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To vaccinate newborn or not

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confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:37

I know this is a very sensitive subject, but i’m asking please for FACTS only - I don’t want answers like ‘because the NHS recommends you to vaccinate your baby etc’

Id like to point out i’m not ‘anti vax’ as such, but covid really opened my eyes to researching vaccines etc i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts.

What I don’t like, is the pressure that is put on us to do as we’re told with our babies. I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate - it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby.

Please be kind, I really am confused about this and would love some different perspectives

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StartedWithACrisp · 20/01/2024 11:37

Also, whether or not one believes or is worried that covid vaccine had enough time in development, we KNOW that these childhood vaccines have been around and constantly researched and refined for around 50 odd years! They simply cannot be compared to covid vaccine worries at all...

Most of us with young children all had those vaccines when we were small and all through school age...

The scientists etc have that job and qualifications for a reason, we cannot all be google scientists.

If a person goes to hairdresser to dye their hair do they question the quantity and mixture and chemical content that the hairdresser is using? Do they stop dying their hair even when they don't know 'what is in it'? Hardly if at all! Yet the scientists behind these medicines are much more qualified and with a bigger body of research than that...

StartedWithACrisp · 20/01/2024 11:30

The most selfish thing about anti vaxxers is that 1, they confuse normal people and lead them up disastrous paths, and 2, while they risk their own children's lives, they also risk other children's lives, by spreading the illness. If it only affected you then so be it, but the fact that you then spread it to someone else without caring of those consequences, just shows how rubbish this whole situation is.

People talk about how we don't have polio and measles, its is only this way in 2023 because of vaccines wiping most of it out. Yet now that people are not 99% taking up the vaccines, these frankly medieval diseases are coming back. Check out photos of how this looked in the early 1900s, pox all over the place, deaths, loss of limb use, brain swelling issues, all sorts. It is too late to want the vaccine when something bad has already happened.

Rlt8990 · 20/01/2024 00:46

Hi Op, I haven't read the entire thread so apologies if this is repetitive but I am a health care professional with lots of experience in vaccination. The Oxford Vaccine Knowledge project is a fantastic resource for those that want information but isn't the NHS or government pages. I have had very good feedback from patients who have looked at it to make informed decisions. There are also some videos explaining what the diseases are that we are protecting against. The important thing to remember with vaccines is that sometimes they work so well that we become very complacent because we don't see these diseases day to day therefore the potential side effects can seem scarier. A really important example is how in war torn countries, previously unseen diseases like diphtheria are making a come back because routine vaccination isn't happening. I hope you have had some useful info on here and I will also say that the best professionals to discuss with are the GP practice nurses. Health visitors have limited vaccine training and gps hardly any. Nurses are supposed to attend annual updates. Hope this helps!

Futb0l · 20/01/2024 00:14

As the parent of a kid who almost died of a virus that is often mild, for which no vaccine is widely available yet, i'll sign up for any vaccine going. Vaccines are amazing.

Futb0l · 20/01/2024 00:05

Omg please vaccinate your baby.

Please

TizerorFizz · 20/01/2024 00:03

Many truly don’t understand how ill dc can be with measles and the ongoing issues which can be deadly. We need 95% vaccinated to protect everyone. Some dc cannot be vaccinated and they are very much at risk. Why can parents not see this? In Haringey in London it’s 50% who are vaccinated so many are vulnerable now. No wonder the nhs is on its knees! We simply don’t care about preventing illness. It’s not good enough but parents are anti vax, believe twaddle on the internet and believe that idiot that wrote about vaccinations causing autism! We had eradicated measles and now we haven’t. It’s not acceptable to deliberately puts children at risk.

CharlieCoCo · 19/01/2024 12:15

My bad.
Kids do get a lot of bugs and illnesses when tbey start though, unvaccinated I can imagine they will get more ill, so still worth considering on a school point of view.

Pipsquiggle · 19/01/2024 11:25

Yet another news article about the spread of measles
BBC News - Get measles jab to avoid rapid spread, says UK health boss
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-68028530

startatthegin · 19/01/2024 11:13

@CharlieCoCo I think OP is in the UK, where that is certainly not the case.

CharlieCoCo · 19/01/2024 11:11

another thing to consider is what will happen in the furture. some nurseries and schools wont take a child if their vaccinations arent up to date. are you planning to home school?

OldBird79 · 19/01/2024 09:58

You don't have to vaccinate all of your children, just the ones you definitely want to keep.

TizerorFizz · 19/01/2024 09:11

Please remember that vaccination is not just a personal issue. We need a high percentage vaccinated to protect those who cannot be vaccinated. It’s what we do for society, it’s not just about the individual,

In the news this morning: 200 cases of measles in the West Midlands. Fears for others areas. So please vaccinate. There is no good reason not to. Save lives.

stormy4319trevor · 18/01/2024 20:14

@triballeader Thank you so much for explaining. I am so sorry for your husband and hope he can stay safe and his health improves.

