Man on school run

Can’t read all the replies but I would discuss with the school (find out the kids names if you dont know them). I wouldn’t go straight up to him as makes a bigger issue. Mention to the school you are uncomfortable with his behaviour and see if any other parents have mentioned it.

There's an old pervert who stares at me everytime I walk across the playground 🙄. You sure he's not just checking you out? Haha

I’d wait until you have people near you and just say ‘Hi! I’ve noticed you a few times now and it seems that you think you recognise me. I can’t place where from. Do I know you?’

Guys can’t be going around giving death stares for 4-5 months to women without looking weird so he does need to be told that his behaviour is now clear and obvious.

Man at railway station used to do this to me on my commute. I thought it was something I just had to put up with.
Then he got arrested for stalking and intimidating women on trains.

Calling the OP utterly crazy and paranoid because she feels intimidated by a man who consistently glares at her is unfair.

He's probably just thinking about something totally different.

I had the situation that I used to pick up my dc's on the way back from work from their secondary school. There's a little car park just to the side of one of the entrances and I'd be there.
Because of the timing of work, I sometimes would be there a little early.

And I started to notice a scruffy looking guy standing near the entrance glaring at the children coming out. He'd stop right next to my car, so I couldn't help notice him. Moreover, because I was arriving early (and sometimes my dc were late out) I saw that he didn't collect any children and he was walking through the estate to arrive just before the time the children came out. He always left after me.
I asked my dc if they recognised him as anyone connected with school, and they didn't.

So I tried to speak to him. Just a casual "hello", tried a couple of times more and each time he literally turned away from me and faced the other direction.

Then I thought about it, thought there was probably nothing to it, but just dropped an email to the safeguarding team at school.
He was a cleaner, waiting for the children to leave so he could go in. I suspect he wasn't glaring at the children so much as watching the door to see when he was free to go in. Although he may have been glaring thinking "wish these kids would hurry up!" 🤣
The next week I noticed he wore his ID badge, which he hadn't worn visible before.

This is a good suggestion.

Just confront him.

Say breezily "Are you OK?'

Even if there is a very far fetched scenario where ops 'gut instinct' is correct and he is some sort of murderer, op intimidatingly challenging him wouldn't stop him would it?

It's far, far more likely that the guy is just a dickhead who stares at some people. So what??

up until recently i would have said you were probably imagining it BUT i learned a few weeks ago that a man who kind of did a similar thing to me and my kids at their primary school (they are nearly adults now) has been convicted of sexual assualt on children from back then. He was always looking at us and after a while trying to chat and invite us over (he was a dad with kids in theri class so it wasnt totally off) but i was totally creeped out by him and even changed routes to avoid him.

obviously this man you see almost certainly isnt the same BUT it has taught me to trust my instincts a bit more!

Victim of what exactly? This kind of ridiculous use of the phrase makes it lose all meaning. She's been looking at him for months too.

Is he a school dad? Or just a man lurking around a school!? If the latter I would report him to the office.

Are you friendly with other parents? Ask around if anyone knows him and then maybe get others to keep an eye on him to double check he really is targeting you and you’re not imagining it.

I have this affliction!!! I don't feel it inside, its just my default face, unfortunately 😕

OP is posting classic paranoia... this man hasn't DONE anything.

She has occasionally seen a man she 'thinks' in her own head looks scary. She isn't even seeing him look at her she is 'feeling' it most of the time... utter crazy.

I'm sorry but 'feeling eyes on you' is not a real thing, vision does not have any physical touch you can 'feel'... that simply called paranoia.

He probably is tired and zoned out, most people don't view the school gates as a social event they just get through it as quick as possible.

He probably wonders why a nutty woman keeps glancing at him as if hes an axe murderer when hes just minding his own business.

Maybe he actually fancies you and it's his trying to look sexy face.

But me I would be asking him outright what is the matter .I would not stand for anybody trying to intimidate me .It is not acceptable .

I get told regularly I look scary .People have admitted because I do have a resting bitch face and eyebrow piercings and a bridge piercing that I am going to be really offhand and abrupt .I actually am a really kind person who works in care lol .My bff thinks it is dead funny but it it is just my resting face .

Yep. I'm boggling at the number of people who are either blaming the OP or telling her to get a sense of humour 🙄
I'm sure she's old enough to know the difference between receiving an occassional glance from someone with a naturally stern expression and a deliberately aggressive stare.

Do you have a partner or friend who could come along and observe from a distance OP & see what they think? Most men are harmless but some are not, and i think it's pretty poor that so many are dismissing OP's gut instinct. Another pair of eyes might be useful.

I've often mistakenly thought that people were looking at me oddly, then realised it was more to do with my own hang-ups and social anxiety.

OTOH, I dismissed my gut instincts about things in the past, such as medication that was harmful (and did injure me 😢), and i wished that I had listened more to my feelings. Obviously nor quite the same as OP's situation, but it does seem that listening to when you think things are "off" is a good thing mostly.

It'll probably be his cum face

When you’re in your car, is your engine idling? I glare at idlers too. My asthmatic son doesn’t need the extra fumes around his school. Or illegally parked, or parked on the pavement?

Otherwise, maybe just ask?

I have a "starer" but it's because I once told his aggressive brat "no" in the playground and ever since then he;s had it in for me, lol.

Some of these replies are shocking.
A man gives a woman an evil glare every time he sees her for months and people are suggesting he fancies her.
As a kid, if I complained that a boy a school was nasty to me this is the sort of rubbish I would get told. "He fancies you"
Well, no actually, he was just nasty and females should be listening to when they have these experiences.
OP what this man is doing is intimidation and you shouldn't have to put up with it. Unfortunately there's little help for women in these sort of circumstances.

I am forever being told to 'cheer up' when I am going about business in my normal fashion with my normal face (not by men in a 'smile, Darlin'!' way, but just generally) and I have had to conclude that my natural expression makes me look as though I'm about to burst into tears.

So I have now cultivated an unnaturally cheery expression, which I believe makes me look as though I am in the throes of a manic episode. So be it. Maybe this guy is the same and he just has an ...unfortunate natural expression?