Do you think men seeing escorts is common?

So what I am supposed to accept this being my boyfriend?? How is that being loyal to your partner it’s absolutely outrageous behaviour. Surely youv been caught out just admit it,. Not like I would ever trust him again but still be honest about it not blame someone might of used your iPad or it’s from a steaming watching football and ( NO IDEA how it got there)

Very common

No one 'knows' of men who admit to paedophilia - Yet we know the law cannot keep up with the vast amount of men watching it /making it/swapping material etc

Ergo It is the case that no one 'knows' of the men who use prostitutes. Men do not walk around with a sticker saying 'I use prostitutes'.It's hidden, secretive and certainly not admitted to except with some of the 'lads'. Therefore to get an accurate picture is almost impossible. That said I believe it is commonplace and I am astounded at the naivety here, of those who believe it isn't.

I know the truth deep down, it doesn’t just appear does it?? I mean all I get is he has no idea about how it appeared and someone else could of used his iPad at some point or it’s from using a Steaming site what he watches football on.. I’m sorry but that doesn’t explain a woman’s profile physically in the drop down of your reading page this means you can re read it whenever you want and it wasn’t just a pop up that he keeps stating it is. It was a click of a button and then there she was and her profile right in front of me.funny I have asked for phone billl and statements he said he will provide to me yet I still haven’t received them we are on day 5 now!!! I just don’t know what to do I am just so shocked.

When you hear hoofbeats, it’s far more likely to be horses than zebras. Unfortunately, the likelihood of somebody ending up with prostitution bookmarks saved in their devices despite never having looked at any prostitution websites is vanishingly small. Don’t let your partner try to gaslight you otherwise - it just doesn’t happen.

I jusr wanted to ask if anyone else has experienced this or shed some light on this topic.
seeing a Escort site profile of a woman on a reading page on the IPAD, is this possible it’s appeared in the reading list alone or it more likely someone has blatantly been on this site and saved it for a rweason.
I am trying to rack my brains on this while
been told no idea how it got there etc.
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No idea how common this is, but am very aware (through personal experience) just how this happens to otherwise seemingly outwardly professional and ‘normal’ men.

My ex (inc banker) was heavily into S&M and frequently visited prostitutes during our relationship. It was awful and somehow made worse by the fact that, to the outside world, we looked like a successful young couple - whereas the reality was he was living a whole other life.

I would say it is common.

Prostitutes and escorts have been around forever and there is still a demand for their services so I assume many men still pay for sex at one point in their life.

I can think of many reasons for it: loneliness, a specific fetish, young men on stag dos, trouble forming emotional relationship with women irl, sexless marriages...

I also doubt surveys are that reliable on this topic as many guys won't admit to it...

Define "common"?

>50% or 75% or 20%?

Given the amount of sex workers advertising online, there must be a demand for their services.

I used to live with an escort about 18 years ago. She saw the same men every week and she had a lovely lifestyle.

I used to live abroad. Men used to travel there for business and even the nicest and most respectable of them were sleeping with either expats, locals or hookers.

As someone that used to work in the industry I’d say it’s the majority of men. Ordinary women just don’t understand. It opened my eyes and I now see men in a totally different light. It’s what they do. More than one man told me they don’t understand why women get so upset about it, it means nothing. They’re wired differently.

If these girls are escorts then yes, almost all men go with escorts. https://www.torchemada.net

Yes I think it's common, they've either visited one, looked them up or contacted them with thrle thought of going through with it. All men are the same, any woman thinking "not my man" let me tell you they have.

Alright, well I will disclose that I was one for many years off and on. And it wasn’t fun, I don’t want pity or abuse, I’ve had enough of both. Was it a choice? Yes at least some of the time and I’m not going into it as it’s not relevant to the thread. What is relevant is that a lot of clients were outwardly respectable middle class men and at least some of them were in relationships. I didn’t want details most of the time though I did learn about some long termers. None would get any sympathy here but some had suffered some awful humiliation in their lives and found some escapism with me. I wasn’t going to despise them for that. But yes there were a lot of slimy sorts too.

