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To vaccinate newborn or not

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confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:37

I know this is a very sensitive subject, but i’m asking please for FACTS only - I don’t want answers like ‘because the NHS recommends you to vaccinate your baby etc’

Id like to point out i’m not ‘anti vax’ as such, but covid really opened my eyes to researching vaccines etc i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts.

What I don’t like, is the pressure that is put on us to do as we’re told with our babies. I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate - it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby.

Please be kind, I really am confused about this and would love some different perspectives

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Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:42

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:39

Sorry have you read any of my replies? I’ve already said my child will be vaccinated? Stop arguing for the sake of it, your points are
flawed because i’ve never said i’m listening to any old mum?
Ive got exactly what i came here for - facts on the vaccination from real professionals

Good. Life is too short to trawl through 20 pages of posts. Glad you are protecting your child.

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:41

Abbimae · 10/01/2024 20:36

antivax trolls can’t believe that anyone is possibly better qualified than them

Not sure if this was aimed at me sorry - wanted to clarify i’m 100% not an antivaxx troller and i have come here solely for information from people better qualified than me - which has been amazing.

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Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:41

Abbimae · 10/01/2024 20:36

antivax trolls can’t believe that anyone is possibly better qualified than them

Exactly.

To vaccinate newborn or not
confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:39

Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:36

All the doctors are saying get the baby vaccinated. Why on earth would you listen to some random mum who believes in any old conspiracy theory?

Do your child a favour and get them vaccinated. It’s the caring thing to do.

Sorry have you read any of my replies? I’ve already said my child will be vaccinated? Stop arguing for the sake of it, your points are
flawed because i’ve never said i’m listening to any old mum?
Ive got exactly what i came here for - facts on the vaccination from real professionals

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AuntyMabelandPippin · 10/01/2024 20:37

Those people who had reactions to the vaccine, did they ever think how they would have been if they'd had the actual illness, after how they'd felt after the vaccine?

OP, vaccines have saved lives for over 200 years. Can you imagine your child having Smallpox or Polio?? Have your children vaccinated.

Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:36

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:34

If you read through the 20+ pages of replies, you will find a huge amount of them have more qualifications and knowledge in this matter
than you or I - far more information than I could have found by googling random facts that are unlikely to help. So I think you’ll see its an excellent place for highly qualified and experienced medical researchers.

All the doctors are saying get the baby vaccinated. Why on earth would you listen to some random mum who believes in any old conspiracy theory?

Do your child a favour and get them vaccinated. It’s the caring thing to do.

Abbimae · 10/01/2024 20:36

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:34

If you read through the 20+ pages of replies, you will find a huge amount of them have more qualifications and knowledge in this matter
than you or I - far more information than I could have found by googling random facts that are unlikely to help. So I think you’ll see its an excellent place for highly qualified and experienced medical researchers.

antivax trolls can’t believe that anyone is possibly better qualified than them

Abbimae · 10/01/2024 20:34

Are you for real? This just attracts antivax rubbish. There is NO evidence vaccinating is dangerous other that social media rubbis

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:34

Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:30

This is MN, not a forum for highly qualified and experienced medical researchers. 🤦🏻‍♀️

If you read through the 20+ pages of replies, you will find a huge amount of them have more qualifications and knowledge in this matter
than you or I - far more information than I could have found by googling random facts that are unlikely to help. So I think you’ll see its an excellent place for highly qualified and experienced medical researchers.

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Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:30

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:29

No im not and i never claimed to be? Hence
coming on MN for help 🙂

This is MN, not a forum for highly qualified and experienced medical researchers. 🤦🏻‍♀️

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/01/2024 20:30

The thing is people's memories are short.

Mumps, measles, whooping cough all seem a thing of past, we forget how dangerous they can be.