TurquoiseDress · 18/01/2024 14:16

"To vaccinate newborn or not"

My answer to that would be a simple yes, because vaccines save lives

triballeader · 18/01/2024 14:13

He defiantly caught it twice.

This was confirmed by the regional isolation unit consultant. Measles is a notifiable disease so tracing from Health Protection teams become involved. Thankfully I had already worked out DD had measles and taken steps to reduce risks for others before the HPT confirmed she defiantly had it. DH had measles as a toddler. For most catching measles does give enduring immunity BUT, and this is an important but, it does not for everyone. Hence the NHS comment of if you do have measles you are unlikely to catch it twice. This means that for a few who have had measles then you might catch it twice. His last test showed he still has not full immunity to rubeola [measles) even after he had the MMR. Please note he is in a very tiny group of people who fail to develop full immunity and like our DD also has to rely on herd immunity. Thankfully DD has developed immunity.

stormy4319trevor · 18/01/2024 12:37

@triballeader Can I ask if the doctors thought your husband had measles twice, or if he may have been wrongly diagnosed the first time? I'm of the generation where we all had measles as children, and we all thought that meant life time immunity, so doctors told us. Of course, no need for you to reply if you don't want to. I'm just confused now.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 17/01/2024 19:48

MissConductUS · 17/01/2024 15:04

I see that measles is making a comeback in the UK thanks to low vaccination rates. This always happens when too many people think they can skip the jab and rely on herd immunity from others doing the right thing.

https://news.sky.com/story/measles-cases-surge-in-england-and-wales-fuelled-by-vaccine-hesitancy-over-mmr-jab-13047335

I don’t even think people think their child will be fine because of her immunity, they just don’t think measles is around anymore and don’t stop to think about why they don’t know anyone who has lost a child to measles.

MissConductUS · 17/01/2024 15:04

Kets27 · 17/01/2024 14:01

The fact that someone can see vaccines as optional for diseases like polio, meningitis, measles shows what a privileged society we live in today. My parents grew up in a developing nation outside EU and their generation saw so many children die due to unavailability of vaccines. The more children go vaccinated, the less rampant these diseases were.. and the society got safer..as a result today for some people vaccines are optional and something to be feared due to side effects.

Anyway so many of you have pointed this out already to OP and makes me feel glad that there is still sanity and the majority understand and appreciate the privilege of having access to life saving vaccines and medicines.

I see that measles is making a comeback in the UK thanks to low vaccination rates. This always happens when too many people think they can skip the jab and rely on herd immunity from others doing the right thing.

https://news.sky.com/story/measles-cases-surge-in-england-and-wales-fuelled-by-vaccine-hesitancy-over-mmr-jab-13047335

Measles cases surge in England and Wales fuelled by vaccine hesitancy over MMR jab

In England and Wales, there were 1,603 suspected cases of measles in 2023, new figures show. That's an increase from 735 in 2022 and just 360 the year before.

https://news.sky.com/story/measles-cases-surge-in-england-and-wales-fuelled-by-vaccine-hesitancy-over-mmr-jab-13047335

triballeader · 17/01/2024 14:50

I know from first hand experience that IF there is a good medical reason to suspect a child would or even could experience a serious consequences from any particular vaccine then it is not given.

DD has not been able to have HPV. There is a whole slew of vaccines she has not been able to medically have. In our current society few have a close experience of what some of the illnesses vaccines aim to give some protection from can really do. Vaccines aim to reduce the risks of a person catching a preventable viral illnesses. Mostly such illnesses come with a very real potential to cause life long injury and even kill. Even the healthy, whilst perhaps having more resilience, are not immune from developing complications associated with such.

Anisette · 17/01/2024 14:16

For every story I'm reading on here of 'this child didn't have the vaccine and died/lost a leg/became deaf' etc, there is a story of a baby having an MMR and dying days later, or a young girl having the HPV vaccine and developing major problems. Re the HPV one, have a read of this poor girl's story.

If you look at actual statistics, as opposed to anecdotal evidence, you will see that there is no equivalence. There is simply no doubt that vaccines have saved millions of children from the risk of serious illness, disability and death; there is no evidence that they have caused those in anything remotely like comparable numbers.

Kets27 · 17/01/2024 14:01

The fact that someone can see vaccines as optional for diseases like polio, meningitis, measles shows what a privileged society we live in today. My parents grew up in a developing nation outside EU and their generation saw so many children die due to unavailability of vaccines. The more children go vaccinated, the less rampant these diseases were.. and the society got safer..as a result today for some people vaccines are optional and something to be feared due to side effects.

Anyway so many of you have pointed this out already to OP and makes me feel glad that there is still sanity and the majority understand and appreciate the privilege of having access to life saving vaccines and medicines.