@Throwhandsupintheair my not soon enough stbxh always used to term sex worker when I used hooker or prostitute. It normalises it, makes it seem like a lifestyle choice. He got very very angry when I questioned whether he would be ok with either of our daughters using that as a way to earn cash at Uni. Not at all the same thing apparently. The level of cognitive dissonance in all this bullshit

This thread is dumb and the tone sounds ‘off’, and I’m actually wondering whether many of the PP are in fact men who use prostitutes trying to justify their actions. Or normalise it so women think it’s not that bad when their men do it because all men do, it’s in their nature, they just can’t help themselves.

There’s even a prostitute (sorry I’m not aligning to the rebrand of prostitute to ‘escort’) using her clients as evidence that all men pay sex workers.

Not unusual in my experience in working a few jobs surrounded by men. Also Ladyboys are WAY more popular than I thought...😅

Perhaps your argument would hold more weight if you could indicate who has endorsed your research and why it’s of greater merit than that conducted by other sources. According to a range of sources ranging from statutory bodies such as the the ONS and groups working with and advocating for sex workers such as the PPE, ECP, Streetlight and Toynbee, it’s estimated that there are around 110,000 people in the U.K. involved in prostitution, or 0.14% of the population; and that around 12% of men have used a prostitute at least once, with something a little over 1% using prostitutes on a regular basis. What is the basis of your research that means we should trust it over the research methodologies of several major public policy organisations?

Im not here to “have the last word” or to argue. But you don’t seem to accept the 1% is a massive downplay on the truth- men who do this do not admit it. But I’m wasting my breath. Believe what you want if it makes you happy & blinkers you to the boom in prevalence of these services up & down the UK. You must think they are all just selling actual ‘massages.’

I'm hiding this thread now.

As a rape and dv survivor I find the lengths some people go to to excuse inappropriate sexual behaviour disgusting.

The stats quoted earlier by a pp are 1% not 12% and that is the figure I repeated.

It's laughable to call it an uncomfortable truth when it's the opposite of the actual truth as evidenced by such a low statistic.

There is little point in engaging further. You said they can't help themselves when it comes to sex. You did not qualify it by saying some although have subsequently tried to. That's not what you said initially.

You should have just admitted you got it wrong instead of doubling down.

Furthermore, you said "if a man can fuck more women and get away it they will". That is hugely offensive to tar all men with the same brush is it not? You keep making negative sweeping generalisations that you wouldn't dare about any other group as a whole.

You haven't met every man on the planet. The stats dont back you up either. Im sorry for your experience but silly sweeping generalisations are simply foolish.

Saying men cant help themselves when it comes to sex is offensive to men, minimises inappropriate behaviour and doesn't hold them to account. It puts pressure on women to justify their actions and change their behaviour when they are not responsible for what men do. It's hard enough for women with the woeful success rate in rape prosecutions without other women bleating that men can't help themselves regarding sex.

Men absolutely can 100% help themselves when it comes to sex and to claim otherwise is appalling and a disgrace.

Check your internalised misogyny and raise your bar. Feel free to have the last word as it is like banging my head off a brick wall.

Of course they do men are disgusting .
I remember watching a documentary about prostitution in King’s Cross.This woman to feed her drug habit and pimp needed to earn 500 a day she was only charging 30 quid but she got it and that was just one lady there was hundreds of them and that’s just one area. So how many men are doing this and willing to risk their health just for sex?
Then add in the higher end escorts,women working in massage parlours, strip clubs,
trafficed etc it’s a huge amount of women that surely can’t all be funded by the single men of the world.

Then add the fact that 1 in 15 men admit they would sleep with a child under 14 if they wouldn’t get caught. Then a quarter under 10.
I think people need to realise that the men that do this can come from all walks of life be married,single divorced etc.

If I remember it was mostly middle class men that do this.suppose it makes sense as you need money to pay for it.

You're lucky, you've managed to distance yourself from the exploitation. Men who believe that they're having sex are delusional. Prostitutes, both male and female, should write books or publish diaries about how they feign sexual pleasure, or about how they develop coping strategies to get through an encounter with a client they find repulsive.

@DefiantSparrow for some people like myself, having been on the game so long, I don't even give it a second thought. It's as normal to me as it would be to someone else going to the office or whatever...