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To vaccinate newborn or not

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confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:37

I know this is a very sensitive subject, but i’m asking please for FACTS only - I don’t want answers like ‘because the NHS recommends you to vaccinate your baby etc’

Id like to point out i’m not ‘anti vax’ as such, but covid really opened my eyes to researching vaccines etc i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts.

What I don’t like, is the pressure that is put on us to do as we’re told with our babies. I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate - it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby.

Please be kind, I really am confused about this and would love some different perspectives

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Comedycook · 10/01/2024 11:31

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:28

I completely understand it’s a really bad way of looking at it.

A couple of people on this post have commented saying it’s a money making exercise etc and unfortunately those comments (wrongly so) have made me questions things.

Have you ever looked at old historical records or visited a stately home or graveyard...I went to a small museum/stately home near me and it was really shocking reading how many of the children in this particular family had died as infants. Vast majority of their children had died from the same illness which had passed round them. It was really quite shocking

Flappingaround · 10/01/2024 11:31

I completely understand where OP is coming from. It's completely counterintuitive to allow manufactured chemicals into your child. However I have always supported vaccines and my DC are vaccinated because
A) family member died of an illness that would have been prevented by a vaccine
b) it protects other children who can't have the vaccine for some reason
I would say now it's even more important to vaccinate. As NHS and public services deteriorate, illnesses will likely rise and there won't be as good treatment or it will be very expensive and vaccines themselves could be too expensive if you wait for DC to decide as adults. Hopefully a labour government will stop the decline but we can't guarantee long term anymore sadly

PaddingtonsHat · 10/01/2024 11:31

Ah OP you don’t need to do any research- it’s all been done for you by many scientists and medical professionals. They have concluded that vaccines are safe and effective and save lives. Enjoy your lovely baby and trust the process.
Having worked in paediatrics and seen some very poorly unvaccinated children there was no question whether my children would be vaccinated (GP).

startatthegin · 10/01/2024 11:31

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:28

I completely understand it’s a really bad way of looking at it.

A couple of people on this post have commented saying it’s a money making exercise etc and unfortunately those comments (wrongly so) have made me questions things.

Who makes money from your child not getting ill? Yes, people and services are paid a wage to vaccinate your child. However, in a true capitalist sense, there is far more money to be made flogging you cures once you child is ill. Or therapy for you once your child is dead. Or flogging you separate vaccines rather than the efficient all in ones.

The people out to make money in this system aren't the ones offering vaccines to your baby. It's the ones persuading you to instead buy the snake oil.

Pippielk · 10/01/2024 11:30

I think you need to separate out the traditional childhood vaccines which have been well tested, where we have lots of evidence on side effects over the years and that protect against very serious illness v Covid shots which are not well tested and we don’t have the information on long term effects.

I got my daughter all the childhood vaccine's but no way will she/I take a mRNA ‘vaccine’ until longer term studies are done on them.

Sa11yCinnamon · 10/01/2024 11:30

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:24

never once did i say that?

You don't have to. You're here questioning them all.

amylou8 · 10/01/2024 11:30

I was completely pro vaccines until covid. After clean water they are the most import public health intervention. BUT during covid a healthy group of people were strong armed into getting a new vaccine, of which we knew little about the efficacy and long term effect, against a virus that posed almost zero risk them. We were lied to and blackmailed by a government whom it's not apparent we're acting in our interests. The end result is people like the OP are now questioning other vaccines, which are tired and tested and have been shown to be beneficial. The trust is gone and this will cost lives.

Realdeal1 · 10/01/2024 11:29

Mine had all the vaccines including chicken pox bar the covid one. I have friends in the medical field who see the 1% who are seriously ill so i go by what they do with their kids ie vaccinate

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:29

Completely unnecessary as I’ve never said I know better.
If that was the case do you think i’d be putting myself in the firing line by ‘people like you’ by trying to educate myself?

