Living with my boyfriend of 2 years and I'm getting sick of the way he lives. If it's relevant, we have a 60/40 split on bills as he earns more than me. He works from home full time, I am hybrid. Our agreement for chores is that he shops for, plans and cooks all our food and takes the bins out. I do laundry, keep the house clean and do the dishes. I made it very clear that by cleaning, it doesn't mean I'm his maid who will pick up after him and he has to do the basics still. Ie flush the toilet, rubbish in the bin, put dishes in the sink.
But this is what I deal with...
Towels strewn all over the house and dumped wherever he's taken them off? On the sofa, kitchen table, bed etc. if he ever 'hangs' them up he just twists and crumples them really weirdly so they'll never dry
He'll use the kitchen tea towels to wipe food off the sides even though we have kitchen roll? I don't want to dry my hands on a tea towel covered in bolognese sauce lol!!!
Rubbish left on the coffee table, kitchen sides etc instead of being put in the bin, empty glasses/plates left everywhere, shoes in the middle of the hall, tissues everywhere!! Coasters never used so our furniture is damaged. He won't take the empty toilet roll off the holder and change it, he'll just leave it there, take another roll and leave it on the floor.
He doesn't even flush the toilet every time! Every other day he leaves piss in the toilet as he just hasn't bothered to flush it. Every time I find it like that I walk up to him and ask him to flush but it doesn't seem to get into his head. I know if I ignore and flush it then it will just continue so I bring it to his attention when he does.
He is very agreeable and sorts it out whenever I point it out but it doesn't stick. I feel myself becoming the 'nagging woman' but how on earth am I meant to get him to sort this out? I feel like they're just small things but it really annoys me when he does this!
He also has a nasty habit of just feeding our cat off our plates instead of being bothered to wash her food bowl? It's just pure laziness. I asked why he always uses our plates and he said 'because it's bad for a cat to eat off something dirty.' To which I replied, wash her bowl then! If I'm out for the day, I'll come back to 3 plates on the floor where he's fed the cat and not picked any up?
How do I train my boyfriend to do these little things? Do I need to start giving him treats when he remembers to flush the loo or what? 😂