Rude kid/sleepover

Its a lesson to the wet parents that let their children talk to them like shit. They then do that to other adults as no one has taught them how to behave - and this is the result.

We've all been there!
I once allowed my daughter and her friend to choose one treat at the shops. Friend wanted all of hers and more than half of my daughter's. My daughter said no, I backed her up, friend got SUPER nasty. I definitely had to be the grown up and pull the 'we do not speak to people like that in our home' and also make sure the kids played in the main room where I could hear them, as I could not trust what this friend would say if she got my daughter alne in her bedroom where she thought I couldn't hear her!
It was actually a really good thing for my daughter, we had a very honest conversation after friend went home about what makes for a good friendship, and how important it is that friends respect our boundaries, etc. We haven't had play dates with that child again.

One of DD's 'friends' was so poorly behaved on a playdate that DD never invited her over again...

Don't stop all sleepovers. Can't tar all children with the same brush but I'd certainly stop any future sleepovers with that particular child..... not just sleepovers but no coming for dinner etc

This is why i don't allow my kids to go on sleepovers. You sound awful

Not the time or place imo. Sleepovers are quite scary for kids - they can be fun, yes, but often intense and a bit too much. This behaviour sounds extreme, but it's not surprising that kids sometimes act out or go a bit feral in these circumstances. I'd prefer always to give the benefit of the doubt (along with toast/cereal/cheese sandwiches/hot chocolate or whatever the picky eater wanted to be comfortable).

What a horrible child OP - Parents must be delightful.

Sorry, but that’s odd. Call them out and say they’re behaving badly, but that’s a weird passive aggressive response to it.

I'd say something like "people that brag about all the great things they have or make rude comments about other people usually do it because they don't feel very good about themselves." And leave it there...

Plus never have him back!

He's only 9 and likely unwittingly just behaving as is normal in his family.

Don't write him off, he's just a kid.

All it takes is to quietly let him know things happen differently in your house, e.g:

In our house we don't comment or make jokes about other people's bodies.
In our house we think what people do and say is more important than what they wear.

And quickly move on, continue the sleepover "fun". He'll hear you and have a think about it later. When you grow up in a house where people behave like this and someone quietly and kindly tells you different, it really makes you stop and think, even if its not immediately obvious to others...

Ive had this once..

I generally hand it back i guess? I dont take offence as i guess its the showing off, pushing boundaries thing.

Like i had a kid swearing trashing the place, and i had a birthday card from my hubby with a joke on it on the table (nothing super rude like a baked bean joke card indicating a fart no words just a hint image)

She started pointing at it going omg so bad, how horrid, your all disgusting. I laughed and said nothing compared to whats been coming out your mouth..then she went quiet and didnt make a rude peep again.

I dont know if thats the right tact..but i gather that if they are testing their environment you have to assert yourself so they know you are the grown up, if you remain mute they think they are ruling the roost. But also cant be the parent. So its frustrating.

Im still learning, ive been quite shocked how mean kids can be 😅 i dont remember it being so intense when i was a kid.

I don't get why you just don't tell the kid off.

I secretly love a sleep over when I can get my hands on my dc’s friends and pull them up on their shit.

I'm sure you didn't mean this to sound as disturbing as it does.

But all the same, your poor kids must be mortified.

Urgh I hate it when you come across a kid like that. Like you say, it does make you appreciate how nice your own kids are! My DD in particular, is definitely a parents favourite.
The fat mama jokes would piss me off (he's in your house, the rude little horror) and I have no time for the bragging.
Don't let him back for another visit and don't say "Oh he's been fine, good, lovely" etc out of politeness, to the parents at pick up!

What a little shit that kid sounds

I've had this before with a playdate. DS friend came round and was an utter shit all the time he was here. Teasing my youngest, running around, being really rude to me and my husband. We felt like strangers in our own home it was horrible. He's not been back on his own since.

Tell him the ghost gets a bit cross when kids get lippy.

(Joke. Don't do that).

As for the showing off, he is only 9 and might need people pointing out that showing off is not fun. Speak up, in a polite mentoring type of way - this is how children learn. So many harsh and silly responses, who is really going to text ‘hi, your child has been showing off all night and he’s going on my nerves so please collect’

I don't understand why you won't tell him to pack it in!

He's only 9!

I wouldn’t hesitate to tell his parents exactly what he’d said and did, and I’d never have him back.

Pull him up on it, little brat! Tell him outright that he is being really rude and bad mannered and you will be calling his parents to collect him if he doesn't show some manners. And follow through on it! Tell his parents exactly how he has been behaving. Hopefully they will be utterly mortified and knock some class into the little shite.

I know it's not the main point but neither I nor my kids have more than one pair of trainers. Kids especially grow out of them so fast!

Op, I sympathise with you. Just chalk it up and don’t have him over again.

Only 1 child has never been invited back to my house because he was an absolute nightmare. He tried to take dds iPad off her, called her a spoilt brat for having one and told her Santa wasn't real. He was upstairs in ds room and came downstairs to take it off her. I phoned his mum to collect.

He's never been back.

How horrible OP. You shouldn’t have to put up with that. And your poor kids must have been so embarrassed.
When my son was little one of his friends took the mick out of the way I pronounce something. He was so upset I found him upstairs shaking with anger and crying (and he was such a placid lad). He was always so protective of me, was just us from when he was 1-12.