To be worried about my babies development?

I’d take him to the GP. Of course you don’t think he should be “just like his brother”. I’d be concerned too. I’d see the GP and be prepared to do it again in a few weeks if there’s still no strength in those legs.

My DC failed the asq at 10m and again at 12m so has been referred to a Portage service, which is early intervention through play. The HV referred us and warned the referral would take months but we had an initial visit within 3 weeks!
My DC is crawling but only started pulling to stand at 12.5months and still isn't cruising at 13.5months.

I have been really, really worried and googling like mad, but it just seems like time will tell if there's an underlying issue or if DC is just doing it in their own time.

My son was the same. His ASQs were awful. He had hypermobility. He saw a physio on the NHS. I'd fill in the ASQ and take it to the HV. If you can't get in touch with the HV, take to the GP. Request physio. If this is denied, refer to the ASQ and point out the instructions for referral on the scoring sheet (you can find these all online if you Google).

I absolutely would push for a referral however it still may be completely normal. My friends DC only ever bum shuffled, he couldn't weight bear at all then just walked at 21 months. He had various checks but they all said he was fine, and he was.

I'm a HV (yes I know we are hated...) and it's only the lack of weight bearing that would concern me so I would do a physio referral. A paediatrician wouldn't be interested in seeing a child who hadn't seen a physio in the first instance. The social skills etc again a paediatrician wouldn't be concerned until the child was at least 2 and then they don't accept a referral unless there are other issues such as global developmental delay or health needs

Hi

You've described my ds at that age. I was a ball of anxiety and pushed for every specialist opinion and intervention as I knew something wasn't right.

He's 6 now and Dyspraxic with SPD (and potential ADHD but on the pathway).

Thriving with support in mainstream, with SaLT, OT and intermittent physio. Will be assessed by Ed Psych at 7 for potential SpLD and we may go down route of Behavioural Optometry as he has some problems with visual perception.

Crawling is such an important milestone not just for physical development but for all of the other senses too including vestibular and proprioceptive. In our case lack of crawling and pulling himself to standing was one of the first signs something was different.

If you think something's not right, from experience do all you can to advocate.

My DS was classed as 'GDD' but he's developing at his own rate and a happy, loving, funny, kind boy, despite all of the intervention he's had.

My DC was exactly the same. He was just a bit hypermobile, according to the physio we were referred to, at 16 months.

The health visitor dismissed my worries (nicely) up until that point. I think nursery may have given them feedback, as they were also worried. He never even bum shuffled, and often fell over from sitting.

There was no real need to worry though - a few months later he was up and running, like flicking a switch.

Worth seeing a physio though, she was very reassuring.

Mine was the same, they’re autistic.
But also, it’s perfectly within the range of normal, crawling isn’t a milestone and as long as they are showing the intention to walk by 18 months it is considered normal.

My youngest is 21 months and still can't get up really from lying down, she has to roll a bit and then pushes herself up, nobody is concerned. She has never crawled, just bum shuffled at 13 months, took her first steps at 19 months. A bit behind in most things compared to my eldest, she's caught up now though and right where she should be at almost 2. She coincidentally started walking the day after we got a date for her physio appt!

I would go see your GP instead if you're worried. It easy for everyone to say that all babies are different but sometimes it needs further checking

Some very dismissive posters here, I’m sure op knows not all babies are the same. But a babynot weight bearing at 12 months does sound like he’s benefit from a referral (physio). Have you been given a date for the 12 month check yet op? If not maybe see the GP who might be able to refer him

Hi OP. My daughter wasn’t pulling to stand by 12 months and I remember she got referred to a physio because of that. He said within minutes of seeing her that she was slightly hypermobile (bendy) and would need a little more help to do that kind of thing. However within weeks she was pulling to stand and she was walking by 16 months. So basically I think you would be within your rights to insist on a physio referral - but I’m very hopeful about the fact that your DS will be just fine.

Is it completely normal for 12 month olds to just be rolling and not be able to sit themselves up, crawl or cruise?

I can understand your worry OP and I am sure there are lots of parents that are here to support you.

Speak to your GP and ask for some advice. You have the ASQ to back up your observations and they should know where to go from there. It may be that your DS needs some more support, or you might find some reassurance in their assessment.

I think most babies do most of the things, even those that are slightly behind the curve.. my children have been considered good or average in every area and the HV has questioned me about each of the few they couldn't do. Strange that yours isn't

Has the HV done a developmental check with him? I think mine all had them between 9-12 months. That should highlight any difficulties.

I too would be worried op and all my children have done things at similar but different stages and we’re all crawling and cruising by 7-8 month’s which I know is early but if one hadn’t done anything by 12 months I’d worry too. I think you’ best making an GP appointment so they can assess him, hopefully it’s nothing to worry about but you do right by getting him checked out.

Go and get another opinion. He may well be within the extremes of normal but there's no point waiting to find out if there are things that could be done to help him. Try the GP, or if he goes to nursery the staff there may be able to suggest ways to help

My grandson did not sit until two years. He propelled himself along by commando crawling his upper half and dragging his legs. He started walking a couple of moths after learning to sit but was very unsteady (still is). He's three years now.

My daughter could not get an appointment with the hv or gp for love nor money. This was during covid.

She had a virtual consultation with a developmental specialist who assured her nothing was amiss. The blue episodes which he'd had since birth were behavioural breath holding.

Since found out that he has hypotonia, global development delay and epilepsy ( which was in fact responsible for the blue episodes, which still happen regularly).

When my daughter eventually got a hospital appointment she was not taken seriously when she described his symptoms.

The diagnosis took two and a half years. Waiting for speech and language therapy and ASD assessment.

OP - go with your gut.

Rather than the language, social skills and crawling, I would be concerned about a 12 month not yet bearing any weight. I would ask for a referral.

I’d want him reviewed. He might be absolutely fine and catch up or he might need physio/OT and just watching and waiting may not benefit him. Definitely do asq and say there is a clear delay and you want an assessment/support.

What @Midnightgrey said.

If I'd listened to all the people telling me my concerns were unwarranted when my second child's babbling dropped off around 12 months she'd not have got the intervention she needed when she needed it. Get in front of a paediatrician- if there actually is nothing amiss, you haven't lost anything.

My DD didn't crawl, pull up or seem to weight bare until she was 14 months, she then did it all within about a month. If you're really worried then see the GP but it sounds normal x