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To ask your yearly household income?

209 replies

Sfuandtired · 12/01/2024 21:20

Feel free to say I am being unreasonable and tell me to mind my own business, it’s a genuine question though, I’m interested in finding out if the wealth divide really is as big as it’s portrayed in the media and/or if I’m losing touch with reality.
I’ll start, ours is 60k after tax, 2 working adults and 2 children and I’d consider us to be in the average range. TIA

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Cornecopia · 26/01/2025 14:07

460k per year. 3 children. I stay home.

amybobs · 19/08/2024 10:38

79k joint DH earns commission so average 15k on top of that.
3 teenagers 1 in uni
North West, big mortgage. Definitely feeling the pinch this past year.

MissMelanieH · 14/01/2024 12:01

Single parent of one child in North of England. On £45,000 my mortgage is tiny now and I'm a homebody so we're reasonably comfortable but can't afford the big stuff like holidays abroad or new furniture.

mrlistersgelfbride · 14/01/2024 10:47

70k roughly after tax.
Both work full time.
1 child.
North west.

Shityshitybangbang · 14/01/2024 10:06

keylemon · Yesterday 11:08
aye right then 350k??? What bubble are you in?? 😂

GymBergerac · 13/01/2024 16:04

Depending on whether DH actually gets paid for any of the overtime he always does, it's somewhere between not quite enough and nowhere near enough....

Two of us. Renting. Adult kids all moved away....

Berryberrywintermedley · 13/01/2024 16:03

35k
Two kids 9 and 3
I work part time 20 hours a week
He works 36 hours a week

Twiglets11 · 13/01/2024 16:02

WithACatLikeTread · 13/01/2024 15:25

Yes there were several ridiculous posts on here but £350k even in London is pretty good going. Of course you are doing well.

Yes I agree with you. I’m sure a lot of things we take for granted are not necessities, but feel like they are (ie nursery). I just meant compared to some of the responses I read here re ‘bandings’. I actually shouldn’t have posted, nothing positive for anyone from such a thread.

Createausernametoday · 13/01/2024 15:32

4 boxes of Jaffa cakes and a twix…before tax so really 3 boxes and 1.5 sticks or whatever they’re called net

WithACatLikeTread · 13/01/2024 15:25

Twiglets11 · 13/01/2024 14:11

Not sure why the face. Have you seen some of the responses , and I’m in London, lot of the responses are from the North.

Yes there were several ridiculous posts on here but £350k even in London is pretty good going. Of course you are doing well.

BluJanuary · 13/01/2024 15:11

Before tax our basic income is somewhere around £53k (one full time, one part time). That's not counting overtime and shift allowances we get though, so it's higher, but I've no idea how much we actually take home!

infor · 13/01/2024 14:56

For those with the thrifty gene who survive well on low incomes, there would seem to be some opportunities to earn something from the more time-pressured folk here who spend wastefully.
I'm confident that I spend £5k+ each year that I'm blissfully unaware of. Sometimes it's due to being consistent with personal values - loyalty to good causes or business start-ups - more often just because I cant be arsed to check alternatives.
I live close to where Jordon Cox became famous as 'The Coupon Kid' and remember him buying £600 of goods for charity for the princely sum of 4p, so
figure out what your 'special sauce' is, be able to articulate it (without giving the game away) and I think 2024 could offer a good side hustle.

Twiglets11 · 13/01/2024 14:11

WithACatLikeTread · 12/01/2024 22:34

🙄

Not sure why the face. Have you seen some of the responses , and I’m in London, lot of the responses are from the North.

Flamesatmytoes · 13/01/2024 13:11

dottiedodah · 13/01/2024 10:15

Seems a little intrusive ! Surely people will just say random things anyway.

You do realise this is anonymous. How can it intrude?

Blindsided12 · 13/01/2024 12:56

@Agustus Senior UX designer for well know US software firm. I could change but do know I wouldn't get more money. Money definitely does not equal happiness, I can confidently say, if job satisfaction is low. Such a big part of one's life.

wasanneofcleves · 13/01/2024 12:09

OneStepOn · 13/01/2024 11:43

350k joint household income (DH in IT, me self-employed)

There is nothing about us that would ever make you think we have a higher income than whatever is average. We budget, save when we can (then it gets blown through for all sorts of reasons to be needing to save up again from zero) have 3 DCs, one at uni and one at private school due to learning difficulties.

