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To vaccinate newborn or not

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confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:37

I know this is a very sensitive subject, but i’m asking please for FACTS only - I don’t want answers like ‘because the NHS recommends you to vaccinate your baby etc’

Id like to point out i’m not ‘anti vax’ as such, but covid really opened my eyes to researching vaccines etc i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts.

What I don’t like, is the pressure that is put on us to do as we’re told with our babies. I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate - it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby.

Please be kind, I really am confused about this and would love some different perspectives

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horseyhorsey17 · 10/01/2024 11:39

When you say you've done your own research, I presume you haven't submitted a scientific paper and had it peer-reviewed - so no, you haven't, what you mean is you've done what most people think of as 'research' and read some blogs/articles that support your own pre-existing bias.

FWIW, my dad was a consultant anaesthetist and very very strongly pro vaccination. He also had polio as a child (born and raised in sub Saharan Africa) and had a lifetime of health problems that killed him in the end. Vaccinations not only save lives, they save a lot of pain.

AyeRightYeAre · 10/01/2024 11:39

Sirzy · 10/01/2024 10:38

Vaccines save lives.

it is as simple as that.

That's the only fact that is needed.

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:38

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Absolutely not from me it isn’t and i find it weird you would say that? I haven’t given any facts or numbers myself and have made it very clear i’ve done limited basic research myself? Please
read all my replies for making such accusations

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ThomasinaLivesHere · 10/01/2024 11:38

The NHS are really tight when it comes to paying for things. The NHS recommending it is because of the evidence behind those vaccines.

Also please don’t base what you do on how polite people are.

Emmacb82 · 10/01/2024 11:37

Please vaccinate your baby. They are so vulnerable to illnesses and the vaccines exist to protect not only your precious baby but also the wider community. Have a look at the rise in cases in diseases such as measles where vaccination uptake has dramatically dropped. Measles kills or can leave children with life changing effects.
If you have questions about vaccinations I would rather you went and spoke to either your health visitor or practise nurse about them and find out proper information. But not one health professional is going to suggest anything other than promoting vaccination and I think that in itself speaks volumes.

sarahc336 · 10/01/2024 11:37

Of course you do op, you do not want a baby with any of the illness they vaccinate for and specially not polio

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:36

00100001 · 10/01/2024 11:34

Why don't you trust/believe the decades of global and independent research?

It’s not about trust really as somebody pointed out that I had received amazing treatment from
the NHS when i was younger -
which is exactly the kind of reply that is so helpful. I’ve never thought of it like that and it has made me realise there’s no lack of trust.

This is purely a case of falling down rabbit holes and fear of what i’ve read (true or not) has caused me to worry.

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Pratchettt · 10/01/2024 11:36

Pippielk · 10/01/2024 11:34

Well said amylou8.

My eyes are now opened to big pharma and government collusion but I fear people will ‘throw the baby out with the bath water’ and avoid all the safe and effective traditional vaccines as a result.

Whats the big conspiracy then?

You haven’t answered my question from earlier about where people can do reliable and comprehensive research.

RandomButtons · 10/01/2024 11:36

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:28

I completely understand it’s a really bad way of looking at it.

A couple of people on this post have commented saying it’s a money making exercise etc and unfortunately those comments (wrongly so) have made me questions things.

It’s not a money making exercise for the NHS. The NHS has to justify every penny spent, and the effectiveness and cost of the vaccine against the cost of caring for patients ill with said virus is one of the key deciding factors.

I campaigned to get the Menigitus B vaccine available for all in the NHS. Death rate 1 in 10. Many more are left permanently disabled. Close family member died aged 14. One of the final deciding factors was it’s cheaper to vaccinate babies than to support the ones who survived disabled throughout their lives.

Yes there are companies who get rich off making vaccines. Although some vaccines were “donated” to science by the discoverers.

However compare to diabetes. There are companies getting rich off diabetic treatment. However that treatment saves hundreds of thousands of lives.

Comedycook · 10/01/2024 11:36

My dad was born in the 1940s, he told me kids from school would often just not turn up anymore.... reason? They caught measles and it killed them.

We are so lucky nowadays that we actually don't realise that kids died from these things all the time.

Have you seen Mary Berry's hand? That's because she had polio.

Lourdes12 · 10/01/2024 11:35

I’m a 40 year old woman who didn’t have to Covid jab. Nearly died and was left in a horizontal position for 6 month unable to walk or look after my kids. I’ve slowly come back but have lots of neurological problems. Everyone else around me had the jab and they were fine.

Everyday I regret not having the jab just because I got caught up with the antivaxers theories which has no scientific back up. My husband really wanted me to have the jab so you can imagine how stupid I felt when this happened to me. What does your husband think about it? To me it’s an absolute no brainer . All my kids are vaccinated, thanks goodness!

Pratchettt · 10/01/2024 11:35

Pippielk · 10/01/2024 11:30

I think you need to separate out the traditional childhood vaccines which have been well tested, where we have lots of evidence on side effects over the years and that protect against very serious illness v Covid shots which are not well tested and we don’t have the information on long term effects.

I got my daughter all the childhood vaccine's but no way will she/I take a mRNA ‘vaccine’ until longer term studies are done on them.

The Covid vaccinations WERE very well tested. It’s this sort of rhetoric that leads to people like the OP feeling the way she does.

