Man on school run

I’d find it unnerving too OP especially as no obvious cause. Do any of the other parents know anything about him?

OP said no.

@SerafinasGoose

"No: really don't do this. Never, ever, interpret their behaviour as your problem. He is the one behaving like a real weirdo here. Don't take on his weirdness as though it's in any way been caused by you. It's all his."

I'm not suggesting for one minute this behaviour is caused by OP, but by asking the latter part directly you are a) showing that the behaviour has been clocked and b) asking him to explain it.

Not once did I ask OP to undertake blame for this behaviour.

Not. Once.

Maybe he just has resting creep face. Honestly though you can't police the look on another human's face and if he isn't touching himself during the eye contact (that OP is participating in as takes two) and he hasn't said anything at all to OP, I don't see how anyone could give this head space. Just pick up your kids and ignore him.

Talk to the school straight away - you shouldn’t feel frightened or intimidated on the school run. If someone was swearing at you every day, you’d tell the school straight away, so staring at you the way you have described is just as scary and needs reporting. They will have to keep it private and they can help you decide what to do next.

Does he fancy you but just looks angry but is actually lusting after you? lol

"Are you aware that you glare at me? Have I done something to offend you?"

No: really don't do this. Never, ever, interpret their behaviour as your problem. He is the one behaving like a real weirdo here. Don't take on his weirdness as though it's in any way been caused by you. It's all his.

In any event, it's probably not a great idea to approach this guy.

I second the PP upthread who recommended Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear. It's fairly dated now, and there's some language in it akin to victim blaming which I'm not keen on; nonetheless, it should be required reading for every woman.

Funny. The ONLY time I've ever had a cross word or look when breastfeeding was when I was in the passenger seat of the car, feeding DC whilst DH went on a quick trip around the supermarket. I fed publicly for over a year, discreetly and without incident, but on that one occasion a woman came right up to the car window and stared down making mumblings of disapproval. I lowered the window, smiled sweetly and asked if she possibly didn't want to climb right into the car for a closer stare?

People are strange. I honestly think some of them go about actively looking for confrontation. Guess lone women are at the mercy of men and breastfeeding mums are fair game for anyone.

As for the objections that OP must be 'looking' even to know she's being death-stared at: of course she bloody is. Once you become aware someone's doing this you are morbidly conscious of their presence all the time, coupled with feeling awkward as you try your damndest not to catch their eye, but looking for them and catching it because you're trying far too hard keep away. It's exactly the way I behave when there's a wasp in the room because the nasty, stripey, stingy little thugs scare the shit out of me. If there's one in my vicinty I'm always aware of exactly where they are so I can get the hell away if they come anywhere near me.

I don't doubt OP feels the same. When there's someone behaving oddly in your victinity, and has form for it, you look. The horror! And it still doesn't place the blame for this peculiar situation on the OP.

Do you leave your engine running? 🤔

Then confront him, I'd want him to know I had clocked the carry-on.

"Are you aware that you glare at me? Have I done something to offend you?"

Even if your kid is the biggest walking nightmare ever, his behaviour is bizarre and I wouldn't allow it to continue.

Start wearing mirrored sunglasses (obvs not while driving) to take away some of his power, he'll hate it

Take a large man with you a few days and get him to glare back at the guy.

Have you tried glaring back?

Presumably because it's a bit intimidating to have someone repeatedly staring through your car window at you when you're just minding your own business

Same. I have been stared at intensely and it is frightening.

Just ignore him? Why do you care so much?

Yes, I find it surprising too.

Strange man staring at me would freak me right out.

[not read the whole thread] Are you of a different ethnicity to him or wear a religious identifier? If so, it'll be that I'm afraid. I've experienced this too for the first time, since recent events.

It's possible he's mistaken you for Lady Penelope. Once he realises he can learn none of the secrets of International Rescue from you, he'll turn his attention elsewhere.

Amazed that so many women don't seem to think it's possible that this man is being deliberately intimidating. Maybe you think that sort of thing Is a rarity?

My child is nightmare. You can hear her before you see her. A dad appeared to physically flinch if he saw us. Or he would appear to manoeuvre away from us. It was and continues to be my dd. I think he doesn't want his child to catch "brat" from my child. Love my dd, but honestly I can't blame him.

I can just picture it and I can't stop laughing.

I would do this, ask a friend to keep an eye out from a distance.

This is very true tbh it IS far more likely he just will have absolutely no clue what's going on while op is marching over to him with a gang of protection officer friends in tow taking his picture whilst asking what time it is 🤣