We start researching clicking on random internet links and here we are.

therealcookiemonster · 10/01/2024 20:30

@Ann3347 I'm afraid your posts on this thread is a prime example of the concept "a little knowledge is dangerous (more so than ignorance)". it's a Bangladeshi proverb - a so called underdeveloped country where despite being poor (obviously we all live b】elow the poverty line and have no access to healthcare), we still have great proverbs. and some of us can read and write!

you are making massive assumptions about these countries, firstly by putting them together all in one group.

it might surprise you that people in the 'underdeveloped' world are also human beings with human physiology! so lessons learnt there can also be applied to the bodies of people living in the west. also studies have to account for pre existing conditions etc. usually they will exclude based on certain criteria. I would disagree that people in underdeveloped countries have 'worse health' in general. there may be more mortality from acute illnesses but the incidence of diseases of affluence is much lower. people are more physically active etc. either way, the outcomes and criteria for significant findings in these kind of studies means the differences in populations are less significant.

just to give you some background I am a doctor who is from Bangladesh, but qualified here and have been working in the NHS for 10+ years. I also did extensive work in Bangladesh, especially in paediatrics. I also did a bsc in international health. there are far more qualified pp's who have responded to your comments.

you are right in that it's up to you what you want to do regarding vaccinations for your own family. I mean you could light your hair on fire and it wouldn't be anyone else's business ...until you needed to get down to the burns unit ... FYI i often work in the burns unit .. .... ( you can ask for a different doc if you are worried that as someone from an underprivileged country I am not fit to treat you). and thus it is your opinion on vaccines is all well and good until your kids... or some one else's kids get hurt.

ps: just out of interest... what is your educational background that makes you think your research will lead to more correct opinions than almost all the doctors in the world?

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 20:29

Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:21

Research? Are you medically or scientifically qualified? Reading some anti vax blogs is not research.

Vaccines save lives. Have you any idea how many infants died before vaccines meant hold didn’t die from what are now easily preventable diseases?

No im not and i never claimed to be? Hence
coming on MN for help 🙂

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Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:25

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 20:02

The developed world has more vaccines and also has better standards of living, water, food etc. the undeveloped countries with lower vaccination levels have poor food provisions, more poverty, unclean water, little health care etc. You are more likely to fight off disease if you are healthier to begin with.
I didn't say the study should not include vaccine related disease it should, it should include general health i.e an individuals complete health record.
I'm comfortable with my non vaccinated stance and that I and my child are unvaccinated I'm equally comfortable that you have had vaccines. It's a choice and we are free to make our own decisions.

So you are protected as other people are vaccinated. Your refusal to be vaccinated and not taking that protective step for your children lowers herd immunity.

Some people cannot be vaccinated and your selfish actions risks others, as well as your own children.

I hope your children grow up with more sense.

Meowandthen · 10/01/2024 20:21

Research? Are you medically or scientifically qualified? Reading some anti vax blogs is not research.

Vaccines save lives. Have you any idea how many infants died before vaccines meant hold didn’t die from what are now easily preventable diseases?

Gingerbee · 10/01/2024 20:19

When I was backpacking in the himalayas a lady tried stopping people as we trekked past. My small group stopped I was the only female. She thrust her baby into my arms for help. He was very poorly. Two medics in my group diagnosed measles. No vaccination program in that area.
She thrust the baby back into my arms as the poor we mite took his last breath.
I will never forget it.
My children were vaccinated as soon as they were old enough

startatthegin · 10/01/2024 20:17

Rachie1973 · 10/01/2024 20:09

This is Ewan, his mum is a good friend of mine. I have her full permission to post her story. She actively encourages it.

Mum never had a whooping cough vaccine, my fault actually. I had a convulsion after mine way back in the 70s. My siblings didn’t get their vaccines, GP advised against it, despite it being a plain old febrile convulsion and not repeated it was just how things were.

All 3 of my brothers and sister caught whooping cough. Somehow the 1 vaccine seemed enough to protect me. I recall with clarity though the horrific noise they made as they coughed and gasped for air. By some miracle all 3 came through it relatively unscathed.

Moving on to Ewan, his Mum was a neighbour. Her parents chose not to vaccinate after seeing me have the convulsion too. She fortunately didn’t ever catch the illness.

Fast forward 20 odd years. Ewan was bought to visit me at 4 weeks old. Whilst at mine his mum mentioned that she and the baby both had horrific coughs. When he started coughing my blood ran cold. Once you’ve heard the ‘whoop’ you recognise it. Trying not to panic her I advised that she went to A and E which she did. Poor Ewan, and her had Whooping cough. Ewan became so ill he had to be airlifted from the South Coast to Leicester to put him on the ECMO machine to reoxygenate his blood outside of his body. He was given a very small chance of survival. Mum and Dad had to chase up the country overnight with the fear that their darling little boy might not still be alive when they arrived.

He did survive, and he’s a young man now, but he has brain damage and is still very reliant on his Mum.

