Does your adult DC live in the family home still?

allthenights · 2024-01-16T22:52:55+00:00

If you have DC in their 20's, can I ask if they still live in the family home?

caringcarer · 12/05/2024 21:35

My younger son moved out last July when he bought his own house. He was 28.

DramaAlpaca · 12/05/2024 21:28

My two eldest have moved out. I have a 26 year old still at home for now.

FlutteryButterfly · 12/05/2024 21:26

I wonder what planet some live on these days. I moved out of home on a small income in 1999 into a 2 bed mortgaged house - london £83k. That same house is now £375k. Wages haven't increased thar much + the cost of living crisis. My DC can't afford to move out fir years even if renting it would be £1k+ for a 1 bed within 20 miles. Pie in sky

Theoldwoman · 12/05/2024 21:21

Yes, my 22 and 21 year olds are still at home. I hope they stay for as long as they need to and save as much money as they can.

alloverthewaves · 12/05/2024 21:20

No. One bought a house a couple of years ago and the other is in a shared rental in another part of the country.

NewName24 · 12/05/2024 21:16

Niegenug · 12/05/2024 21:00

The OP asked the question in January and then had no further input into the thread. So why has it been resurrected and why are people still responding?😒

Because it pops up in active threads and people tend to look at the posts rather than the dates of the posts.

VibeOnWithMyGalPals · 12/05/2024 21:03

20 yo dd has just returned home from university

Niegenug · 12/05/2024 21:00

The OP asked the question in January and then had no further input into the thread. So why has it been resurrected and why are people still responding?😒

happyinherts · 12/05/2024 20:47

35 and 29 year olds still at home. No chance ever of buying a property in London, and they don't want to move away because of jobs, hobbies and friends. Neither do they wish to have a partner in case relationship breaks down and they're saddled with more debt. Therefore, it's likely they will remain at home till we depart this planet, and then acquire our 3 bed house to argue over.

EC22 · 12/05/2024 20:45

22 yo daughter has moved out.
23 yo son still lives at home- just about finished his degree. I expect he will move out in the next year.

AmusedMaker · 12/05/2024 20:44

24 year old son still at home, and probably will be for sometime. So expensive to rent in our area.

UnNiddeRides · 12/05/2024 20:42

24 & 26 year olds both living at home.

HighBrows · 12/05/2024 20:42

Lentilweaver · 12/05/2024 20:38

Am I alone in not wanting daily access to my grandchild?😀 I feel like a freak of nature ! The best part is I am Asian so I should apparently be looking forward to a big joint family but I am not! I would like to live on my own and see my DC once or twice a week.

Probably not! 😀

NewName24 · 12/05/2024 20:42

My youngest is a student, so still has a room here, but doesn't really live here.
The older two now have their own homes, but both returned after University and live with us for some years whilst saving furiously.

Why do you ask ?

Bigredpants · 12/05/2024 20:38

DC1 25 still at home. Went to uni. Came back. Worked then travelled. Now working again but no sign of ever being able to move out. Earns £26k in outer London.
DT1. 21 Did an apprenticeship. Now earns £42k. At home and saving.
DT2. 21 Went straight to work. Earns £27k and saving.
It would cost them about £1000 /m for a grotty house share and no long term solution so I accept they’ll be with me for years until I retire and kick them out and run away.
Their dad has loads more space but they like living with me. I confess I would like at least one of them to be able to move out. How when starter flats are £350k? 😥

Lentilweaver · 12/05/2024 20:38

Am I alone in not wanting daily access to my grandchild?😀 I feel like a freak of nature ! The best part is I am Asian so I should apparently be looking forward to a big joint family but I am not! I would like to live on my own and see my DC once or twice a week.

HighBrows · 12/05/2024 20:32

My 3 - 28, 23 & 22 all live at home. The 22 year has a baby and partner here too. It's lovely they all still want to be here.
The house is busy but good.
I have daily access to my grandchild, it's bliss. They all work and contribute to the running of the home.

Dottiethekangaroo · 12/05/2024 20:30

I think moving out in your late 20s is normal today. My 3 eldest GCs all between 25 land 29 live home with their various parents..

My own children all set up independently before they were 20. One got a job that required living away, one went travelling and one got married. I don’t think any of them could do that in today’s financial climate. Also none of them went to University, so they never had student debt.

YorkNew · 12/05/2024 20:26

Yes, 23 and 25, they both moved away for university and then came back home.

Eldest DC moved out when he was 24 but tat was over 10 years ago so things were a bit different then.

AuntieMarys · 12/05/2024 20:26

No. Both dcs 27 and 25 bought flats 2 years ago.

Wondering17 · 12/05/2024 20:25

22 year old at university but the rest of the time he is at home
20 year old works and lives at home
18 year old lives at home

CountryMumof4 · 12/05/2024 20:23

Eldest (early 20s) still at home as he's been saving for a house deposit. I saw no reason for him to rent for the sake of it, unless he really wanted to. I'd have supported his choice either way. He's now saved enough for a decent deposit and is house hunting - I'll be sad when he goes, but excited for him too :-)

Lentilweaver · 12/05/2024 20:19

I have actually been wondering if it's ok for me to move out. I have been told that it's cruel to expect DC to move out in this financial climate- fine, ok- but is it all right for me to move out if my DC can't afford to? Course no one wants a 51 year old housemate in a house share!

Riverlee · 12/05/2024 20:15

Yes. 22 year old .

Lentilweaver · 12/05/2024 19:50

Yes, because student housing is phenomenally expensive and so is rent in London. I am not happy about it. I absolutely will not allow partners or DC to live with me though. The house is too small anyway.