ElaineMBenes · 17/01/2024 08:29

triballeader · 11/01/2024 16:06

My youngest DD could not have vaccinations on strong hospital medical advice. She has no choice but to rely on herd immunity from others.
Whilst under ortho-oncology (benign but large bone tumours) she caught measles. No idea where or how but she did. (I have attached a photo of her arm showing a typical measles rash)

She was very poorly and spent nearly three weeks with a very high fever in a dark room (doctors advised). Trouble was her slightly odd immune system amped up the virus and she then gave it to her dad. He HAD had measles before so offered to look after our DD at night so I could grab some sleep.
He caught measles from her and OMG a I have never seen anyone become so ill so fast.
He was so ill the GP wanted to send an ambulance. Our family was already on home isolation as my DD was a confirmed case and I did not want to take an ambulance and team out of circulation for a deep clean. I drove him through the night to the regional hospital and refused to take him into A&E to avoid causing a serious regional outbreak.
He was admitted to the regional isolation unit and placed in to negative pressure isolation. His oxygen sats crashed, his liver started to fail, blood pooled under his skin, he lost his sight and his fever stayed well over 42C no matter what the hospital tried to bring it down. All they could do was offer supportive care. He was not expected to make it and I was called in to say that goodbye. His life hung for a week before his fever dropped down to 40c. No one could be sure if that fever would leave him with a brain injury.
His recovery was slow. He could not do any work for six months. All he could do once home was sleep and cry. I had to do everything for him. After six months he started to improve. He regained some sight but his eyes are still damaged and he lives with the longer term effects of measles on his internal organs.

This is why the NHS advises vaccination for those who can have vaccinations. Yes vaccinations carry a small potential risk but it’s one hell of a lot less than the risks of the nasty viruses they aim to give us all some protection from.

I really hope those that have been blasé about not vaccinating their children read this and think about the consequences of not vaccinating if you medically can.

Thank you for sharing.

Gingerbee · 17/01/2024 08:21

triballeader · 11/01/2024 16:06

My youngest DD could not have vaccinations on strong hospital medical advice. She has no choice but to rely on herd immunity from others.
Whilst under ortho-oncology (benign but large bone tumours) she caught measles. No idea where or how but she did. (I have attached a photo of her arm showing a typical measles rash)

She was very poorly and spent nearly three weeks with a very high fever in a dark room (doctors advised). Trouble was her slightly odd immune system amped up the virus and she then gave it to her dad. He HAD had measles before so offered to look after our DD at night so I could grab some sleep.
He caught measles from her and OMG a I have never seen anyone become so ill so fast.
He was so ill the GP wanted to send an ambulance. Our family was already on home isolation as my DD was a confirmed case and I did not want to take an ambulance and team out of circulation for a deep clean. I drove him through the night to the regional hospital and refused to take him into A&E to avoid causing a serious regional outbreak.
He was admitted to the regional isolation unit and placed in to negative pressure isolation. His oxygen sats crashed, his liver started to fail, blood pooled under his skin, he lost his sight and his fever stayed well over 42C no matter what the hospital tried to bring it down. All they could do was offer supportive care. He was not expected to make it and I was called in to say that goodbye. His life hung for a week before his fever dropped down to 40c. No one could be sure if that fever would leave him with a brain injury.
His recovery was slow. He could not do any work for six months. All he could do once home was sleep and cry. I had to do everything for him. After six months he started to improve. He regained some sight but his eyes are still damaged and he lives with the longer term effects of measles on his internal organs.

This is why the NHS advises vaccination for those who can have vaccinations. Yes vaccinations carry a small potential risk but it’s one hell of a lot less than the risks of the nasty viruses they aim to give us all some protection from.

What an awful experience.
Your poor husband and daughter.
I wish your husband makes more progress.
Hugs to you
Thank you for sharing.

Pipsquiggle · 16/01/2024 22:02

Just seen this. This is why I just think people who don't vaccinate their DC are making it worse for the rest of society

BBC News - Further measles outbreaks expected in England as cases rise - BBC News
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cw0d7rpr6ndo

A gloved hand holding a needle

Further measles outbreaks expected in England as cases rise

Medics issue the warning after cases in the West Midlands rose by more than 30% in less than a week.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cw0d7rpr6ndo

Mischance · 12/01/2024 22:30

I think part of a the problem lies in the fact that we have to make a positive choice to vaccinate our children. There is a world of a difference between a child randomly becoming ill which can be seen as an act of God (thanks for that!) and choosing to take on a risk on behalf of your child .... even though we know the chances of a problem arising are millions to one against. It is that act of choice that some parents find hard. It is understandable, but they can be reassured by the facts.
I share the exasperation of some posters at those who crow that their children have not been vaccinated and have been "just fine" .... they are if course fine because the rest of us have been sensible enough to vaccinate our children.
Well done to the OP for making a good choice.