It turned out that Mum didn’t know she hadn’t had the whooping cough vaccine so offered no protective antibodies through her breast milk, Ewan himself hadn’t started his vaccination schedule yet. Shortly after the whooping cough booster was rolled out to all pregnant women.

To me the vaccination program is a minor risk compared to the potential illnesses.

Wow, what a powerful story of the damage trusting anecdote, or one case, over the data can be. Thank you for sharing.

I hope Ewan is ok now?

JassyRadlett · 10/01/2024 20:14

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 19:38

The German study only looked at children upto one year of age.

To quote the Taiwan study...'The majority (74%) of our study’s participants were over 40 years old. The mean age was 53 years old. Of the total number of participants, 43.8% were male and 56.2% were female. Vaccinated participants had a slightly higher proportion of concurrent conditions than did unvaccinated participants, including hypertension, chronic kidney disease, diabetes, COPD, and depression.'

Ooh are we cherry picking? Awesome. (You really need to read the whole thing.)

I always wonder if we see more of these diseases now partly due to environmental factors but also partly because the more susceptible weren't taken out by measles, diphtheria, polio and the like in childhood.

(I have zero scientific basis for this, but it's just a musing, and one I'm always curious that isn't given more weight by those who seek to look for causes of these phenomena. That said, I'm aware that cancer rates increase as the population ages. But the flipside is the awful sequelae of diseases like measles.)

Blahblah34 · 10/01/2024 20:12

Your kids were fine because enough other people got their kids vaccinated so yours didn’t get polio

Rachie1973 · 10/01/2024 20:09

This is Ewan, his mum is a good friend of mine. I have her full permission to post her story. She actively encourages it.

Mum never had a whooping cough vaccine, my fault actually. I had a convulsion after mine way back in the 70s. My siblings didn’t get their vaccines, GP advised against it, despite it being a plain old febrile convulsion and not repeated it was just how things were.

All 3 of my brothers and sister caught whooping cough. Somehow the 1 vaccine seemed enough to protect me. I recall with clarity though the horrific noise they made as they coughed and gasped for air. By some miracle all 3 came through it relatively unscathed.

Moving on to Ewan, his Mum was a neighbour. Her parents chose not to vaccinate after seeing me have the convulsion too. She fortunately didn’t ever catch the illness.

Fast forward 20 odd years. Ewan was bought to visit me at 4 weeks old. Whilst at mine his mum mentioned that she and the baby both had horrific coughs. When he started coughing my blood ran cold. Once you’ve heard the ‘whoop’ you recognise it. Trying not to panic her I advised that she went to A and E which she did. Poor Ewan, and her had Whooping cough. Ewan became so ill he had to be airlifted from the South Coast to Leicester to put him on the ECMO machine to reoxygenate his blood outside of his body. He was given a very small chance of survival. Mum and Dad had to chase up the country overnight with the fear that their darling little boy might not still be alive when they arrived.

He did survive, and he’s a young man now, but he has brain damage and is still very reliant on his Mum.

It turned out that Mum didn’t know she hadn’t had the whooping cough vaccine so offered no protective antibodies through her breast milk, Ewan himself hadn’t started his vaccination schedule yet. Shortly after the whooping cough booster was rolled out to all pregnant women.

To me the vaccination program is a minor risk compared to the potential illnesses.

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 20:02

CouCouCachou · 10/01/2024 18:00

Is the reality not that even if vaccinations made people more likely to develop skin complaints and asthma (and there is no evidence that they do), the overwhelming majority of people would still choose to vaccinate, because skin complaints and asthma are so much less serious than measles, polio, diptheria etc?

Something must account for the fact that in countries with good vaccine provision almost nobody dies of these illnesses, and in countries with poor vaccine provision, thousands of people do. If you don't believe vaccines are the reason, what do you think does explain this fact?

And if you accept the fact that vaccines do prevent these illnesses, but your issue is that you still believe they might cause asthma, would you still not choose a world with higher instances of asthma than a world with higher instances of measles?

Saying that a study is "looking at differences in vaccine disease only" in "underdeveloped countries" and is therefore not what you want is spectacularly missing the point, because you cant exclude vaccine-preventable diseases from your overall assessment of health. If you want to compare the general health of vaccinated people with the general health of unvaccinated people then you have to include the existence of vaccine-preventable diseases because those diseases exist. It's nonsensical to suggest you can exclude them from a study of public health.