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Pusheen467 · 10/01/2024 11:29

Donmeistersleepmachine · 10/01/2024 11:26

Lots of people also unable to accept some people are injured by vaccines. I'm sure the person injured by the.covid vaccine would've got COVID and died. Right? Right? Keep telling yourself that, as per even the NHS and any medical body who push for vaccinations, there are many side effects and injuries that can be had from vaccines and no, not every single one of those people would have died from the illness the vaccine that damaged them was supposed to protect them from. But please enjoy your ignorance. Anybody so blind to these points is as bad as the person they're berating on the opposite side of the fence who is blindly against.

Totally agree. Anyone on MN who points out that vaccine injuries are in fact a thing is just accused of being anti vax.

Abra1t · 10/01/2024 11:29

You haven’t done research. You’ve looked at spurious google search results. Vaccines save children’s lives.

DrowsyDragon · 10/01/2024 11:29

The childhood schedule of vaccines is based on long standing vaccines that have eliminated or near eliminated diseases that killed and disabled thousands an thousands of children. They also work because of herd immunity so I woudl say not only are you protecting your children, you are protecting everyone's children and everyone who is immunocompromised by that decision.

On the issues of research, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/ Pubmed will give you some access to medical research on this topic. But, as an information literacy professional, I would caution you with reading scientific papers and summaries. Most of us, myself included, do not have the expertise with statistics to fully assimilate this information. For example a headline "eating carrots quadruples your chance of dying of bird feather syndrome" (completely made up, just FYI) is terrifying. But if it actually raises a 0.0000001% risk to a 0.0000004% risk you might feel very different about the risk you are taking. These papers are not written for lay people (non experts) and while I do think scientists do need to work on their communication, you can and should listen to your GP and other medical workers supporting you. They do have your baby's best interests at heart.

It's also ok just the find the process upsetting. I fully believe in vaccines but the moment of 'letting someone hurt my baby' as it irrational feels is utterly horrible and I cried after every time. But that's emotion and not the rational case of why you are doing this

PubMed

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https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

Pratchettt · 10/01/2024 11:28

HaggisPakora · 10/01/2024 11:25

i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn

PhD, MSc, postdoc research in immunology - or sitting on the sofa consulting Google? 🙄

If you’d bothered to read the full thread rather than jumping to be rude then you’d know wouldn’t you? OP has honestly said she’s done a little Google research only but has concerns.

This is an opportunity to help inform about the benefits of vaccines. by being a dick then you run the risk of frightening someone away and then finding their answers from anti-vaxxers. But as long as you feel better…

Strictlymad · 10/01/2024 11:28

No harm in research, but stick to reputable medical journals etc, who, nhs. There will be a lot written online by nobody’s with an agenda and misinformation. Dr Wakefield has been universally discredited for his research so any followers of him should be too. The pre and post vaccine data in this country speaks for itself on infant mortality. Yes it’s normal to be nervous around vaccines but when you are faced with the side effects of the ‘live’ ones (menb) you realise how bad the full blown infection could be if this is just a taster!

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:28

Comedycook · 10/01/2024 11:25

it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby

This is a really odd interpretation. Vaccines are for the good of everyone, both the individual and society....the NHS is a huge organisation...what do you want? How could they behave in order for you to feel that they are sufficiently worried about your baby?

I completely understand it’s a really bad way of looking at it.

A couple of people on this post have commented saying it’s a money making exercise etc and unfortunately those comments (wrongly so) have made me questions things.

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Hoolahoophop · 10/01/2024 11:28

I have a close friend who is a pediatrician.

They do not tell me heart breaking stories about children who die, or are permanently disabled due to having had routine vaccinations.

They do cry on my shoulder over the children they could not save, or barely saved who will suffer throughout their lives due to complications from illnesses that could have been prevented had the child been vaccinated.

That was enough for me.

mfbx5sf3 · 10/01/2024 11:28

The diseases the vaccines protect against could cause a range of outcomes in your child such as blindness, deafness, paralysis, brains damage and death. If you don’t want this to happen to your child then you should vaccinate them.

greensleevez · 10/01/2024 11:27

I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate

They are having to do this because of people like you who think they know better and get their information from internet rabbit holes.

Grow up.

startatthegin · 10/01/2024 11:27

" i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts."

