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JaneyGee · 2024-01-14T13:55:59+00:00

I was just reading the ‘do you think affairs are common?’ thread, and it made me wonder about sex workers. Do you think it’s more common for married men to visit escorts than to have full-blown affairs? Maybe I’m completely wrong, but I’ve known several women (all friends of friends) who’ve caught their husbands messaging or googling local escorts. It’s just so ridiculously easy these days. A man can lay in bed and scroll through dozens of local prostitutes on his phone. His wife could be asleep next to him as he does so. If a married man wants more sex, an escort is a much quicker and easier way to get what he wants. He’s also less likely to be caught. I’ve heard married men at work joke about visiting escorts. Whenever one of them has to go abroad for a few weeks on business, the others joke about looking up the local escorts, or having escorts come to the hotel, etc. Somehow, they don’t quite feel like jokes. Sad thing is, I generally like these men. They have always been very pleasant to me, and don’t come across as seedy or lechy.

Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:47

@Trilateralcommission2 you're welcome

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Annacondas · 14/01/2024 22:44

@Nn9011 that doesn’t make men who use sex workers common though.

Common means common place. A minority of men have paid for sex. Therefore factually, it’s not common.

It might be more common than people think, if that person thinks 1% of men have paid for sex. But factually it’s not common place

Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:43

@Annacondas as I said I can only speak of my own experiences...I was just trying to give my opinion as working as an escort for many years

Nn9011 · 14/01/2024 22:43

@Annacondas I'm not going to out where I work and I am aware of confirmation bias but it is very common. I know it's in the US but just look up the statistics of how many women are trafficked to where the Superbowl is every year.

Trilateralcommission3 · 14/01/2024 22:42

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Jennyjojo5 · 14/01/2024 22:41

wellhello24 · 14/01/2024 16:11

I’m absolutely astounded at the level of nativity on here. Use of prostitutes & escorts is absolutely RIFE and in every corner of the UK. Every type of man from all walks of life. I’m not saying 100% of men do it but waayyy more than you think do. Way way more.Men you know- coworkers, male friends, friend’s husbands. Pop up brothels are everywhere now because there is massive demand. Trafficking is a bigger problem than it ever was. It’s normalised amongst men. Since my engagement ended years ago when I found out my fiancé regularly visited prostitutes whilst working away I have looked into this extensively mainly to make sense of what happened and I realise it’s extremely common just men keep it hush. I learnt that my work mates (professional job) my brothers mates (my bros don’t own up to it themselves to me of course but tell me about their mates on nights out & work trips). The men in my exs family talked about it casually with each other- they’d do it when on holiday or when wife/girlfriend out or away. My ex would tell me. Male friends tell me when Iv asked it’s what a LOT of regular guys they know do. My female workmates tell me their husband admitted they did it when single. Iv read a lot of online chats about it, discussions & a lot of articles too. Morbid curiosity after what happened to me.
Most women seem to think it’s a stereotype creep that does it but it’s not. It’s professional men, high flying men, army men, policemen, bin men, office men, family men, students, teachers etc etc I hate to say it but a vast lot of you would find your man has done this at least once but more likely a few times or even habitually. Doesn’t matter how good your sex life is if a man can fuck more women and get away with it they will. It’s so freely available & discreet these days there are many many websites. So many. They can’t help themselves when it comes to sex. It’s a sad reality I guess a man with a low sex drive is less likely to do this. Sorry to be negative but I’m afraid this is a reality.

Bang on! The naivety of women on here thinking it’s not common.. wow 🙄 I know a guy who uses trans women escorts. Brazilians..: there are thousands of super stunning Brazilian trans escorts in the uk alone … and you know why? Cos there’s a huge trade for it!

Annacondas · 14/01/2024 22:41

@Trilateralcommission3 in wise enough to understand there is a wealth of studies into this issue and facts are it’s not common.

The vast majority of men have never paid for sex. And even less do so regularly

Nn9011 · 14/01/2024 22:39

It's so common and it's not just one type/age/class of men. It's all types of men and it doesn't matter if they're single/dating/engaged/ married. There are multiple websites and apps they can just go on and order a hook up. It's disgusting and so normalized amongst them.

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Annacondas · 14/01/2024 22:36

@Trilateralcommission3 I can see why some people turn to sex work, clearly not all there upstairs if 20 regular clients = it being super common for men to regularly see sex workers

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Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:34

@Trilateralcommission2 yes frequently, a lot who travel around the country and want to meet in hotels etc...