We are on the outskirts of london and live in a modest terraced house on a quiet street. Drive 5 year old cars, can take 2-3 family holidays a year.

The one thing I believe this wage will afford us is early retirement (DH will have the option of moving to 2 days a week consulting or finishing entirely when 55) and we have investments ready for the kids when they need mortgage deposits.

Amongst friends we are in the middle of how people earn I would say.

Some people on this thread are so tone deaf. "Whatever is average". Average is about 70k combined income if both adults work full time. So you earn about 5 times the average.

Being able to have one child in private school, 2-3 holidays a year and early retirement plus investments for three children are all obvious markers that you're extremely well off. Get a grip.

WithManyTot · 13/01/2024 12:01

NewYear24 · 13/01/2024 11:45

According to the ONS chart only about one in fifty of random people I meet should have a household income more than us..... but on Mumsnet threads like this it seems to be everyone! Equally in other threads everyone else seems to be choosing between heating and eating, so something is not right here?

Why is it not right, people post on threads they are interested in? I like to travel so if I see a thread about holidays I’ll often post as well other travel enthusiasts. Income threads are the same or people who can’t afford hearing will attract other such posters.

My household income was just under 200k before retirement, lots of friends and obviously colleagues earned similar amounts. Why is is is so unbelievable that people can earn a high salary?

I've read back through my post. Where do I say it is unbelievable?

SideshowAuntSallyx · 13/01/2024 12:00

Astonetogo · 13/01/2024 11:33

I hate these threads. Nobody ever comes out of it feeling good.And I don’t believe all the high salaries on here are genuine for a second, or if they are then I feel sorry for the posters who get their kicks swanking about how wealthy they are on mumsnet.

Edited

Agree. My salary is between me, my boss and HR. Not some random on the Internet.

I also think some of these posts come across as quite smug and bragging.

Getthethrowonthesofa · 13/01/2024 11:50

WithManyTot · 13/01/2024 11:39

According to the ONS chart only about one in fifty of random people I meet should have a household income more than us..... but on Mumsnet threads like this it seems to be everyone! Equally in other threads everyone else seems to be choosing between heating and eating, so something is not right here?

I don’t k ow how much you earn, but there is clearly a huge range here, plus there is I think about 10 million people on this site, so only a minute percentage posting.

HashBrownandBeans · 13/01/2024 11:49

We have £55k a year coming in and it’s nowhere near enough. We private rent in the south. Drive an old banger that’s about to die. No savings. We will never own a home. We do have a large family to support though.

AndThatWasNY · 13/01/2024 11:48

WithACatLikeTread · 12/01/2024 21:36

None of your business.

Why respond! Not got a gun to your head. So strange.

NewYear24 · 13/01/2024 11:45

According to the ONS chart only about one in fifty of random people I meet should have a household income more than us..... but on Mumsnet threads like this it seems to be everyone! Equally in other threads everyone else seems to be choosing between heating and eating, so something is not right here?

Why is it not right, people post on threads they are interested in? I like to travel so if I see a thread about holidays I’ll often post as well other travel enthusiasts. Income threads are the same or people who can’t afford hearing will attract other such posters.

My household income was just under 200k before retirement, lots of friends and obviously colleagues earned similar amounts. Why is is is so unbelievable that people can earn a high salary?

OneStepOn · 13/01/2024 11:43

350k joint household income (DH in IT, me self-employed)

There is nothing about us that would ever make you think we have a higher income than whatever is average. We budget, save when we can (then it gets blown through for all sorts of reasons to be needing to save up again from zero) have 3 DCs, one at uni and one at private school due to learning difficulties.

We are on the outskirts of london and live in a modest terraced house on a quiet street. Drive 5 year old cars, can take 2-3 family holidays a year.

The one thing I believe this wage will afford us is early retirement (DH will have the option of moving to 2 days a week consulting or finishing entirely when 55) and we have investments ready for the kids when they need mortgage deposits.

Amongst friends we are in the middle of how people earn I would say.

decionsdecisions62 · 13/01/2024 11:41

£4! Get a life.

WithManyTot · 13/01/2024 11:39

According to the ONS chart only about one in fifty of random people I meet should have a household income more than us..... but on Mumsnet threads like this it seems to be everyone! Equally in other threads everyone else seems to be choosing between heating and eating, so something is not right here?