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To never ever buy from Snag again?

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NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 17:06

I'm just beyond disgusted and feel I need to vent.

I've always liked snag tights. I bought vouchers to save them in Lockdown, have spent hundreds with them. Liked their products and ethos- inclusive and female led.

Yesterday I went on their website, can definitely say it's my fault that I clicked on their NSFW collection, but I didn't expect what I found. Patches saying ' chke me' and 'cMSL*t'. Maybe I'm just a pearl clutching prude but I found these really offensive and not what I expect from a company with their ethos. I've put a pic below.

I posted in their Facebook group which I'm on highlighting that I thought this was a misjudgement on their part, that these were very misogynistic, and fed into a culture of violence against women which claims the life of a woman or girl every 11 minutes.

They declined my post and sent me a reply which I'll attach- I'm kink shaming apparently.

I find this really reprehensible and never want to spend a penny with them again!

I never thought I was prudish, whatever adults do between themselves is up to them, but I don't really want to buy from a clothing provider who is promoting this- aibu!?

To never ever buy from Snag again?
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SquirrelSoShiny · 17/01/2024 21:31

forgivingfiggy · 17/01/2024 21:29

Happy to kink shame if it means that shite like 'choke me' badges don't become normalised by society.

Domestic violence charities state that a woman who is choked by her partner has a vastly increased chance of being murdered by him. It's one of the first questions they ask to assess risk in a DV situation. I'm not happy with my daughters growing up thinking that a bit of choking is totally fine and something the cool girls do.

This.

RaininSummer · 17/01/2024 21:30

Urgg. Snag are vile now.

forgivingfiggy · 17/01/2024 21:29

Happy to kink shame if it means that shite like 'choke me' badges don't become normalised by society.

Domestic violence charities state that a woman who is choked by her partner has a vastly increased chance of being murdered by him. It's one of the first questions they ask to assess risk in a DV situation. I'm not happy with my daughters growing up thinking that a bit of choking is totally fine and something the cool girls do.

DarkRipePlum · 17/01/2024 21:23

I don’t want to buy from them anymore either - can anyone suggest an alternative to their chub rub shorts? They’re fab for under dresses in the summer.

nevermind, just realised better tights do them too and not just tights. Yay!

Doublethecookies · 17/01/2024 21:20

The tights for men aren't fetishwear and are on the normal site. Why shouldn't men wear tights? Especially wool ones for hiking that's a really good idea.
It doesn't equate with some sexual thing for men to wear tights..
This op is both kink shaming by going onto a site that sells fetishwear and saying it shouldnt because she thinks that fetish is disgusting.....and managing to be sexist and weirdly fetishizing tights themselves on the main site by suggesting if they are worn by men it somehow becomes sexually deviant.

Wanna17 · 17/01/2024 21:19

Lulalola · 17/01/2024 17:27

Not allowed to link it here but I suggest looking at the snag thread on tattle to see what this company are really like and what they support

Why would anyone want to go anywhere near the vile, cesspit that is tattle?

NotMyTights · 17/01/2024 21:18

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 20:50

@All2Well @Bibbidybobbidyroo - thank you!

To be honest, I wouldn't have known that meant stuff like 'choke me'. I'd have thought crotchless tights 🙈

EXACTLY MY THOUGHTS! 😆 obviously I'm just too vanilla

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Milange · 17/01/2024 21:17

Flickersy · 17/01/2024 21:11

I actually think these are pretty cool. Not fetishy, but I admit I'm not an expert in that area so maybe I'm missing some sort of terrible deviance.

snagtights.com/collections/official-acotar-tights/products/acotar-tights-silver-legion

Surely LARPing isn’t a fetish, I’ve only ever known extremely straight laced LARPers!

Flatulence · 17/01/2024 21:17

Shizzlestix · 17/01/2024 20:02

Gotta say, I’ve gone right off them recently. Their glamourising of extremely fat models sits very poorly with them, along with their constant cry of ‘no size is the wrong size’ mantra. They actively promote morbidly obese women which nobody can say is healthy. I say this as someone overweight, I’m not sitting here looking like a mainstream model!

