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Bloody reborn doll

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Horriblescareydolls · 17/01/2024 00:53

My sister has collected dolls for while now and has always gone with ones from around the world. She has recently started on reborn which are hyper real dolls that look like real babies. I find it creepy they but each to their own. She has started wandering about with the fucking doll in a baby pram, I met her for lunch and assumed when she came in with a pram that due was babysitting a friends baby, she doesn't have a baby herself. On closer inspection there is a bloody reborn doll with a bloody dummy in its gob. I couldn't stay when she took the damn thing out to hold and walked away. She said that "reborn community " are used to mockery and why can't I just be happy for her. I told her because she is a grown woman pushing a dolly in a pram and its fucking weird. She wants to bring it to family parties......I can't cope!!!!Thoughts anyone?

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Milange · 18/01/2024 22:28

badwolf82 · 17/01/2024 04:14

This is 100% not normal behaviour, no matter what she says about the doll “community”. Does she have a history of infertility or loss that might explain this? If this was my sister I would be very concerned about her mental health.

It’s not ‘normal’ but it also isn’t hurting anyone.

keylemon · 18/01/2024 22:27

I would not tolerate that non sense behaviour either.

Longdarkcloud · 18/01/2024 22:27

You either “get” realistic baby dolls or you don’t. To me the stiff old fashioned traditional doll can seem creepy but the modern reborns have an appeal that I find hard to explain. There is no way I’d play at parenting one but still the attraction is there. I have wondered if it’s because of an excess of the need to nurture.
OP are you chiefly worried about what other people might think? Why not just humour her. Maybe she’ll get another hobby soon. BTW there are videos on YouTube of people opening parcels containing reborn babies they have ordered from doll artists. They often have whole nurseries devoted to them. Very expensive if you get the genuine article

Dita73 · 18/01/2024 22:26

It’s batshit behaviour

Kendodd · 18/01/2024 22:25

megacat · 18/01/2024 22:12

There are some very unkind comments on this thread. I see grown men building Lego, perfectly acceptable, yet a woman with a doll is 'creepy as fuck'. Perhaps she's just doing what the hell she likes and what brings her enjoyment without giving a toss what others think? Good for her.

You can't compare Lego (basically a 3D jigsaw) to pushing a fake baby around.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 18/01/2024 22:25

Leave her alone.

You're coming across as a bully.

CharlotteMakepeace · 18/01/2024 22:23

Horriblescareydolls · 17/01/2024 01:03

It's not the actual collecting it's the bringing out in a pram getting it out to hold and talking about bringing it to family events like it's a real baby.

Grab the baby and hide it's head under your top and insist on breastfeeding it!

That might make your sister come to her senses.

CharlotteMakepeace · 18/01/2024 22:22

When my daughter was young, Baby Annabelle was the in thing but she wanted to 'upgrade' to a more realistic looking baby doll so I bought her a beautiful one from America.

He was Asian and very lifelike and she took very good care of him and loved taking him out.

A couple of times he was mistaken momentarily for being a real baby and we struck up some conversations with lovely people who were interested in the doll.

Then it all went a bit wrong a few years later when she progressed to wanting and getting a renown orang-utan and a reborn gorilla!

We got a few funny looks with those, but she absolutely loved them!

The ones I find creepy are the ones with the eyes shut.

Naptrappedmummy · 18/01/2024 22:22

Cosycover · 18/01/2024 22:11

If men had reborn babies what would we call it? And how is it different?

There used to be a man in our town who pushed a double buggy with dolls strapped into it, not reborns but Chucky-like dolls, he once chased my sister through a car park with it, she couldn’t sleep for weeks after

lastchristmas80 · 18/01/2024 22:18

What happened to this poor lamb as a child? It’s almost always the parents fault in my experience 😬

WagWoofWalkMeeoow · 18/01/2024 22:13

Horriblescareydolls · 17/01/2024 01:03

It's not the actual collecting it's the bringing out in a pram getting it out to hold and talking about bringing it to family events like it's a real baby.

Yep collecting is one thing, even cuddling it, dressing it etc home -meh, but the cafe & family get together... just 'No'

id be worried about her.

