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Sick of Dds teacher

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Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 15:10

Dd is 5 and in Pre school (we’re abroad)
She started to not want to go in, in October, she said the teacher was shouting at the children for not doing the work properly etc (I posted on here) I went in several times, plus Dh too.
The teacher said she didn’t shout etc etc, things got better.
This week, she’s been crying again at bedtime and this morning was crying not to go in again, I ended up getting out of her (eventually) that the teacher has been shouting at her (and others) if she puts her name in the wrong place on the paper 🤷🏻‍♀️apparently she shouts ‘Not there, over here!’
Dd was also upset as she says one of the boys in her class (one of her friends) is always shouted at to sit still and stop playing. I’ve seen this boy, he’s very sweet, but younger and obviously full of energy. I understand he has to learn to try to sit and not play during lessons and so on, but Dd says he cries and cries and his face goes red.
So sick and tired of going in to complain and nothing being done.
Dd finishes with this teacher at the end of June, but we want to stay in the school and have to re register to move up to the next part of school. I don’t want to take her out and put the chance of this in jeopardy, but equally I can’t put my Dd in this situation all the time.
This is not merely a teacher bashing thread, I’m a teacher myself and would
never get cross and shout it a 5 year old put their name in the *Wrong place on a paper!
What else can I do? I also need to work part time, so need to have Dd in Pre school
She adores her friends there, is very well liked, loves the teaching assistant, who she says is *Kind to her 😔

OP posts:
Unicornsunited123 · 12/01/2024 20:34

Saying a blanket statment ' I don't like teachers' is bizarre, but what I've learnt from MN is some people seem to be and its usually waste of time trying to unpick it

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:31

@doublexegg I assume a certain level of intelligence and saying

I don't like teachers

Doesn't meet it

I also challenge the

I don't like cyclists

What would you suggest would replace teachers, that you would like?,

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:26

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:23

@doublexegg I've not paid for premium.... I've now taken the time to read that lots of people think your comment was ridiculous....

I don't like cheese .... so it means I don't like any cheese, surely?

But I think you're being really silly now....

But you won't listen to that, all the posters saying you're being ridiculous are correct!

👏👏I think the whole thing is silly ive read much worse on here and this is the post that gets to people Huuummmm.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:23

@doublexegg I've not paid for premium.... I've now taken the time to read that lots of people think your comment was ridiculous....

I don't like cheese .... so it means I don't like any cheese, surely?

But I think you're being really silly now....

But you won't listen to that, all the posters saying you're being ridiculous are correct!

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:23

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:22

this Makes no sense whatsoever.
If you can’t respond to a simple analogy, there’s no hope really, is there?

Well its become abit of a joke now.

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:22

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:15

Sorry but do you have a potato problem.

this Makes no sense whatsoever.
If you can’t respond to a simple analogy, there’s no hope really, is there?

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:21

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:19

Nobody is saying everybody has to like teachers. They are saying that to state that you don’t like any of them is a bit weird. Which it is.

Oh com on i dont like brad pit but i do like some of his films.

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:19

SmellyKat10 · 12/01/2024 19:08

It’s just weird that they’d care so much about one random poster’s opinion. Why is it so important that everyone likes teachers? I’m a lawyer. No one likes lawyers. I’m fine with that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nobody is saying everybody has to like teachers. They are saying that to state that you don’t like any of them is a bit weird. Which it is.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:15

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:13

If I say I don’t like potatoes do you infer that I don’t like some sorts of potato? Some individual potatoes? Or all potatoes?

Sorry but do you have a potato problem.

ShoePalaver · 12/01/2024 20:15

DialMforMummy · 12/01/2024 20:00

Well, personally, I think it denotes a limited mindset to claim not to "like" people on the basis of their job.

Probably but it's quite common . Think of traffic wardens. Health visitors. I'm sure there are others.

Although it tends to be people who don't work who are most critical of other people. Once you have worked in a customer facing role yourself you tend to have a much better understanding of the challenges involved.