This nsfw, particularly the ‘choke me’ patch is appalling. Bye bye, Snag! Not getting another penny from me. 🤬

Snag aren't saying very fat women are "healthy" they're simply acknowledging that they exist and need clothes to wear.
The idea of "promoting" obesity is ridiculous. I say this as someone who is overweight. I've never looked at pics of Tess Halliday and thought "oh that's okay then, she's much fatter than me" or "sure would like to be as fat as she is!".
If you think "no size is the wrong size" is a fallacy, what do you think is the "right" size? Or is there a "right" range? And how does that translate between a 4ft 8ins woman and a 6ft 4ins woman?
The reality is that fat women and very fat women exist and they buy clothes.
If a company sell clothes that fit those fat bodies, it's reasonable that people with a fat body see what those clothes might look like on their body.
I'm a size 18 (and 6ft; desperately hoping that's the "right" size) and when I buy some jeans a pic of Kate Moss doesn't really show me what those jeans might look like on me, but a model who's a size 14 or a size 20 gives me a much more reasonable idea. I hadn't realise that seeing a woman with a big bum and a big tum looking happy in her pants made the size 10s of this world dash out to buy KFC and lard.

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 21:14

@Flickersy

Those are definitely not the type of pictures I'm referring to. Agree that those are pretty cool!

Flickersy · 17/01/2024 21:11

Milange · 17/01/2024 21:08

https://snagtights.com/collections/all-tights/products/wool-walking-tights-silver-lining

This and two others like this are the only pictures of me I can find on their main and nsfw websites.

It must be the social media (which I don’t do, because it’s universally full of rubbish).

I actually think these are pretty cool. Not fetishy, but I admit I'm not an expert in that area so maybe I'm missing some sort of terrible deviance.

snagtights.com/collections/official-acotar-tights/products/acotar-tights-silver-legion

SlashBeef · 17/01/2024 21:09

Yuck. Thanks for the heads up OP. I spent all day hoiking up my snag tights that my mum got me to try. Will try Better Tights next!

Milange · 17/01/2024 21:08

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 21:03

I haven't been on the Snag site for a long time so it may have changed, but I have absolutely seen numerous images of men in their products,

They have definitely changed their target audience over the last few years,

https://snagtights.com/collections/all-tights/products/wool-walking-tights-silver-lining

This and two others like this are the only pictures of me I can find on their main and nsfw websites.

It must be the social media (which I don’t do, because it’s universally full of rubbish).

Merino Wool Tights - Silver Lining - Snag

Ethically sourced Wool tights. Made from the finest Merino Wool, these tights will keep your legs warm. In grey, these tights are the most perfect neutral to keep you cozy. Shop our Winter tights range on Snag. Tights that fit sizes 4 to 36.

https://snagtights.com/collections/all-tights/products/wool-walking-tights-silver-lining

Flickersy · 17/01/2024 21:03

Flatulence · 17/01/2024 21:00

Presumably I'm "dressed like a man" right now as I'm in tracksuit bottoms and my husband's hoodie.
If a man wants to wear rights, why not? To this day, Tim Curry in fishnets in Rocky Horror is one of the most wondrous sights I've ever seen.

Tim Curry in lipstick, fishnets and a corset was an absolute revelation.

LimePi · 17/01/2024 21:03

Sorry you ARE kink shaming
its not your job to police what other women find arousing
Jesus, the woke police now going after sexual fantasies 🤦‍♀️

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 21:03

I haven't been on the Snag site for a long time so it may have changed, but I have absolutely seen numerous images of men in their products,

They have definitely changed their target audience over the last few years,

Doublethecookies · 17/01/2024 21:02

@Skeletonythings

It's fetishwear. It's clearly not promoted as 'everyday' as it's on a separate website clearly labelled NSFW
It's not like they are trying to sell it to kids.. or even to adults just wanting tights. It's a completey separate website that's labelled

ireallycantthinkofaname · 17/01/2024 21:01

BattyOwl · 17/01/2024 17:13

I'm with you OP. Their tights could be sold for a tenner and made from pure spun gold and encrusted with diamonds and I'd still not buy from this revolting company

Reminds me of the time they used some overweight bearded bloke to coquettishly gaze at the camera in a pair of their tights. Literally gross.

