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Ormside · 17/01/2024 16:07

The abdominal surgery must have been pretty huge to expect a fortnight stay in hospital. I had a total gastrectomy and total vagotomy and only stayed ten days.

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RosesAndHellebores · 18/01/2024 23:14

If it is bulimia related then it's all rather resonant compared to Diana's history. I don't think the royal family would have let it get so far without earlier interventions.

JudgeJ · 18/01/2024 23:05

Wearegettingfedup · 18/01/2024 19:06

Oh god ,that’s made me laugh 😆

I look forward to your laughter when breast cancer 'joke's are made by the simpletons.

moomoomoo27 · 18/01/2024 23:04

Whazzabanger · 18/01/2024 22:42

She’s fine. She’s in there 2 weeks because she rich, it’s like a hotel so why not, and she has a zillion staff to take care of her kids. Plus, she doesn’t have a real job to go too.

she doesn’t have to leave after a couple of days because someone else needs the bed, or because she can’t afford to stay.

why would she want to?

presumably she wants to actually see her kids, especially when she gets to do all the fun stuff with them and not the hard stuff and they're mostly in school anyway.
and people will talk about it for ages and it will be all over the press for ages and she'll have 0 privacy.
and she doesn't get to be herself in there, she has to be on perfect royal behaviour all the time and everything she does will be scrutinised and commented on and judged, even if it's not sold to the press
people our age are driven crazy by being in bed for a long time, especially when sporty/active normally.

it's weird that you're talking about major surgery and staying in hospital as an aspirational thing, Munchausen much?

Indifferentchickenwings · 18/01/2024 23:00

Toptotoe

i believe you
I hope this isn’t what she has, as that would be really sad

it’s rather depressing how the media know this and have signposted it

i also agree that the palace really could have communicated , and made less of the two weeks - better as a PP said

Lesina · 18/01/2024 22:54

What does it matter? She isn’t dying.So what does
matter. Her family will be bringing her chocolates and copies of cosmo. She’ll be fine.

There are people freezing to death on
our streets. Freezing to death. We need to look where our focus is.

Bobblypumpkin18 · 18/01/2024 22:53

If those plasters were because of bulimia they would be on her knuckles not her thumb or the lower parts of her fingers.

Toptotoe · 18/01/2024 22:53

FatBack2023 · 18/01/2024 22:46

But hang on
You say "I think her bulimia has become severe..." as though you know she had bulimia.
Do you know she has it?
Why would bulimia explain the plasters on her fingers on that link you shared?

the sun article is one of many over the years. The press have been questioning about her plasters for a long time - saying how 'accident prone' she is.
Russell signs ( cuts to hands and fingers) iare a classic symptom of Bulimia Nervosa. Go and do your own research if you are that interested. Or you could ignore themes likely explanation. I don't care . . .

Catsarelikepringles · 18/01/2024 22:52

FatBack2023 · 18/01/2024 22:46

But hang on
You say "I think her bulimia has become severe..." as though you know she had bulimia.
Do you know she has it?
Why would bulimia explain the plasters on her fingers on that link you shared?

In MY case it was from making myself vomit.

FatBack2023 · 18/01/2024 22:46

Toptotoe · 18/01/2024 22:34

There are so many pictures and articles relating to her wearing plasters on her fingers going back years ( Russell's signs) that I think her Bulimia has become severe and she may have done herself some damage.
https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/9135479/kate-middleton-plasters-duchess-bradford/

But hang on
You say "I think her bulimia has become severe..." as though you know she had bulimia.
Do you know she has it?
Why would bulimia explain the plasters on her fingers on that link you shared?

Whazzabanger · 18/01/2024 22:42

She’s fine. She’s in there 2 weeks because she rich, it’s like a hotel so why not, and she has a zillion staff to take care of her kids. Plus, she doesn’t have a real job to go too.

she doesn’t have to leave after a couple of days because someone else needs the bed, or because she can’t afford to stay.

Whazzabanger · 18/01/2024 22:39

‘Well, he is my King. I'm a subject and have no choice in the matter.’

Jesus wept. The sooner this lot of ‘royals’ get downgraded down to the occasional state appearance the better.

DreamTheMoors · 18/01/2024 22:23

Ormside · 17/01/2024 16:38

I wasn't fishing to find out I was simply expressing concern. For a planned surgery it seemed a long predicted stay. I've had several major abdominal operations and have a life limiting condition, the only ones I stayed that length and longer were for very emergent reasons.

Maybe the surgery is major or minor - we probably will never know. It’s none of my business. Maybe she needs a rest and this is the only legitimate way she can get one without people banging on about “Where’s Kate??? It’s been 6 days - it’s been 9 days - it’s been blah blah blah.”
Living one’s life as a glamorous public figure does have its drawbacks.

Appleofmyeye2023 · 18/01/2024 22:15

poorbuthappy · 17/01/2024 18:10

All depends on size of cyst to be fair.

I had a c-section, last child. There was a “oh what do we have here” moment as they found an ovarian cyst size of my babies head. Told them of pain all through pregnancy but I was just a stupid women to not realise it was Brixton hicks and I had a particularly low pain threshold apparently according to my male Gp 🤦‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

despite me already being open with major abdominal surgery c section for 3rd time, they dissected out the cyst leaving part of my ovary still behind. The other on wasn’t touched,

not that I needed it remaining tissue. Still had one that jogged on well into late 50s giving me a shitty menopause 🥴

so, no, they do not just whip everything out, even when it was all open and exposed for the whipping out of. Even if you don’t want more kids, and even in my case when it was a good 20 cm circumference

no wonder people kept saying do you have twins in there🤷🏼‍♀️🤣🤣🤣

AlanRickmanAdmirer · 18/01/2024 22:10

In my part of the UK, we were actually very big on mobilising patients early in order to prevent thrombosis back in the 80s - we had the resources to give time to nursing patients back then, and physio, OT, etc., were readily available. Working in medical negligence these days is a real eye-opener.