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BayCityCoaster · 14/01/2024 22:32

Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:30

@Annacondas very true I can only speak of my own experiences. I do have at least 20 regular clients/punters (what ever you want to call them!) that I see weekly/monthly, some of which I have been seeing for 5 years or more...

Right, so….

Use of escorts is very common among … men who use escorts.

Annacondas · 14/01/2024 22:30

@Underworld2 20…out of a population of how many men? 😅🤦‍♀️

Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:30

@Annacondas very true I can only speak of my own experiences. I do have at least 20 regular clients/punters (what ever you want to call them!) that I see weekly/monthly, some of which I have been seeing for 5 years or more...

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Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 22:16

@Trilateralcommission2
Loads of different reasons....not getting intimacy off their partner, not having a partner, not wanting committed, a prostitute can actually be cheaper than a girlfriend lol 🤔, no Strings, stress emotional commitment. The list goes on....

BayCityCoaster · 14/01/2024 22:16

Underworld2 · 14/01/2024 21:34

I'm an escort and I can assure you it's very very common. They don't all come across as letchy or seedy either...most of them very normal....

Well, literally every single man you encounter professionally uses your services, so of course you would see it as common.

That doesn’t necessarily follow that it is common for men to use escorts.

I’m not saying it’s not! It may well be, and we women may well be completely in the dark about how widespread it is.

But just because every man you service uses escorts, doesn’t mean it’s common across the board.

BayCityCoaster · 14/01/2024 22:11

Well, if your co-workers discuss it at work and in ear shot of literally everyone around them - without fear of being overheard - that certainly gives every indication of it being utterly blasé and widespread…. 😳

I can’t even begin to imagine my male colleagues discussing this at work, and not giving the slightest shit who hears them…. 🤯

bringonyourwreckingball · 14/01/2024 22:07

My otherwise apparently normal middle class professional husband who liked a nice cup of tea was having threesomes and anal several times a month with escorts for over 10 years and I had no idea whatsoever.

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JaneyGee · 14/01/2024 22:06

wellhello24 · 14/01/2024 16:11

I’m absolutely astounded at the level of nativity on here. Use of prostitutes & escorts is absolutely RIFE and in every corner of the UK. Every type of man from all walks of life. I’m not saying 100% of men do it but waayyy more than you think do. Way way more.Men you know- coworkers, male friends, friend’s husbands. Pop up brothels are everywhere now because there is massive demand. Trafficking is a bigger problem than it ever was. It’s normalised amongst men. Since my engagement ended years ago when I found out my fiancé regularly visited prostitutes whilst working away I have looked into this extensively mainly to make sense of what happened and I realise it’s extremely common just men keep it hush. I learnt that my work mates (professional job) my brothers mates (my bros don’t own up to it themselves to me of course but tell me about their mates on nights out & work trips). The men in my exs family talked about it casually with each other- they’d do it when on holiday or when wife/girlfriend out or away. My ex would tell me. Male friends tell me when Iv asked it’s what a LOT of regular guys they know do. My female workmates tell me their husband admitted they did it when single. Iv read a lot of online chats about it, discussions & a lot of articles too. Morbid curiosity after what happened to me.
Most women seem to think it’s a stereotype creep that does it but it’s not. It’s professional men, high flying men, army men, policemen, bin men, office men, family men, students, teachers etc etc I hate to say it but a vast lot of you would find your man has done this at least once but more likely a few times or even habitually. Doesn’t matter how good your sex life is if a man can fuck more women and get away with it they will. It’s so freely available & discreet these days there are many many websites. So many. They can’t help themselves when it comes to sex. It’s a sad reality I guess a man with a low sex drive is less likely to do this. Sorry to be negative but I’m afraid this is a reality.

Got to say I agree with this. The naivety really is astounding. For a start, the vast majority of men never tell anyone (I should think). And whereas affairs are often exposed, it would be easy to get away with visiting escorts. The internet has increased the temptation and made it easier.

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C1N1C · 14/01/2024 22:04

Maybe I'm completely off on this, but I've always thought that two types of men get escorts... those who can afford it (quick, easy sex), and those who don't have the looks/charm.

Those who cheat tend to be those WITH the looks and charm because they can get the 'real' girls, and are more than likely going to encounter them, and the opportunities on a daily basis.

BethTalk2thehand90spodcast · 14/01/2024 22:02

I think it is probably fairly common but would imagine that some of the banterists in the office are trying to be laddy and in reality would be terrified and intimidated by sex workers in person rather than on a laptop screen. As DH would say, some of them are just giving it the big one in front of their mates.