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sweatband · 2024-01-13T18:41:35+00:00

Have a child staying over tonight from sons school, age 9. He's already made a fat mum joke multiple times (yes I am on the portly side so have taken offence), and he's been incredibly offensive and rude on other levels, non-stop showboating throughout about his Nike airforce this and his foreign holiday that, even asking my child why he always wears the same trainers (he doesn't but that's beside the point). He has made me realise how polite my kids are though, every cloud... I just don't know how to control my annoyance at such a rude brat. AIBU to never allow another sleepover again?

GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas · 13/01/2024 21:31

Warmandbright · 13/01/2024 20:55

I secretly love a sleep over when I can get my hands on my dc’s friends and pull them up on their shit. Endless complaining? Not on my watch. Stupid voices which makes it impossible to understand what your saying? Talk properly or you get nothing. Mad picky eating? I don’t care, here is the food available, I’m not getting involved in your daily meal based melodrama.

embrace it! Sometimes kids need to be told.

This is just quite weird and scary!

Coffeeandcatsforlife · 13/01/2024 21:10

I had a boy from my sons class over for a play date with 2 other boys (they been previously and no issues) but this boy was an absolute nightmare, he was AWFUL! I genuinely felt so traumatised once he left. I was honest with his mum and said how incredibly rude he was. He
speaks to her like shit so she didn’t even tell him off, just looked really awkward at me and left. I told my son that I would not tolerate being treated like that by him so I wont allow it from another child and that he will never be allowed back round. This was about 5 years ago and he’s never got through the front door. Disrespectful little shit.

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 13/01/2024 21:06

Thatnameistaken · 13/01/2024 19:01

There's nothing like someone else's kids to make you appreciate your own...

This!!
My dd has made a new friemd at secondary school who calls for her every morning and expects me to give them a lift! On the odd occasion that l do, she nevers says thank you. But the good thing is dd thinks she is quite rude too so glad she realises

PaperDoIIs · 13/01/2024 21:06

Warmandbright · 13/01/2024 20:55

I secretly love a sleep over when I can get my hands on my dc’s friends and pull them up on their shit. Endless complaining? Not on my watch. Stupid voices which makes it impossible to understand what your saying? Talk properly or you get nothing. Mad picky eating? I don’t care, here is the food available, I’m not getting involved in your daily meal based melodrama.

embrace it! Sometimes kids need to be told.

My super picky eater actually prefers that. She's never terribly hungry so she can easily go without or just pick bits and pieces from what's available. It's the parents that give her a lot of (fancy) options ,make a big show and dance about it and keep drawing attention to it that upset her.

SpinningOutWaitinForYa · 13/01/2024 21:04

Warmandbright · 13/01/2024 20:55

I secretly love a sleep over when I can get my hands on my dc’s friends and pull them up on their shit. Endless complaining? Not on my watch. Stupid voices which makes it impossible to understand what your saying? Talk properly or you get nothing. Mad picky eating? I don’t care, here is the food available, I’m not getting involved in your daily meal based melodrama.

embrace it! Sometimes kids need to be told.

This makes you sound absolutely mental and makes me feel better that I decided my kids won't be going on sleepovers.

Warmandbright · 13/01/2024 20:55

I secretly love a sleep over when I can get my hands on my dc’s friends and pull them up on their shit. Endless complaining? Not on my watch. Stupid voices which makes it impossible to understand what your saying? Talk properly or you get nothing. Mad picky eating? I don’t care, here is the food available, I’m not getting involved in your daily meal based melodrama.

embrace it! Sometimes kids need to be told.

Sometimeswinning · 13/01/2024 20:49

sweatband · 13/01/2024 20:40

Happens again and I may lose my sh1t, but for now I'm going with not parenting them for the evening, OH can deal with it, not that it's his fault but the brat won't be staying again

Just say “no Thankyou” to every negative comment. Trust me he’s heard it at school 😂 Does he have older siblings? You should have had your child’s back here. You’ve flaked though.