PinotBlanc · 18/01/2024 22:04

@Ratsoffasinkingsauage I’m with you 👍

avocadotoaststoppedmebuyingahouse · 18/01/2024 22:00

@Itwasafterallallaboutme their staff stay in adjoining accommodation. And they have other houses.

Ratsoffasinkingsauage · 18/01/2024 21:59

BestBadger · 18/01/2024 21:16

Well, he is my King. I'm a subject and have no choice in the matter. I'd rather not be and we'd clearly be much better off as a society if we didn't spend so much money maintaining the inequality, of which the Monarchy is part of.

We'd be healthier, better educated, have less crime etc. It also costs us £128 billion to maintain the inequality, that's without including the billions of pounds worth of assets held by our Royals.

If you can't see that going from one of the most equal of the world's richest countries to the second most unequal in 50 years and doubling child poverty in 40 years is dangerously unsustainable. Then you're the foolish one.

An unelected billionaire head of state for a crumbling increasingly unequal society, administered by a corrupt, authoritarian & incompetent government isn't going to last forever. You don't need to have studied history or politics to realise that.

This exactly the kind of sound bite style shite I was talking about. There is no depth to this argument. Did the monarchy cause poverty? Or was is a combination of venal government and greedy corporations?

The reality of becoming a republic is not the magical sunlit upland you imagine it is. We’d still all be fucked. I can be certain that within five years all the assets would have mysteriously disappeared into government pockets (just like it did in the French Revolution) and we’d have won ourselves an extra bent politician as our head for state.

No thanks.

derxa · 18/01/2024 21:59

Dymaxion · 18/01/2024 21:39

I think 'abdominal surgery' is a ruse , I reckon she has had her bunions done and can't be released discharged until she can walk in lofty heels again ?

😂

wildernesssw · 18/01/2024 21:50

If you can't see that going from one of the most equal of the world's richest countries to the second most unequal in 50 years and doubling child poverty in 40 years is dangerously unsustainable. Then you're the foolish one.

I completely agree. But the constitutional set up didn't change, it was a monarchy throughout and the same monarch throughout.

Sadly the electorate voted for that. The Head of State is irrelevant.

Klcak · 18/01/2024 21:47

I hope she recovers quickly.

I think that the palace made a huge mistake saying she would be in hospital for 10-14 days. They could have said - successful surgery, short stay in hospital, please respect privacy. And if that "short" stay continued for 10-14 days, they could have said all fine, just a little longer needed in hospital and given a snap of her face smiling and william with some flowers or something. By saying 10-14 days, it sounds very serious and shines a light on how shockingly quickly normal people are discharged. My mum had a full mastectomy with some lymph nodes being removed as well - cancer. She was on a trolley in recovery after the evening surgery - surgery was pushed into the evening as there had been problems unrelated to her. There was no ward bed for her so she was then moved to pre op in the middle of the night on that trolley. She was discharged at 9:30am the next day - from that trolley. Never got an actual bed on a ward. Sent home in really quite a state, only 12 hours after a big operation. I looked after her, brought a bed downstairs to do so and slept in the same room as her as I was so worried about her. This was way before covid, so unrelated to the more current problems. Needless to say the NHS didn't have the funds to do body scans to check for spreading in the years afterwards - and the cancer has of course now spread - picked up when it caused symptoms.

TitusMoan · 18/01/2024 21:44

AInightingale · 18/01/2024 19:30

That's not my king,
his prostate's too knobbly,
his wife is too wobbly,
his brother's too dodgy,
and his hands are too podgy.

😂

Zone2NorthLondon · 18/01/2024 21:43

KimberleyClark · 18/01/2024 20:40

If you read the whole thread you will see I have commented further on that post.

Read the thread,yes. Commit your inane posts to memory,no

Dymaxion · 18/01/2024 21:39

I think 'abdominal surgery' is a ruse , I reckon she has had her bunions done and can't be released discharged until she can walk in lofty heels again ?

Itwasafterallallaboutme · 18/01/2024 21:35

Boomer55 · 17/01/2024 17:06

Apparently it’s a hysterectomy. This does take some recovery time, but if you have servants, Nannies and chefs, it’s obviously easier than it is for most women.

They said that she would be returning to Windsor for her convalescence. If they mean to her home rather than the Castle, then they don't have any live in staff their. They do their own cooking when at their Windsor home, and the Nanny does not live in either - not that she would personally help the Princess anyway.

As they probably need to stay in that area for the children's school, I imagine that she will be fine at their home in Windsor, as she is normally very fit. However, if they did still need some extra help for a while, I imagine that they would either decamp to the Castle, or, if it is within a reasonable driving distance to the children's school, to her parents home instead.

As for her reason for needing an operation, the only thing I will say is that whatever the problem is, it is not being resolved by using key-hole surgery, as that should not need such a long stay in hospital. Or maybe, as it is supposed to have five star hotel living standards, maybe she is staying in longer so that Louis can't just go running in and jump on her in the bed, or whilst sitting in a chair!
I hope she has a very quick and pain free recovery.