To pull my 2 year old out of nursery?

@MariaVT65 I haven't saw any parent shamers. Everyone has different choices they may make for their children and their families. You chose nursery at 2.
I work shift work so nights/weekends and only 1 (at the most 2 days during the week) for childcare! I can go 2 days in a row and not see my daughter awake due to shifts and my daughter went to nursery at 3......
completely different if my job consisted of working Monday to Friday 9-5.

All I'm seeing is different opinions.
Have a look into research..nursery has no extra benefits prior to the age of 3/3.5. It's not better or worse for them to go to nursery or stay at home. It states that it doesn't provide any additional benefit to children.

I'd wait if you're happy for him to stay with you for a bit longer. I don't see the point in forcing him to go if it isn't necessary.

Yes try again in6 months, he is not ready. School is a long way off.

Then at school nursery she only went on a Wednesday afternoon, then 9-3 Thursday and Friday and even having the long gap from the Friday till the Wednesday didn't affect her.

@sexnotgenders You must be reading a different thread then.

My child isn't actually in nursery as we manage to work around without paying for childcare but I would have no guilt doing so. My eldest loved nursery.

Plus OP's child has speech delays. I don't think staying at home is a good idea with that in mind.

If he doesn't need to go to nursery then I would just keep him at home and do what you normally do.
When it was time for my daughter to start school nursery when she was 3 she just skipped in and she was ready.
She understood that she was going to nursery who her teacher was going to be and she as very excited.
I think around the 2 year old mark she wouldn't have any benefit from nursery and was happy to go to playgroups etc she was looked after by my mam one day a week and sometimes my MIL one day and she was happy with that xx

Two year olds can take a while to settle away from their parents so you'd need to give it a few weeks.

Children most enjoy nursery from around three as they know their parent will come back and they are far more sociable with their peers.

@WithACatLikeTread and @MariaVT65 I don't think people on here are trying to shame working mothers who use nursery at all. Instead there are a lot of measured responses merely pointing out that if the OP doesn't need to use nursery than it's better not to. A child that young will benefit more from being with a primary caregiver than a nursery setting. That is not the same as saying nursery is bad for children. Nobody has said that. I think your defensiveness says more about your own feelings about this issue than anything the PPs have actually said

Agree with this. Some children find it unsettling to be at a nursery where others are full time, and they’re only a short time. A playgroup or pre school he could be in the same boat as others.

Oh stop with the guilt tripping. Once your son is older you will be glad to see him off to nursery. Maybe also OP might like a little time to herself?

Can’t believe the amount of parent shamers on here saying 2 is too young for nursery. It has provided such a great alternative environment for my son and they do things i’m completely unaware of or wouldn’t think of doing. My son settled in amazingly. And some/most of us have to work.

OP. Look at your photo memories on the phone. Look at your child 2-3 months ago. How different do they look now? You will never have them full time to yourself again, ever. Once they start schools - that's it. Even the time during the school holidays will seem to pass fast.

Our nursery days used to be: wake up, rush to get out of the door. Check the Bub's day via uploaded nursery photos. Home, dinner, bed. Repeat.

Now my 19 months old stays at home with me, we have slow mornings, I decide what to do that day, we sometimes cuddle on the sofa watching TV, or we go to the beach 3 times a day; there's no rush. I cook different meals, we travel to so many activities: the zoo, the museum, playgrounds. He does something new everyday and it makes me feel so happy that I get to see it all.

The kids are too young for nursery at this age: they can't even speak, they can't even go to the toilet by themselves. They're completely dependant on mum. Yes many posters will tell you that 'their kids love nursery', but humans can adapt to pretty much anything. Those kids were just made to adapt. Mine eventually adapted and loved nursery too. But I wholeheartedly think that he's happier now that I've pulled him out.

It's completely fine to send them to nursery if you have to work (my mum sent me at 8 months and I'm totally fine), but you're in a fortunate position to enjoy those adorable first years.

(I did start an online Master's degree PT to keep up with my industry so that my career doesn't suffer. It's been doable when DH takes our son out without me).

I'd agree that it's too soon to say he won't settle. We took DS out of nursery and swapped to a childminder because months down the line he really wasn't settling in nursery and it was just too busy for him. I didn't like it at the time but I had to give it a fair try.

Hes very young. Take him out until he's 3. Concentrate on other things, learning to swim, picnics, making friends etc etc. Mine was the same and once he started school he didn't want me near him and ran in every day.

If you’re not working I’d wait until formal nursery starts the September before school does. Children don’t need to go to nursery although it’s become quite common to put them in early now, but I personally wouldn’t if I didn’t work as it’s expensive and mine were constantly getting sick (I had no choice as needed to work). Just keep doing what you were doing, soft play, mum and toddler groups. That’s enough socialisation until nursery or even school age

@Melsmels they don’t care about activities at that age and at that age they’re not missing out - honestly I don’t say this a lot on here as its hard if you have got to work (been there - awful but lockdown sorted that right out for me) but they really just want to be with an adult who they have a close relationship with could be Mum, but also Dad, or Grandparents.

I would really advise not get sucked into that, overfilling over scheduling bollocks. Sorry, it’s a trap!

I also concur. My pre-school breakfast club definitely sees more resistance from irregular attendees.

I’d get advice from and SLT about how helpful nursery would be for a speech delay at this stage.

You don’t need to stick it out though do you. Obviously if you have to go to work then all bets are off. However as you don’t have to my advice would be to wait until he’s closer to 3 and try again. Stick with the playgroups etc.

I worked in a preschool and the progress children made with speech or social skills once they settled was really impressive but there was often a wobbly start and only two sessions a week does make it harder.
I can see why you are torn because I keep changing my mind and deleting what I'm writing! I don't think there really is a wrong answer - stick at it and he will settle eventually, or leave it for now and try again when he gets funded sessions so could attend more regularly. I wouldn't judge either choice!

I’d keep him in a bit longer OP. Set a reasonable amount of time in your head and if he still hates it then take him out.
Kids also need to learn to be a little resilient and it’s difficult to do this if they never experience a situation where they need to be resilient.

I HAD to put mine in at 11 months (and no to the PP who said this is ‘abhorrent’ 🙄) it took him a while to settle but once he did, there was no turning back. He is a very happy and confident 6 year old now so it certainly didn’t harm him

He has a speech delay OP says. Nursery might be a way to help that.

2.5 to 3.5 is the age when children start to be comfortable being away from their parents for a bit. Its about them understanding that you will come back.

If you need him to go to nursery for your work or your mental health, then keep trying. If not, don't. They really don't NEED to go to nursery.