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sweatband · 13/01/2024 20:40

Happens again and I may lose my sh1t, but for now I'm going with not parenting them for the evening, OH can deal with it, not that it's his fault but the brat won't be staying again

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 13/01/2024 19:05

I think you can adress the fat mum joke regardless. It's terribly misognynist (sp) and I suspect his father might crack this sort of joke. "We don't make jokes about peoples bodies" or whatever language you think the brat will understand.

SpinningOutWaitinForYa · 13/01/2024 19:02

Just tell him calmly but straight to the point whenever he makes a rude comment, e.g. "it's unkind to comment on people's bodies", "not everybody cares about the latest trainers or holidays" etc.

I'd not invite him back again and I'd tell his parents about the fat jokes.

bloodyeffinnora · 13/01/2024 19:02

I wouldn't send him home as that would be embarassing for your child who hasn't done anything wrong.

some kids are just braggers.
just don't invite again

ThinWomansBrain · 13/01/2024 19:02

maybe text the parents first
if they wont collect, tell him its early bed as his parents can't be arsed to collect him
they obviously don't like the rude little twat either

Thatnameistaken · 13/01/2024 19:01

There's nothing like someone else's kids to make you appreciate your own...

Hankunamatata · 13/01/2024 19:01

Why havnt you pulled him on his behaviour.
Surely when he made a fat mum joke, you turn around and tell him not to be so rude.
Show boating could just be anxiety and the need to fit in.

ThinWomansBrain · 13/01/2024 18:59

send him to bed if you don't think parents will collect him
don't invite back

bossybloss · 13/01/2024 18:56

I wouldn’t ring the parents to pick him up. I would say “Are you always so rude in other peoples houses?” Use your body language .. teacher stare etc.

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sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:56

I'd literally die of embarrassment if I found out my child was like this at someone else's home, or anywhere!!

Eyes have been well and truly opening today, never again

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Jenkibubble · 13/01/2024 18:52

Deffo this .
I would also sit your child down and discuss their choice of friends .

Sorry you have endured this .
Some kids are plain vile and the parents should be embarrassed !!!

TheLogicalSong · 13/01/2024 18:51

Kick him out.

Dita73 · 13/01/2024 18:50

Phone his parents. Say you’ve come down with a migraine and they need to pick the little git up

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sweatband · 13/01/2024 18:50

He's actually usually, to my prior experience, quite quiet. He put in a proviso that the fat mum joke wasn't about me but... by the very fact he did that I know it was, that bit almost made me laugh lol

My kids went deathly silent, there was a tumbleweed moment.

The showboating is just as I expected, the father is a bit of a flamboyant bragger but sheez, I have been quite astounded. A persons worth is not in how many fancy trainers one owns, my son has zero interest in fashion.

His parents are out on the piss no doubt so little chance of getting them to come back, and I'm not a very confrontational person, but I won't have him back!

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Milkandnosugarplease · 13/01/2024 18:50

You need to call out that behaviour and say it is not polite. Don’t let a 9 year old bully you

takealettermsjones · 13/01/2024 18:49

Fredthefrog · 13/01/2024 18:46

I'd tell the kid to find his manners or he can go home. I'd follow through as well and call parents to pick up if needed. Has he always been rude or is this new?

This 100%. If that was my kid at someone else's house I would 100% want to be told, and I'd be mortified.

BudgetFoodie · 13/01/2024 18:49

End the sleepover!

Have you pulled him up on his behaviour?

DD still remembers the night it was my turn to collect her and 3 classmates from orchestra practice. Two of the kids (9/10) were being right brats and wouldn't shut up when I told them to.
I stopped the car (layby) on a dark stretch of road, turned off the engine and refused to move until they were quiet................never had any issues with them after that 😂

mouseychick · 13/01/2024 18:49

One warning. Then he's out.