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To not want my 9yo playing 18-rated games?

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Porcuine20 · 20/01/2024 18:56

My ds best friend (they’re both 9) has recently started playing 18 games like Call of Duty, GTA. His parent are the ‘cool’ type and have no problem with this, they’ve bought the games for him… however I do have a problem with my 9yo playing them at his house, as I don’t believe he has the maturity or understanding - he’s a child. Friend’s mum makes out I’m being overprotective (in earshot of my ds) and my ds is annoyed and embarrassed that I won’t let him play those games… AIBU or is she?

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takealettermsjones · 20/01/2024 19:05

I can't speak to how graphic Call of Duty is, but I wouldn't be opposed to a war game per se.

But GTA is chock full of gratuitous violence, gore, blood, torture, sex scenes, prostitution, horrendous language... probably more.

Zero chance would my kids be playing that at 9, and if that makes me a party pooper, well, 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nttttt · 20/01/2024 19:04

On the most recent GTA you can go to a strip club and touch the topless women whilst they give you a lap dance. You have to stop yourself from the security guard seeing you…. Yanbu for not wanting this.

Sexual harassment of women, violence and crime. Big no.

FrenchandSaunders · 20/01/2024 19:04

She’s mad. No way would I allow this.

I had similar years ago with a friend putting inappropriate films on. Stand your ground.

sharptoothlemonshark · 20/01/2024 19:04

As a teacher , absolute no. I have known many children left disturbed or traumatised by this sort of exposure - quite often its the ones with parents who describe them as "mature" enough who are in reality stunned and numb

missmollygreen · 20/01/2024 19:03

YANBU, I have played GTA, it is not suitable for a 9 year old

Sirzy · 20/01/2024 19:02

Ds is 14 and wanted to download an 18 rated game this week and my answer was a flat no. From 16 onwards I may consider it with research into the individual game but no younger!

Longwhiskers · 20/01/2024 19:01

I have a 9 yr old boy and there’s no way he would be allowed on 18+ games. YANBU

Mcemmabell · 20/01/2024 18:59

Oh man, you definitely aren't being unreasonable. You have a right to choose what media your child engages with, particularly when it's violent, misogynistic and glamorises criminal activity. Not sure why anyone would be cool with a 9 year playing this kind of stuff. I'm a teacher and if a child of this age in my school said they were playing GTA I would be like wtf.