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Sick of Dds teacher

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Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 15:10

Dd is 5 and in Pre school (we’re abroad)
She started to not want to go in, in October, she said the teacher was shouting at the children for not doing the work properly etc (I posted on here) I went in several times, plus Dh too.
The teacher said she didn’t shout etc etc, things got better.
This week, she’s been crying again at bedtime and this morning was crying not to go in again, I ended up getting out of her (eventually) that the teacher has been shouting at her (and others) if she puts her name in the wrong place on the paper 🤷🏻‍♀️apparently she shouts ‘Not there, over here!’
Dd was also upset as she says one of the boys in her class (one of her friends) is always shouted at to sit still and stop playing. I’ve seen this boy, he’s very sweet, but younger and obviously full of energy. I understand he has to learn to try to sit and not play during lessons and so on, but Dd says he cries and cries and his face goes red.
So sick and tired of going in to complain and nothing being done.
Dd finishes with this teacher at the end of June, but we want to stay in the school and have to re register to move up to the next part of school. I don’t want to take her out and put the chance of this in jeopardy, but equally I can’t put my Dd in this situation all the time.
This is not merely a teacher bashing thread, I’m a teacher myself and would
never get cross and shout it a 5 year old put their name in the *Wrong place on a paper!
What else can I do? I also need to work part time, so need to have Dd in Pre school
She adores her friends there, is very well liked, loves the teaching assistant, who she says is *Kind to her 😔

OP posts:
peppermintcrisp · 12/01/2024 15:57

My DD would say this and it was usually if someone uses a negative tone with her as PP said.

Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 15:56

Where we are is a different culture, shouting likely wouldn’t be considered that unusual or wrong

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doublexegg · 12/01/2024 15:53

DialMforMummy · 12/01/2024 15:51

You don't like all the teachers? All of them?

I have my reasons.
Not all teachers are awful but i have met a few that are.

DialMforMummy · 12/01/2024 15:53

Could it be worth talking to other parents to see if their child's perception is similar?

DialMforMummy · 12/01/2024 15:51

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 15:46

I dont like teachers.
But what i dont understand is that a teacher can get a way with shouting but a parent is called abusive if they shout at their children.
So why is it to be accepted at a school by a stranger.

You don't like all the teachers? All of them?

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 15:46

I dont like teachers.
But what i dont understand is that a teacher can get a way with shouting but a parent is called abusive if they shout at their children.
So why is it to be accepted at a school by a stranger.

SusieSussex · 12/01/2024 15:37

Dd did have a reception teacher who shouted back in 2008-9. Parents had heard her. She retired in 2012. The TA wouldn't necessarily speak up about it.

Spendonsend · 12/01/2024 15:27

My experience with my own children, and working in an infant school is that children often say shouted at when no shouting has taken place. They are actually picking up on a negative tone and criticism and feel shouted at. So when you complain about shouting, the teacher thinks 'wtf, i dont shout' and then the rest of the issue is ignoredm

A possible way to tackle it is ask the teacher to help your daughter who struggling hugely with the way small mistakes or issues are communicated and feels 'shouted at" rather than supported to get things right. Also ask if there is any pastoral support in

Otherwise its a complaint if there is genuine shouting going on.

givemushypeasachance · 12/01/2024 15:21

Is the teacher actually shouting, or does your DD just perceive her as shouting? I say this because my friend's 7yo, if told off for something or if his mum has to repeatedly ask him time and time again to do something and ends up using a firm tone, will cry and say "stop shouting at me!". His mum isn't shouting, he just doesn't like being told off, and interprets firmness and being stuff like "told brush your teeth now I won't ask you again" as shouting.

Would a professional teacher of 4-5 year old children, with another adult (TA) present, realistically shout at the class about writing their names in the wrong place on a sheet of paper. And then deny it to parents who raise concerns, saying she doesn't shout. What does that achieve? I don't know - maybe she's a horrible person who enjoys powertripping with tiny children and has bullied the TA into keeping quiet about it. In which case escalate your concerns to the headteacher and whatever governance structure the pre-school has.

EveryDayIsASchoolDayOnMN · 12/01/2024 15:18

Can you speak directly to the Head? Dont bother trying again with the teacher.