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To never ever buy from Snag again?

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:06

I'm just beyond disgusted and feel I need to vent.

I've always liked snag tights. I bought vouchers to save them in Lockdown, have spent hundreds with them. Liked their products and ethos- inclusive and female led.

Yesterday I went on their website, can definitely say it's my fault that I clicked on their NSFW collection, but I didn't expect what I found. Patches saying ' chke me' and 'cMSL*t'. Maybe I'm just a pearl clutching prude but I found these really offensive and not what I expect from a company with their ethos. I've put a pic below.

I posted in their Facebook group which I'm on highlighting that I thought this was a misjudgement on their part, that these were very misogynistic, and fed into a culture of violence against women which claims the life of a woman or girl every 11 minutes.

They declined my post and sent me a reply which I'll attach- I'm kink shaming apparently.

I find this really reprehensible and never want to spend a penny with them again!

I never thought I was prudish, whatever adults do between themselves is up to them, but I don't really want to buy from a clothing provider who is promoting this- aibu!?

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RobinEllacotStrike · 18/01/2024 08:58

Snag are clearly Horrible misogynists who make great tights.

This is where "liberal" "feminism" takes us.

I use Better Tights now too.

Goldenpashmina · 18/01/2024 08:55

baubletits · 18/01/2024 08:38

I "know it is"?

When my sister's partner flattened her against the bed and had his hands around her throat strangling her in a drug induced rage, you think that was his "kink"? You have serious problems if you think that.

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You are being deliberately obtuse if you cannot see the difference between an assault and a consensual sexual act

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Princessfluffy · 18/01/2024 08:41

One woman is killed by her male partner every two weeks in the UK by strangulation. But god forbid these men might feel shamed. We need to be talking about the normalisation of strangulation of women by men a whole lot more in my opinion.

Boomboom22 · 18/01/2024 08:38

Anyone on twitter should reply to her smash the patriarchy comment asking how condoning choking fits in with that. It's the usual corporate bullshit, pretend to care about women and also tw and bdsm to get all the business. If she really cared about the patriarchy she wouldn't take her business in this direction. Similar to Michelle mone in morals perhaps.

baubletits · 18/01/2024 08:38

Goldenpashmina · 18/01/2024 08:32

According to who? You and I both know it is, whether you like it or not

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I "know it is"?

When my sister's partner flattened her against the bed and had his hands around her throat strangling her in a drug induced rage, you think that was his "kink"? You have serious problems if you think that.

Goldenpashmina · 18/01/2024 08:32

baubletits · 18/01/2024 07:47

Men strangling women is not a "kink"

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According to who? You and I both know it is, whether you like it or not

Lulalola · 18/01/2024 08:17

@Wanna17 What an imaginative response. Whatever anyones feelings are about that site, as I said the thread is an eye opener to what this company are really like and what they support

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 18/01/2024 08:06

Popsy also do brilliant tights, they fit really well and loads of colours. I prefer them to Snag.

Astridspuzzle · 18/01/2024 08:02

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 17/01/2024 22:46

I did buy from them once but found the sizing bizarre. Then they started focusing on men and I have to say I turned off from that point. There is far more choice out there. Leave Snag to the fetishists.

This is my experience too. I now buy from Better tights.

baubletits · 18/01/2024 07:47

Goldenpashmina · 17/01/2024 19:35

Goodness me there must be more worthy causes for you to direct your indignation towards? It was something you literally directed yourself towards that was clearly labelled NSFW!

If you don't like the product, don't buy it. You are kink shaming. Consenting adults can buy this stuff if they like.

I buy from snag and will continue to do so. I've no interest in bdsm and their NSFW stuff but I definitely don't begrudge others purchasing it and snag selling it.

Men strangling women is not a "kink"

baubletits · 18/01/2024 07:29

Bibbidybobbidyroo · 17/01/2024 17:17

Please search before you create yet ANOTHER post about Snag that always ends up either getting zapped or just becoming really vile.

I suggest Better Tights as an alternative.

The end.

I'm glad she posted, I wasn't aware of their new products at all. I've been meaning to order a few new pairs of tights from Snag but I'll be avoiding them like the plague now.

Princessfluffy · 18/01/2024 07:05

I've always had huge issues with stock from Snag. Either I can't order what I want as it's out of stock or I order it and then they don't send it as it's out of stock.

Promoting choking is in my opinion dangerous, irresponsible and misogynistic. I'm delighted with the suggestion for an alternative company to use.

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 17/01/2024 22:46

I did buy from them once but found the sizing bizarre. Then they started focusing on men and I have to say I turned off from that point. There is far more choice out there. Leave Snag to the fetishists.