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Pippielk · 10/01/2024 11:34

amylou8 · 10/01/2024 11:30

I was completely pro vaccines until covid. After clean water they are the most import public health intervention. BUT during covid a healthy group of people were strong armed into getting a new vaccine, of which we knew little about the efficacy and long term effect, against a virus that posed almost zero risk them. We were lied to and blackmailed by a government whom it's not apparent we're acting in our interests. The end result is people like the OP are now questioning other vaccines, which are tired and tested and have been shown to be beneficial. The trust is gone and this will cost lives.

Well said amylou8.

My eyes are now opened to big pharma and government collusion but I fear people will ‘throw the baby out with the bath water’ and avoid all the safe and effective traditional vaccines as a result.

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00100001 · 10/01/2024 11:34

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:31

Indont know how else to research other than look at the internet? I’ve spoken to my GP
and health visitor who both referred me
to leaflets on the internet

Why don't you trust/believe the decades of global and independent research?

mfbx5sf3 · 10/01/2024 11:33

The whole anti-vax movement if fuelled by fear. During covid when people were scared it was far easier to think you had some control over the situation by using alternative therapies and finding support on internet forums full of like minded/ misguided people. The vaccines you will be using to protect your child have been used for a very long time with minimal side effects. Googling vaccines will take you down a rabbit hole of incorrect facts and misinformation. I have a PhD in microbiology and am a senior lecturer in microbiology. My children have had all their vaccines.

CactusMactus · 10/01/2024 11:33

I had my kids vaccinated because I didn't want them to get sick and I wanted to protect the wider community. It's also why I get vaccinated.

confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:33

Sa11yCinnamon · 10/01/2024 11:30

You don't have to. You're here questioning them all.

I haven’t questioned anybody at all? I’ve constantly said thank you for the information and how useful it is for me?

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Fernie6491 · 10/01/2024 11:32

MabelMaybe · 10/01/2024 10:42

DH has a member of his family who died of measles as a 1 year old in 1948. That was only the generation above DH. If there's a vaccine that prevents similar situations recurring, I'm going to take it, because that bay's mother didn't. I wish they had chicken pox as part of the general round of vaccines, but no issues with any of the others.

In fact saying you would take the vaccine because that baby's mother didn't is irrelevant. The measles vaccine didn't begin in the uk until 1968 or thereabouts.
I had measles in about 1954 and fortunately recovered , although I became delerious and talking nonsense for a while apparently . If it had been available my parents would have had me vaccinated as they did with other vaccines e.g. smallpox.

00100001 · 10/01/2024 11:32

Latewinter · 10/01/2024 11:15

Well no chances are she wouldn't be fucked. With many of this diseases chances are they'd get sick and then recover. With a risk of worse happening. Don't sensationalise. OP absolutely should vaccinate but the language used around this is often unhelpful and silly.

Measles is deadly. What else is there to say?

EncantoSpice · 10/01/2024 11:32

I worked on one of the clinical trials for one of the covid vaccines. Don’t believe everything you read online, there really is some nonsense out there. Vaccines save lives.

DrowsyDragon · 10/01/2024 11:32

Also it's absolutely not a money making exercise. The NHS doesn't make money, that's part of the reason its in difficulties. This is not like the US where pharma can give doctors financial incentives to pushe their proprietary treatments which is morally abhorrent.

Thebookdragon · 10/01/2024 11:32

Whataretheodds · 10/01/2024 10:53

Your children will have benefited significantly because so many other children were vaccinated meaning that these fatal childhood diseases were practically eradicated.
Now that more parents have been refusing vaccines cases of these disease have returned and unvaccinated children (including those who cannot be vaccinated for medical reasons, some of whom are incredibly medically vulnerable) will be at risk of death as a result.

Exactly. I had someone I know refuse to vaccinate her children because of her opinion that they would be protected by ‘herd immunity’ however this is a not a valid method as

  1. herd immunity relies on a high % of vaccinated children. But if it did spread locally your child could die - or be seriously ill - we all know you get little pockets of outbreaks every now and again.
  2. a vaccination doesn’t stop you catching it but the bodies defences are better able to defend you. Eg I have had 6 vaccines - for Covid as I’m ECV and I’ve caught it twice and been ill but I have no immunity due to steroids that I have to take. Without the vaccines I probably would not have survived.
  3. some people can not have the vaccines (allergy or whatever or chemotherapy or whatever) and herd vaccine needs to be as high as possible for them
  4. viruses mutate quickly - even if you don’t have a vaccine for that strain of virus you body cells are better able to adapt and fight it when prepared with a vaccine
  5. The mother of the child I referred to at the start compromised her son as he wants to travel at aged 17 and couldn’t as he didn’t have the required vaccines and medical insurance didn’t like it
  6. your immune system when you are younger builds up a fighting system using these vaccines and children tend to be more resilience to infections than adults - older adults tended to be the ones worse hit by Covid whereas children seemed to bounce back - this is partly due to their exposure but also other medical reasons
  7. some anti vaxs peddle myths such as my children are all fine but actually they are fine in this country at this time - but if TB suddenly pops up again or they catch it on their travels or from someone coming from overseas / it could easily kill them - why? When it’s preventable
  8. In some countries to go to the ‘state school’ your child must be vaccinated - it’s a legal requirement to protect the others and staff so you need to be aware of that
I do suggest you read the link I posted previously. It is an academic study by Imperial.
confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 11:31

Abra1t · 10/01/2024 11:29

You haven’t done research. You’ve looked at spurious google search results. Vaccines save children’s lives.

Indont know how else to research other than look at the internet? I’ve spoken to my GP
and health visitor who both referred me
to leaflets on the internet

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