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To never ever buy from Snag again?

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:06

I'm just beyond disgusted and feel I need to vent.

I've always liked snag tights. I bought vouchers to save them in Lockdown, have spent hundreds with them. Liked their products and ethos- inclusive and female led.

Yesterday I went on their website, can definitely say it's my fault that I clicked on their NSFW collection, but I didn't expect what I found. Patches saying ' chke me' and 'cMSL*t'. Maybe I'm just a pearl clutching prude but I found these really offensive and not what I expect from a company with their ethos. I've put a pic below.

I posted in their Facebook group which I'm on highlighting that I thought this was a misjudgement on their part, that these were very misogynistic, and fed into a culture of violence against women which claims the life of a woman or girl every 11 minutes.

They declined my post and sent me a reply which I'll attach- I'm kink shaming apparently.

I find this really reprehensible and never want to spend a penny with them again!

I never thought I was prudish, whatever adults do between themselves is up to them, but I don't really want to buy from a clothing provider who is promoting this- aibu!?

To never ever buy from Snag again?
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FakeHoisinDuck · 17/01/2024 18:15

Exactly.

DogualCat · 17/01/2024 18:14

What’s transphobic about not wanting strangulation, a dangerous act that claims the lives of women by abusive men, being fetishised?

Why do we, as women, now have to live in a time where nothing is just for us anymore? I don’t want to see men with bulges showing off tights. I don’t want to have men being awarded women of the year awards. I don’t want men using women’s spaces. I’m not transphobic, I’m a woman who wants women to have our place in the world that isn’t taken over by men in various forms time and time again.

FakeHoisinDuck · 17/01/2024 18:13

I think "Lady" is more concerned about apparent transphobia (I thought trans people distanced themselves from agp/pervert men who get off on wearing womens clothing and exposing themselves anyway?) than they are about subjugation of women and women being choked and dying. And the normalisation of that.

Says a lot really.

GeneCity · 17/01/2024 18:13

That's disgusting - I haven't been a fan of Snag or their tights for a while, but that's horrific.

Just when you thought you could shop for a pair of tights with your kid sitting next to you, huh.

lifeturnsonadime · 17/01/2024 18:11

Seems that SNAG cares more about the boys than the dignity & safety of women.

Portakalkedi · 17/01/2024 18:10

Don't know what that acronym is but a reputable company should not be selling stuff like that to anyone.

fedupandstuck · 17/01/2024 18:10

@LadyGrinningSoul85 Mumsnet don't monitor anything. The model the chat forum uses relies on users to report posts, rather than proactive moderation. If you find posts here transphobic then report them using the Report option.

LadyGrinningSoul85 · 17/01/2024 18:08

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DyslexicPoster · 17/01/2024 18:05

I like snag to however I wouldn't want to identify as a cum slut or wear clothes made for cum sluts so on that basis it puts me off. I increasingly look at Snag and don't want to identify with their core customer base really. They do like the shock element don't they? So many other sites now offer what they was unique for. I do still like their tights. Not sure it will stop Mr buying from them. I'd not recommend them to my daughter though

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 18:01

MorningSunshineSparkles · 17/01/2024 17:43

Tbh I don’t really care that much. I’m there for the tights, not the add ons. Sure they’re to someone’s taste or they’d not be selling them

Well I'm glad you live a life where you have not had to experience violence or it's aftershocks.

I have worked with traumatised women before, and normalising this kind of language and way of being treated DOES make women doubt themselves and delay leaving in situations where their lives are at risk.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 17/01/2024 18:01

They stopped any chance of getting my money some time ago. Unfortunately it's everywhere. I like to report knicker reviews from AGP's to M & S. The other day I actually had to do one on Bon Marche. It seems nowhere is safe from the pervs.

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:59

stitchy · 17/01/2024 17:55

It's just pure try-hard, cool-girl, dick pandering misogynistic crap dressed up to seem progressive.

I'm tempted to yank their chain though and complain about how offensively hetero-normative they all are and just centre the penis. Where are their clit-slag patches?

Yeah it's funny that- there are more patches and they are all about the domination (and degradation) of women, not men!