Naptrappedmummy · 18/01/2024 22:12

And I’m with you OP. ‘Let her take it with her everywhere; what’s the harm’ - the harm is she’ll be expecting everyone to play along with her odd fantasy. Will they have to watch the baby while she goes to the toilet? Hold it if she asks? Talk about it like it’s real, give it a name? It’s a bit Life of Brian-esque

megacat · 18/01/2024 22:12

There are some very unkind comments on this thread. I see grown men building Lego, perfectly acceptable, yet a woman with a doll is 'creepy as fuck'. Perhaps she's just doing what the hell she likes and what brings her enjoyment without giving a toss what others think? Good for her.

Cosycover · 18/01/2024 22:11

If men had reborn babies what would we call it? And how is it different?

Naptrappedmummy · 18/01/2024 22:09

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 17/01/2024 01:00

I agree it’s a bit odd but she’s not hurting anyone so what’s the harm? I’m sure plenty of people have interests that seem a bit strange to others who don’t understand them. To each their own.

The harm is they use pram spaces on buses. So real babies can’t.

EmpressSoleil · 18/01/2024 22:07

I think they're really creepy looking. But..each to their own. So what if someone wants to take one out in a pram or bring it to a party! Why should anyone care?

Sometimes I feel quite trapped by all the "rules" that society imposes on us. So as not to be seen as odd. I ignore some of them but I don't want to be openly mocked so I stick to others. But really why do we do it to ourselves? We are not free at all. Everything is judged or ridiculed. It makes me quite sad. So yeah, if she wants to take the doll everywhere so what?

Cel77 · 18/01/2024 22:03

Why are you so angry about it? Reborn dolls are used in different therapeutic settings for a reason :they are especially helpful to people with PTSD and dementia. Your sister might be trying to heal herself for all you know, and having a close relative respond in that way is not helpful or caring. I hope she is ok and surrounded by people who respect her choices (she's not harming anyone) and support her if she's struggling.

MK19590 · 18/01/2024 22:03

I think they're creepy as fuck and you're right to be concerned about her if this is a new change in behaviour and you're sure she's had no losses/struggling to concieve

Walkerwhite · 18/01/2024 22:03

Apologies in advance for any incorrect terms I use, I mean absolutely no offence.

Near my old house was a hospital for people with mental health problems, the people would live there, sometimes long term. A woman whose baby died had lived there quite a few years and was allowed to leave the hospital on her own although she lived there, she would push a doll in a pram and sit at the bus stop and take the doll out and feed it with a bottle and show off how cute her baby was to people. Everyone was very kind to her and admired her baby and then she’d push the pram back home.

I have never lost a child so I can’t begin to understand it but I can sympathise and I can’t bring myself to judge peoples coping mechanisms.

You don’t say why your sister has become part of the community she has, but whatever her reasons, I’m sure some understanding from her family would be welcome.

ArnieLinson · 18/01/2024 22:00

My dd had a few when she was younger. She used to take one everywhere. Older ladies used to love holding them.

hmmdunno · 18/01/2024 21:56

If people who have these expect others to treat them as real babies, possibly to the detriment of other babies ( as in bus example previously) then I think that is having an impact on other people, not just a harmless hobby.

tonyhawks23 · 18/01/2024 21:55

My kids have reborn dolls - when my youngest got hers for christmas this year my eldest (despite having a similar one) did ask if it was a real baby that died and was turned into a doll. They are that scary real. I thought they were just for children though.

ToWhitToWhoo · 18/01/2024 21:49

I think YABU in the sense that such behaviour is likely to reflect either mental health issues, or a severe struggle with infertility, or both. Not just silliness to be condemned or ridiculed.

Yes, it's odd behaviour, but it doesn't actually harm anyone, and certainly does not harm you, unless you let it. YABU to say you 'can't cope'. You don't have to cope with anything except seeing a relative behave rather strangely, possibly for a sad reason. No one is going to hold you responsible for your sister's quirks.

iloveeverykindofcat · 17/01/2024 05:15

I find them absolutely creepy and horrible - I'm with the poster who tried CPR, at first glance they look like a dead baby to me and give me a jolt. But in the scheme of things people do, its harmless. You sound positively angry about them.

BillyNotQuiteNoMates · 17/01/2024 05:14

You said it so much better than I would have.