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To be sick of saying yes?

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Willow39 · 21/01/2024 20:20

Sick of my mum asking me to do stuff constantly.
Every day she'll ask me to do mundane errands for her that she is perfectly capable of doing herself. Whether it be 'pick this up from the shop for me'
'Can you go check that your nans heating is on'

She is unemployed and has been since I was born so it's not like she is super busy during the day and can't do these things. My parents are well off and comfortable in their late 50s living the dream basically and on holiday every month or so! My mum is in perfect health, drives and can do everything herself, so why am I expected to do this..

This evening, she's asked me to go to Tesco, pick some stuff up and drop it round to my nans. She lives closer than me to my nan (her mum) so not sure why I'm being asked! I told her I was unwell and she said 'but you went out with your friend last night and you're on your phone so you can't be unwell.' I left early last night feeling very sick and have been in bed all day today. I told her that I can't because I'm unwell so she'll have to and now she's in a huff with me for being selfish because she's had to go out as I 'can't do her a favour'

UGHHHHH

I'm fuming, why can't she do it herself?!

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KnowledgeableMomma · 21/01/2024 20:33

You have every right to be fuming but if you have always said yes, what incentive does your mom have to stop asking? Time to start saying no.....for your sanity.

Snowydaysfaraway · 21/01/2024 20:32

Make a group chat with her and df in. Let him see the constant nagging you endure...
Have some pre prepared replies handy. Keep to the same few... She will come to predict your answer and hopefully stop asking..

Holidayhell22 · 21/01/2024 20:28

I would send a text and tag your father in.
”No I can’t. You can do it.”
Rinse and repeat.
She sounds incredibly lazy.

Lammveg · 21/01/2024 20:22

I think it's just going to be a case of saying no. Simple to say but hard to practice I know. If she gets annoyed with you saying no, oh well, she's an adult I'm sure she can handle some big emotions.

Willow39 · 21/01/2024 20:21

For context, I am 27, live away from home, receive nothing from my parents and work full time... She lives about 30 minutes away from me

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