I worked for a while with unemployed clients who received for free a service other people had to pay market rate for. The ones getting it for free were the ones demanding service at all hours with absolutely no understanding of why it wasn't possible to do exactly what they wanted. The paying clients usually said thank you even if they rolled their eyes at the cost.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:13

Mywhoopdeedoo · 12/01/2024 19:54

‘I don’t like teachers’ there’s quite a lot of us you know @doublexegg

I hope theres a lot of teachers we have a lot of schools.

cardibach · 12/01/2024 20:13

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 16:18

I implied nothing your making something out of nothing or trying to.
I said i dont like teachers thats not meaning one lump.

If I say I don’t like potatoes do you infer that I don’t like some sorts of potato? Some individual potatoes? Or all potatoes?

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:12

Bellsandthistle · 12/01/2024 19:43

Have you considered that maybe you’re the problem @doublexegg ?

Edited

just getting silly now.

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 20:11

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:08

You don't like any teachers?

None of them?

Read all the other quotes you will have your answer.

kisstheblarney · 12/01/2024 20:08

doublexegg · 12/01/2024 15:46

I dont like teachers.
But what i dont understand is that a teacher can get a way with shouting but a parent is called abusive if they shout at their children.
So why is it to be accepted at a school by a stranger.

You don't like any teachers?

None of them?

Clarabell77 · 12/01/2024 20:05

It doesn’t matter if the teacher isn’t actually shouting, she’s making at least two children cry because of her teaching style, so something isn’t right. They’re 5 years old ffs. I’d go to the head teacher and make sure it’s properly addressed.

DialMforMummy · 12/01/2024 20:00

SmellyKat10 · 12/01/2024 19:08

It’s just weird that they’d care so much about one random poster’s opinion. Why is it so important that everyone likes teachers? I’m a lawyer. No one likes lawyers. I’m fine with that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well, personally, I think it denotes a limited mindset to claim not to "like" people on the basis of their job.

Mywhoopdeedoo · 12/01/2024 19:55

Have you heard the teacher shout op ?

Mywhoopdeedoo · 12/01/2024 19:54

‘I don’t like teachers’ there’s quite a lot of us you know @doublexegg

Sugargliderwombat · 12/01/2024 19:44

"got out of her eventually" is the reason I put Yabu. If you keep interrogating a child they will keep giving answers until they give you one you accept.

Bellsandthistle · 12/01/2024 19:43

Have you considered that maybe you’re the problem @doublexegg ?

itsgettingweird · 12/01/2024 19:38

Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 17:08

@itsgettingweird She says she doesn’t always know where to do it. She’s 5, she makes mistakes, they all do, you don’t shout at a 5 year old for putting their name in the wrong place ffs.

I never suggested you do.

But I was wondering if dd said it's because her name is in the wrong place if she knew where she was meant to do it but wasn't.

Plus the question is if it's impatience or shouting. I don't agree with shouting at a child but am not against showing impatience when they haven't listened and followed an instruction.

alfagirl73 · 12/01/2024 19:35

The bit that jumps out at me is that after you spoke to the teacher things appeared to get better for a while and have now declined again. That suggests to me that after being spoken to, the teacher toned it down a bit and was more considered in her manner, but it's slipped now and her previous style has crept back in. Certainly something changed after that conversation you had with the teacher to improve the situation for a while, which does tend to support what your child is saying. Your child was miserable going to school... you had a word... things got better and I assume your child was quite happy going to school during that time when things were better, but now your child is dreading going to school again.

penjil · 12/01/2024 19:27

Someonepaintmyhouseplease · 12/01/2024 15:56

Where we are is a different culture, shouting likely wouldn’t be considered that unusual or wrong

Well, don't drip feed, say where you are in the opening post!

Bearbookagainandagain · 12/01/2024 19:09

If you are in France as others have suggested , then she better get use to putting her name in the right place! She has years to come of being harassed by teachers about where she wrote the date, her name, what colour she used, did she underline the title, how many pages her workbook has,...

More seriously, I don't think anyone else has suggested to actually help your daughter with the task if that's what is causing the issue with the teacher? If you want her to stay in that school, she might need to just get on with it. It's not the last time she will have teachers she doesn't like.
If it's France, then they would usually be asked to write their name in the margin, or "two squares down, 5 squares to the right" type of instructions.

The only other option I can think off is to ask for her to move to another classe if there is one available, but that's quite hard to achieve.