They're more interested in not offending blokes. That's the long and short of it

their social media platforms are run by a man, they aren't marketed solely towards women

Flatulence · 17/01/2024 21:00

Bibbidybobbidyroo · 17/01/2024 19:05

What does dressing like a woman mean?

Presumably I'm "dressed like a man" right now as I'm in tracksuit bottoms and my husband's hoodie.
If a man wants to wear rights, why not? To this day, Tim Curry in fishnets in Rocky Horror is one of the most wondrous sights I've ever seen.

Milange · 17/01/2024 21:00

Flickersy · 17/01/2024 20:53

Why can't men wear tights? You don't need to be a woman to wear them. There seems to be some outrage on here that there's a shop catering for men's tights and I'm not really clear why.

Had no idea about this NSFW site. Can't say it appeals but I'm not outraged by it.

Indeed. All clothes are for all people- to buy into the idea that tights (or any clothing)=only for women just reinforces the tra gender essentialism ideology

ie, that there are clothes/activitys/toys etc that are assigned to one gender only, therefore if you like those things you must be that gender.

It’s particularly important in terms of all the ‘trans children’ we have now- just children who like what they like, but adults tell them that means they must be a boy/girl.

Flickersy · 17/01/2024 20:59

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 20:56

Men can wear tights.

Men have worn tights for years for running, under clothes for warmth, etc.

snag's men in their imagery wear tights for sexual gratification and are photographed provocatively in them,

Fine for them to do that, but most women just wanting to buy tights for practical or fashion purposes don't usually want to have to wade through cocks and balls to find them.

snag's men in their imagery wear tights for sexual gratification and are photographed provocatively in them

You have zero proof for the first half of that sentence.

As to the second part, aren't most of snags photos pretty provocative (male and female)

most women just wanting to buy tights for practical or fashion purposes don't usually want to have to wade through cocks and balls to find them

It's a good job they're not wading through anything by looking at a unisex website then isn't it. Can't say I've ever found myself ankle deep in penis from looking at tights but your mileage may vary.

Skeletonythings · 17/01/2024 20:59

Doublethecookies · 17/01/2024 20:56

@Flickersy honestly I think some people just live to be outraged...
you wouldn't walk into a fetishwear store and then demand it be closed down because it offends you.. I mean wtf?
whyis it any different on the Internet? Go to a site that clearly says NSFW and sells sexualised clothing and then get offended by what you saw. Ridiculous.

It's not that it's sexual content everyone is objecting to, it's the normalisation of sexual violence and on a product designed to be attached to everyday clothing and bags.

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 20:58

I don't think people are moaning about the clothing, are they?

More about the morals of a company that originally purported to be women-centric, now promoting men in women's spaces, and logos and badges that beseech 'choke me'.

TwinFireSigns · 17/01/2024 20:58

Bibbidybobbidyroo · 17/01/2024 20:49

There are other websites who target those sorts of buyer (like Better)

they know their target audience and it’s not us. That’s ok.

Snag have changed direction then - originally they were targeting women like me (in my 30s, plus size, wanted colourful tights). I felt like they were in the Lindy Bop kind of category, inclusive and alternative and a bit offbeat.

Bibbidybobbidyroo · 17/01/2024 20:58

CantFindTheBeat · 17/01/2024 20:56

Men can wear tights.

Men have worn tights for years for running, under clothes for warmth, etc.

snag's men in their imagery wear tights for sexual gratification and are photographed provocatively in them,

Fine for them to do that, but most women just wanting to buy tights for practical or fashion purposes don't usually want to have to wade through cocks and balls to find them.

You absolutely don’t have to wade through anything - it’s 99% women models.