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To think my colleagues are being inconsiderate?

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Sophie2525 · 16/01/2024 22:40

I couldn’t make it work yesterday, my Dad usually has DD on a Tuesday, however he couldn’t take care of DD today as his Dad (my grandad) is very poorly, he needed to be with him. So I had no childcare.
I’m usually very reliable and try to cover shifts as much possible, even though it’s a struggle with childcare.
I explained the reason I couldn’t make it in, I work with just females, who give the impression they are kind but not one of them asked how my grandad is, I just got the impression they didn’t give a fuck.
Im now in the mindset I just don’t want to make effort with them unless it’s work relate. Am I being pathetic ?

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SisterMichaelsHabit · 16/01/2024 23:42

Do they even know? Has it registered with them? Most adults whose grandparents are still alive know they will die someday soon and they're ill all the time beforehand. Everyone else lost theirs a long time ago.

What is it about this that has got to you so much? Is there something deeper in life that's upsetting you or do you always take things to heart? You sound really young if you still have grandparents, so you might want to work on resilience because the world of work gets a lot tougher than people not asking after your granddad when you took an impromptu day off leaving them to do the work.

Aquamarine1029 · 16/01/2024 23:37

I'm sorry, but you are expecting far too much from coworkers. They are not your friends and they all have their own issues to contend with. It's not that they "don't care", it's that they have their own lives, too.

QuestionableMouse · 16/01/2024 23:37

Yabu for saying females.

Cheesyfootballs01 · 16/01/2024 23:34

They probably don’t care. I wouldn’t care about a work colleagues grandad if I’m honest.

Also not sure why you assume women should be kind either