It's like you want a study that says "Here is a comparison of the overall health of vaccinated people vs the overall health of unvaccinated people in an imaginary world where vaccine-preventable diseases don't exist and there is therefore no risk of catching them if you aren't vaccinated". What would be the point of that? That world doesn't exist.

And if you specifically want to compare the health of vaccinated people with that of unvaccinated people in countries with good vaccine provision, you have to account for the fact that unvaccinated people in these countries benefit from herd immunity by virtue of their being surrounded by vaccinated people. That is a major factor your study would need to control for - how could that be done?

The developed world has more vaccines and also has better standards of living, water, food etc. the undeveloped countries with lower vaccination levels have poor food provisions, more poverty, unclean water, little health care etc. You are more likely to fight off disease if you are healthier to begin with.
I didn't say the study should not include vaccine related disease it should, it should include general health i.e an individuals complete health record.
I'm comfortable with my non vaccinated stance and that I and my child are unvaccinated I'm equally comfortable that you have had vaccines. It's a choice and we are free to make our own decisions.

AndyPandyismyhero · 10/01/2024 20:02

I was born before there was even a measles vaccine, let alone MMR. For reasons best known to her, when the vaccine became available and was offered, my mother decided that myself and dsis should not have it. And we never caught measles. All good? Well, no because when I was expecting my dc2, my dsis and dmum were in contact with someone who 24 hours later developed measles. It was my dc1 birthday and to be on the safe side, I checked with my GP who told me that as neither myself nor dsis had been vaccinated or had measles as children, we should avoid each other for 3 weeks just in case she caught it. The GP told me that measles in pregnancy is highly dangerous and causes miscarriage in a high number of cases. I can't tell you how much upset and worry that caused me. I had a rough pregnancy anyway, and to be told I had to avoid two of the very people who were supporting me made those three weeks very hard indeed.
I don't know whether your DC is a boy or girl, but not vaccinating them is not only dangerous to them, if they catch it, but potentially to your future grandchildren.

123teenagerfood · 10/01/2024 19:47

My sister didn't vaccinate her 3 children during the MMR debate/scare, she lost one to measles complications. Vaccinations save lives, it's a fact. I have vaccinated my children.

Nanny0gg · 10/01/2024 19:42

WithACatLikeTread · 10/01/2024 17:29

Have you got grandparents alive or friends from developing countries? I am sure they can give details of the diseases that they had to deal with that will kill your newborn or at least give them nasty side effects. Did you know mumps can make your baby boy infertile? Imagine explaining that to a son because you didn't want to vaccinate. It is thanks to vaccines that we aren't so familiar with these diseases. As a parent we put our children first and IMO you wouldn't be doing that and I would consider you selfish.

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I had mumps, measles, German measles and chicken pox as a child

I was lucky. I was just poorly and miserable (and very itchy). Doctor came with medicine (no idea what) I was confined to bed and with the itchy ones, covered in calamine lotion

My sister had the same and her eyesight was affected by measles.

Thankfully I'd had the polio vaccine. And was given the BCG as a baby because my dad had TB. The diphtheria one was widely given

Most of you have no knowledge of those days so you can make decisions based purely on unfounded fear. If you'd been there it would be a no-brainer.

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 19:41

Sorrento79 · 10/01/2024 17:38

I'm a senior hospital doctor in a competitive specialty. I've worked in the NHS for 20 years. My undergraduate training was at both Oxford and Cambridge universities. I was made a scholar based on my 1st year exam results at Cambridge. I was well up amongst the cleverest people at my school, and I have always worked hard. I have had specific training in research methodology, in reading journal papers and primary research, and in meta-analysis of the same. I have performed research myself, I have published in good journals, I have presented at international conferences. I tell you these things for context on my thoughts of doing one's own research.
Have i vaccinated my child? Yes. I have done everything that has been recommended by the healthcare professionals, because I respect their advice and the process by which that advice has been derived. I have not 'done my own research', as I know that what I glean will not be as impartial and informed as that from the NHS. Forgive me, but are you sure your research is better than everyone else's?

Absolutely not! My research wasn’t really research at all as i’ve admitted - I wasn’t sure where to start properly or where to find solid facts. That’s why i’ve come on here as i
knew there would be more educated people like yourself who could advise better

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