To want to give this prize back after 6 months.

I think you should tell the school, you can phrase it carefully, say you feel there has been some miscommunication when you were trying to arrange your prize tickets and the date has now passed, please let me know if there is an alternative prize offered as the children are really disappointed to have missed out. Much appreciated…

Oh, how crap. You really should mention it to the school, this person is a prat and needs to stop offering prizes for raffles that he doesn’t provide.

I'd email back and not mention feeling embarrassed but just say "apologies, you did offer extra tickets when we spoke, if this is now an issue the original 4 will be fine." Then take the tickets and go and enjoy yourself.

Ahhhh that's pretty annoying.

I'd be a bit pissed off if I was you OP especially as no mechanism to go back to anyone and say the CF didnt actually donate anything to the raffle.

What a total pain.

Out of interest what was the event? Sorry you missed out.

I used to chair the PSA, we had a raffle winner start legal action, as we pulled the prizes in the wrong order.

The school will have a gaming licence (or should) to run the raffle, and they have unwittingly now been put in a position of breaking the terms of that licence.

Part of the conditions are that you have to report back the value of the prizes against the amount taken in the raffle (has to be a certain % of value), so again, that’s school in a difficult position

Oh what a prick! Did you tell the school?

Don't say you are embarassed. Just say “Apologies for the misunderstanding.”

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Definitely feed that back for next raffle.

Make sure you do it with the haughtiest, most smug look on your face you can muster too. Extra points if you add in a supercilious tone, “I donate to charity all the time, and I wouldn’t dreeeeeeaaaam of expecting praise for it”.

Just go. Enjoy the event and talk to him only when needed. If he feels the need to keep pointing out he donated the tickets just point out politely that it’s for the good of the charity and no praise should be needed!

I would just forget the whole thing and move on as if it never happened. Sounds like he offered the extras but didn't really think you'd take him up on it... like when you bump into a vague acquaintance and promise to 'do lunch' or whatever, both fully knowing it'll never happen.

It would probably be easier for all concerned, rather than making a point of officially returning the tickets or making the other point of chasing double the number of original tickets - I would think both options have the potential to end in animosity.

Option b I am sure he will respond and still offer 8 if he wants to

I don’t think you were one bit cheeky! He offered as many tickets as you would like during the face to face conversation at the time and then when he eventually answered your emails he again asked how many you wanted so you were totally within reason to say 8 please.
He has been so rude here, you shouldn’t have had to ‘chase up’ your prize. He obviously didn’t mean it when he offered extra tickets but you weren’t to know that he’s full of BS!
Put it in context of a physical prize. If I offered a crystal vase as a prize for the school raffle but told the organisers to have the winner contact me for collection afterwards instead of giving them the vase to display on a prize table… weird anyway but let’s go with it… and then the person who won the case had to repeatedly email me to ask for it, even message my spouse to see if the unanswered email maybe was undelivered. I’d be mortified to carry on like that.
Take the 8 tickets. If he chats to you at the event make sure to say ‘thanks again for offering the extra tickets back at x event, so generous of you’ and then steer clear.
if you try to explain yourself it will look like you think you need to excuse your actions which you do not. He is the one who should be apologetic. Actually I would make a point of telling everyone I met how he offered the extra tickets… then he can hardly go around giving out about you being cheeky asking for them!!

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Ugh, I’m embarrassed but FOR HIM. Not you, you’ve done nothing wrong. He just wanted all the glory of giving the flashy prize but doesn’t want to come through on it. £100 says he’s pulled this stunt before.

I would take the tickets with your head held high and, if he’s there, don’t mention anything about ‘being embarrassed’ just enjoy your day. Say a quick ‘thanks’ if you want but leave it at that. You took HIM up on HIS offer, remember that.

OP i think you should go. You won the damn prize for four tickets. Take them and go!

Don’t overthink think this. Take the eight tickets and thank him very much. You might add an apology for misunderstanding about additional tickets. If you become too disagreeable, he may choose not to offer tickets in the future.

Ha! Well either he and his wife have multiple Mumsnet accounts, given that several posters have disagreed with the OP. Or maybe, just maybe, some people simply think the OP is in the wrong.

Given he took as long as he did to answer an email, I think I can work out which it is.

He does deserve a slight reprimand for being so patronising. B sounds perfect