does sound like a lot to ask for, but equally, he has made you feel small, which isn't nice, and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the event, so I think just move on and forget it.

I'd never of dreamed of asking for double the amount of tickets ,never
So that will be why you feel uncomfortable

Cheeky to ask for 8 tickets , super rude not to reply to emails. I’d be a C to be honest.

It's just basic etiquette to realise that even with a vague comment like this there is a line somewhere though. Would it have been fine if op invited 15 people? 30?

It seems obvious to me that meant 1 or 2 more tops

I would go with B. At least it sounds to be a proper prize.

I went to a craft fair, years ago. I was heavily pregnant at the time and also had a toddler in tow and was immediately grabbed by a woman to sign up for a prize draw.
A couple of months later I got a letter saying I'd won 1st prize...! I was chuffed to bits.
Turned out the prize was for a family photo session at a special discounted rate. Turned out the cheapest it was going be was £90.

I politely declined . Wish I'd pointed out that it wasn't a prize.

Also, there being another two adults doesn't necessarily mean they've invited another whole family along too; it could be the children's grandparents.

it was ‘there is plenty of space, bring who you like ….except on this one date’.

See, I don't get why everybody is saying that OP is a CF by asking for another four tickets. If he'd said "We miiiiight be able to stretch that number if necessary", then yes, of course; but he clearly threw the invitation wide open. You wouldn't normally stress 'plenty of space' meaning you could squeeze one more person in.

I agree that a lot of people donate grand prizes so that they look good themselves, but then can see it as an irritation when the winners actually want to use it.

The favour was in donating the prize to the fundraisers in the first place (although there's an argument that it maybe wasn't a favour at all, but just buying PR); it is not a continued favour to make good on it to the people who bought a ticket (thus also supporting the charity) and won it.