Man on school run

This kind of happened to my daughter a little while ago. This guy just kept staring at her very intensely for long enough for her to notice, and make her feel slightly uncomfortable. He was also picking up a child from the school gates so couldn't avoid him. After about a month of this, while with her partner, she went up to him and just said hello. He then asked her if he knew someone called "SellWell" as he knew them at middle school and she looked identical to her XX many years later. Obviously she then twigged, laughed , and said yep, that's my MUM !! I don't remember him from school at all 😳

@Begsthequestion That is quite a good article. Thx for sharing it. Intrusive staring is a form of harassment and can be unnerving.

Are you keeping the engine running in your car while you sit there? That is problematic

OP - is it something like this?

@Frisps
Maybe it's someone from your teenage years you annoyed or poked fun at in school, or maybe his wife only thing i can think off.

Op, you sound exactly like I did a few years ago. I used to say ‘look at the way this man stares at me’ to my friends. Really freaked me out. A few months later he asked me out. Apparently it was his flirty look…he’s now my husband 😂

Can you take a male partner / friend with you next time and ask them to watch what he does? I'd be interested to know if he alters his reaction in any way.

Are there mums you can ask about him? Either to watch it happen or let you know what it is?

Surely other parents have started to notice this if its as clear as you suggest. Has anyone commented? What about taking a friend with you to see if they also notice it? If others are noticing too, I think the 'sorry do you know me from somewhere?' Might be a good way to go but be wary if you think he might be aggressive

I think you really have to trust your instincts. You’re obviously getting a really bad vibe from him and we should always pay attention to these. Make discreet enquiries as to who he is, park elsewhere and just don’t look at him. He could be a murderer in the making, he could simply fancy the look of you, it may be his resting bitch face, he may be blind as a bat…..goodness only knows! But heed the feeling he evokes as they are usually there for a reason.

That would really upset and unnerve me. I'd assume that he'd mistaken me for someone else.

He’s probably just a bit bonkers, as you get older you’ll come across them more and more. Just ignore it

My husband is always raging on the school run with the people that stand and block the path, do you do that?🤣

My gut instinct would say act like you have not seen him, and don't try talking to him. It would give him an excuse to talk to you. Always trust your gut instincts.

Yes. Good idea. She can observe him too and see if he does it to anyone else.

I would have to speak to him because I would drive myself insane questioning myself if I’ve inadvertently done something to offend him or his family

There is a campaign on London Underground about staring and how unacceptable it is.

Talk to the school or call 111 to raise your concern.

I say trust your instincts. If you do confront him I'd do so friendly & casually - with back up to witness. It's not paranoia if you sense something 'off' this strongly. Perhaps he fancies you...or is just an odd character. Personally, I'd park elsewhere to avoid avoid avoid.

Well maybe he thinks he might know you from somewhere or maybe that’s just his resting bitch face. He probably thinks well why does this woman keep staring at me!

@Frisps Ask another parent. Say 'who's the weird dude who's always giving me daggers?!'

They'll probably say 'oh that's angry Andy/ racist Dave/ hit by lightning and it stuck Larry'. Worst case they'll say 'thats my husband and he hates you because I said you tried it on with me to distract him from the fact I'm having an affair with the sports teacher'. Don't approach him though, nothing to be gained from it.

Some men do have angry faces but they're usually angry men. There's a difference between resting *** face and angry face. There's a mum who lives on our road who's like it with us, literally no idea why but I also don't care I get the impression it's because hates her own life and doesn't like smiling, so I leave her to it.

I can't believe the answers and responses. Irregardless of whether this man is or is not staring (and I have no reason or evidence to doubt the OP) it is making her feel uncomfortable. If it was me I would glare back and make them feel uncomfotable unless I thought he posed a threat then I would call 111 and ask for advice from police.
Hope you are ok OP. X

Maybe you remind him of someone.
I personally would not do anything. He sounds unapproachable.

He probably likes you stop with the victim attitude its not cool

Things like this can be real.

I don't think you're being paranoid. It sounds like he's trying to intimidate or maybe there's mental health stuff going on. I'd ignore it or look back at him and ask is there a problem??