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:58

ManateeFair · 17/01/2024 17:24

Really not sure why you'd need to ask 'AIBU to stop buying things from a company I don't like'. You're an adult. I'm sure you can make that choice for yourself just like everyone else.

Fair enough I'm having a good rant and a flounce because I genuinely thought they would at least acknowledge my concerns and I was flabbergasted!

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Sallyingon · 17/01/2024 17:56

Absolutely revolting. I didn't know what nsfw meant. I will have a look at Better tights

stitchy · 17/01/2024 17:55

It's just pure try-hard, cool-girl, dick pandering misogynistic crap dressed up to seem progressive.

I'm tempted to yank their chain though and complain about how offensively hetero-normative they all are and just centre the penis. Where are their clit-slag patches?

Wishitsnows · 17/01/2024 17:49

Disgusting misogyny and promoting the strangulation of women is horrific

VeryHungrySeaCucumber · 17/01/2024 17:47

"Choke me". From any company, any time, 'NSFW' or sex-clothing/sex-equipment company or not, no. Big red flag.

And... safe, consensual BDSM - ie as it should be, whatever else it involves - does not involve choking ie strangulation, we need to get away from the idea it does.

I'm definitely no prude but there are things I won't condone/put up with.

Snag, you're pathetic.

WonderfulCheese · 17/01/2024 17:46

I can just imagine my five year old seeing this on someone's bag in a cafe and asking me to explain.

Awful.

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:45

Flatulence · 17/01/2024 17:29

While I personally don't like those items, they're sold on a site not just marked "nsfw", but called nsfw. It's a bit of a giveaway that it's going to contain some very 'adult' items.
If an adult wishes to buy and wear these patches then that's up to them andSome people are into BDSM and the like; it's a pretty common "kink" as kinks go. Ann Summers is on loads of high streets with window displays of pretty lingerie but inside it sells whips and handcuffs and the like. Snag NSFW isn't really much different. If you don't like it, that's fine - don't give them your money.

Hi I've addressed this in my previous comment and do acknowledge I was a bit naive.
When I got to the landing page I was like oh sex toys, who'd a think! Not offended by that whatsoever, though felt an odd thing to branch out into, but these patches in my view should not be sold by a company who specifically state their ethos as smashing the patriarchy. It's a complete contradiction.

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DogualCat · 17/01/2024 17:44

They have moved from being a company who made underwear for plus size women to one that glorifies fetishism and degrading women. Their NSFW Facebook page is fetishist AGPs in their grotty houses posting pictures of themselves in tights and showing off their pathetic bulges. The choke me patches are just vile, that’s not being sex positive and feminist. It’s making money out of something dangerous. Ask a woman who has been a victim of attempted strangulation as a form of domestic abuse if the patches are empowering, I doubt you’ll get a positive response.

MorningSunshineSparkles · 17/01/2024 17:43

Tbh I don’t really care that much. I’m there for the tights, not the add ons. Sure they’re to someone’s taste or they’d not be selling them

Sussurations · 17/01/2024 17:41

Every time I read or hear about them they seem to have narrowed their potential customer base.

sprigatito · 17/01/2024 17:41

Oh damn, I was about to do a really big order from them with my Christmas money from relatives Sad I'm glad I saw this in time. Not in a million years is a penny of my money going to a company that peddles this vicious pornsick misogyny.

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:39

Sparklesocks · 17/01/2024 17:15

Is it not from their NSFW site (separate to their main site) - not excusing it but it seems to be sex clothes and BDSM accessories based rather than just on their main site alongside the tights.

https://snagnsfw.com/

Yes this is where you can blame me, and I guess the reason I'm actually beginning to doubt regardless of my disgust whether I'm unreasonable.
I seriously naively thought it was going to be suspenders, stockings, dress up- I'm going to the rocky horror show and thought ooh I'll have a look.
The branding across the two sites is the same and the nsfw Instagram and Facebook linked on the 'normal' site, so didn't understand that they are perhaps supposed to be so separate! Regardless I don't think you can be all to everyone- and can't claim you're fighting the 'fashion patriarchy' when you are selling that elsewhere.
I wasn't aware of controversy and other threads- more fool me!

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