Scientists have dedicated careers to this, and looked at the unbiased facts. The unbiased facts are that vaccines save lives. And save children and adults from life limiting ongoing issues from illnesses. I think it's child neglect to refuse vaccines unless there is a medical reason. And a superiority complex that 'my own research' on google is somehow better than scientific methods is not a medical reason.

twnety · 10/01/2024 11:27

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:59

Yes, literally just google which is why i’ve come on here as I know other people will be far more qualified to answer.

Google is very vague and is kind of you absolutely should vaccinate, or you shouldn’t, there’s not a lot of grey area.

People here are not more qualified though than your gp

  1. I'm a 6 ft supermodel and earn 60,000 a day

  2. I'm a man called Andrew and spend my time crime fighting in tights

  3. I'm Sarah, I'm 57 and I live in Hull

Which of these are true if any??? You don't know, this place is no more reliable than Google

ScrambledSmegs · 10/01/2024 11:26

Childhood illnesses aren't benign maladies that we should all just catch in early years and therefore remove the risk. They can kill, and used to kill and/or severely impair many more people pre-nationalised vaccine programs.

RandomButtons · 10/01/2024 11:26

Facts. Let’s just look at the 6 in 1 jab.

  • whooping cough - pertussis

1 in 100 babies who catch pertussis die.
https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/fast-facts.html#:~:text=Whooping%20cough%20can%20cause%20serious,treatment%20in%20the%20hospital%20die.

“Before a vaccine was introduced in the 1950s, the average number of suspected cases in England and Wales was over 100,000 each year, and in some years over 2000 people died from pertussis. By 1972, when over 80% of children were vaccinated, this had fallen to 2069 suspected cases and 2 deaths”
https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/pertussis-whooping-cough#:~:text=Before%20a%20vaccine%20was%20introduced,suspected%20cases%20and%202%20deaths.

  • Polio

“Before a vaccine was introduced in the 1950s, epidemics would result in up to 7760 cases of paralytic polio in the UK each year, with up to 750deaths. Once a vaccine was routinely available, cases of polio rapidly fell to very low levels.”
https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/polio#:~:text=Before%20a%20vaccine%20was%20introduced,fell%20to%20very%20low%20levels.

  • diptheria

“In Britain during the 1930s, before the introduction of immunisation, an average of 58,000 cases were seen each year, with 2,800 deaths.”
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK545997/

  • hib
“Even with medical treatment, about 1 in 20 children who develop Hib meningitis die. Before a vaccine was introduced, it is estimated that there were up to 1500 cases of Hib disease every year in the UK, leading to about 900 cases of meningitis and 60 deaths each year.” https://vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/hib-disease#:~:text=Even%20with%20medical%20treatment%2C%20about,and%2060%20deaths%20each%20year.
  • tetanus
death rate 1-2 in 10. In the pre-vaccine era, there were about 470 tetanus-associated deathsand 1,800 diphtheria-associated deaths in the U.S. each year. Tetanus- and diphtheria-related deaths have declined by more than 99% since vaccines became available to prevent them.

Fast Facts about Whooping Cough | CDC

Facts about Pertussis

https://www.cdc.gov/pertussis/fast-facts.html#:~:text=Whooping%20cough%20can%20cause%20serious,treatment%20in%20the%20hospital%20die.

BudgetFoodie · 10/01/2024 11:26

It is done because it saves lives, not to tick a box.

Those diseases are killers....but people forget that because we don't have first hand experience of diphtheria and measles anymore .....because the vaccines have worked.

Pusheen467 · 10/01/2024 11:26

You're brave posting this on here!

People can never discuss this topic on here without being rude and aggressive.

I remember reading a thread where someone had posted asking if it was worth getting her child privately vaccinated against chicken pox and people were still rude to her even though she was very clearly not anti-vax.

Donmeistersleepmachine · 10/01/2024 11:26

Lots of people also unable to accept some people are injured by vaccines. I'm sure the person injured by the.covid vaccine would've got COVID and died. Right? Right? Keep telling yourself that, as per even the NHS and any medical body who push for vaccinations, there are many side effects and injuries that can be had from vaccines and no, not every single one of those people would have died from the illness the vaccine that damaged them was supposed to protect them from. But please enjoy your ignorance. Anybody so blind to these points is as bad as the person they're berating on the opposite side of the fence who is blindly against.