MiniPumpkin · 17/01/2024 22:18

How vile , thanks for the heads up op

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 22:07

@Doublethecookies I've addressed your other points above I think but I want to clarify I never personally said anything about tights being sexually deviant on men.
I feel like I can't really say that put me off as I bought half their Jamie collection.
I wanted tights, I was quite happy to see (even sexy tights) on any kind of body, I however was not happy at all to see misogynistic slogans designed to be worn.
Did not think tights company NSFW = fetish site. Colour me surprised.

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ObliviousCoalmine · 17/01/2024 22:00

Doublethecookies · 17/01/2024 21:20

The tights for men aren't fetishwear and are on the normal site. Why shouldn't men wear tights? Especially wool ones for hiking that's a really good idea.
It doesn't equate with some sexual thing for men to wear tights..
This op is both kink shaming by going onto a site that sells fetishwear and saying it shouldnt because she thinks that fetish is disgusting.....and managing to be sexist and weirdly fetishizing tights themselves on the main site by suggesting if they are worn by men it somehow becomes sexually deviant.

Thank god for someone else with some sanity.

thecrispfiend · 17/01/2024 21:59

That is absolutely disgusting, I will definitely not be buying from them again thanks for highlighting x

MouseMinge · 17/01/2024 21:51

Thanks for all the Better Tights recommendations. I've bought from Snag quite a lot in the past but nope, I don't like those stickers one little bit. Better tights looks great and they'll be getting my money in the future.

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 21:48

Milange · 17/01/2024 21:35

Where is the link to the nsfw site on the normal site? I’m looking but I can’t find it.

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It was admittedly not a direct link- on their community page it links to the Instagram and FB page for the NSFW area- I clicked through to the Instagram and the link in bio but didn't actually see the images because of how it loaded in the browser. I wasn't actually looking for this, just idly browsing and curious!

Below are two posts from their Instagram: what I expected Vs what I didn't!

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 21:36

Look, I'm not going to comment on the men or the size of the models. I just don't want to derail this or dilute the message when I am specifically talking about violence towards women.

I'm really grateful for some women on this thread who have shared their own traumatic experiences and I'm so sorry and also so in awe of your strength to be able to be so candid to highlight why this is a real issue.

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Milange · 17/01/2024 21:35

NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 21:32

I would totally understand if I had gone to Love Honey or to a fetish outlet. To be clear I know people have kinks and fetishes in their private lives and there will be many things on sale I would probably be mystified and horrified by! I'm not demanding a puritanical revolution where it is banned from sale.

I know some women are into submission or certain fantasies of control- but I totally don't agree with sexualising violence towards women being perpetuated, made mainstream or normalised. If that is kink shaming then fine, guilty as charged, I don't find glamourising abusing and killing women sexy and if you do I think you should keep that to yourself.

However again, I was looking at the NSFW section on an inclusive Female CEO led tights company, that I previously loved to use to dress like an Eccentric primary school teacher, who only today were hashtagging #smashthepatriarchy - it was not at all what I was expecting to find.

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Where is the link to the nsfw site on the normal site? I’m looking but I can’t find it.

TwinFireSigns · 17/01/2024 21:34

I'd be horrified if LoveHoney were selling 'choke me' merchandise too @NotMyTights - it's not 'just a kink'. It's a frightening shift in misogyny and violence.

TreadLightly3 · 17/01/2024 21:34

Thanks @NotMyTights i will never buy from them again either. Appalling

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 21:32

Doublethecookies · 17/01/2024 20:56

@Flickersy honestly I think some people just live to be outraged...
you wouldn't walk into a fetishwear store and then demand it be closed down because it offends you.. I mean wtf?
whyis it any different on the Internet? Go to a site that clearly says NSFW and sells sexualised clothing and then get offended by what you saw. Ridiculous.

I would totally understand if I had gone to Love Honey or to a fetish outlet. To be clear I know people have kinks and fetishes in their private lives and there will be many things on sale I would probably be mystified and horrified by! I'm not demanding a puritanical revolution where it is banned from sale.

I know some women are into submission or certain fantasies of control- but I totally don't agree with sexualising violence towards women being perpetuated, made mainstream or normalised. If that is kink shaming then fine, guilty as charged, I don't find glamourising abusing and killing women sexy and if you do I think you should keep that to yourself.

However again, I was looking at the NSFW section on an inclusive Female CEO led tights company, that I previously loved to use to dress like an Eccentric primary school teacher, who only today were hashtagging #smashthepatriarchy - it was not at all what I was expecting to find.

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Goldenpashmina · 17/01/2024 21:31

Shizzlestix · 17/01/2024 20:08

At what point did I say that?! They use morbidly obese models and promote this size as ‘normal’. Imo, completely the wrong message. Very poor practice.

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No they don't, they're not the bleedin' NHS. They are just using models that represent their target market, duh!