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To vaccinate newborn or not

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confusedaboutclothes · 10/01/2024 10:37

I know this is a very sensitive subject, but i’m asking please for FACTS only - I don’t want answers like ‘because the NHS recommends you to vaccinate your baby etc’

Id like to point out i’m not ‘anti vax’ as such, but covid really opened my eyes to researching vaccines etc i’ve done my own research on whether i should be vaccinating my newborn but it’s hard to find unbiased facts.

What I don’t like, is the pressure that is put on us to do as we’re told with our babies. I don’t like the constant reminders, the phone calls and the pressure to vaccinate - it all feels like a box ticking exercise not because the NHS are actually worried about my baby.

Please be kind, I really am confused about this and would love some different perspectives

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CouCouCachou · 10/01/2024 18:03

bringmelaughter · 10/01/2024 18:00

No healthcare messaging I have seen about any treatment, vaccine or other treatment describes them as completely safe and effective. Everything is a balance of risk and benefit where the benefits have been assessed as outweighing the risk. Can you highlight information that described the Covid vaccine as completely safe and effective?

This. Maybe this poster didn't have the Covid vaccine and is therefore not aware that the overwhelming majority of the appointment time was taken up with a comprehensive explanation of the possible side effects and risks of adverse consequences.

CouCouCachou · 10/01/2024 18:00

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 17:34

These are only looking at underdeveloped countries and they are not long term studies looking at general health over say 20, 30, 40 years i.e differences in skin problems, asthma, cancer etc etc. they are looking at differences in vaccine disease only. I want to see studies looking at the UK / USA/ French population and the difference in general health between vaccinated and unvaccinated.

Is the reality not that even if vaccinations made people more likely to develop skin complaints and asthma (and there is no evidence that they do), the overwhelming majority of people would still choose to vaccinate, because skin complaints and asthma are so much less serious than measles, polio, diptheria etc?

Something must account for the fact that in countries with good vaccine provision almost nobody dies of these illnesses, and in countries with poor vaccine provision, thousands of people do. If you don't believe vaccines are the reason, what do you think does explain this fact?

And if you accept the fact that vaccines do prevent these illnesses, but your issue is that you still believe they might cause asthma, would you still not choose a world with higher instances of asthma than a world with higher instances of measles?

Saying that a study is "looking at differences in vaccine disease only" in "underdeveloped countries" and is therefore not what you want is spectacularly missing the point, because you cant exclude vaccine-preventable diseases from your overall assessment of health. If you want to compare the general health of vaccinated people with the general health of unvaccinated people then you have to include the existence of vaccine-preventable diseases because those diseases exist. It's nonsensical to suggest you can exclude them from a study of public health.

It's like you want a study that says "Here is a comparison of the overall health of vaccinated people vs the overall health of unvaccinated people in an imaginary world where vaccine-preventable diseases don't exist and there is therefore no risk of catching them if you aren't vaccinated". What would be the point of that? That world doesn't exist.

And if you specifically want to compare the health of vaccinated people with that of unvaccinated people in countries with good vaccine provision, you have to account for the fact that unvaccinated people in these countries benefit from herd immunity by virtue of their being surrounded by vaccinated people. That is a major factor your study would need to control for - how could that be done?

bringmelaughter · 10/01/2024 18:00

Mainats · 10/01/2024 17:38

And yet you were told that the Covid vaccine was completely safe and effective. The cognitive dissonance must be mind-blowing.

No healthcare messaging I have seen about any treatment, vaccine or other treatment describes them as completely safe and effective. Everything is a balance of risk and benefit where the benefits have been assessed as outweighing the risk. Can you highlight information that described the Covid vaccine as completely safe and effective?

InAMess2023 · 10/01/2024 18:00

dontgetitpal · 10/01/2024 13:05

As a biological scientist I am absolutely triggered by some of the content in this thread. 😂 Fuckin hell, get down to big pharma and apply for a job if you think you know better

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Same! Although not a biological scientist but someone with an MRes in Clinical Research who worked in medical ethics and research management for over ten years, including on coronavirus research (2012) and mRNA vaccines. Also had my Covid vaccines as part of a clinical trial months before they were approved. Yet apparently I'm still part of some huge conspiracy to kill off the general population! And if not that I'm a 'sheeeeeeeeeep'

Ellie1015 · 10/01/2024 17:59

Glad you have found some posts useful and decided to vaccinate.

You have been very clear that you realise google is not a substitute for proper research and were asking for a steer. I have no idea why people have to be so rude. Give opinion, experience and even object politely. Never mind "be kind" just be civil.

Sounds like they haven't got to you too much, just ignore anyone being obnoxious it is a reflection on them not you.

meditrina · 10/01/2024 17:55

I have some sympathy for those parents whose DC were infants in the mid/late 1990s when the - now thoroughly discredited - Wakefield scandal was going on. Because at that very specific point in time it was not clear that he was wrong. But in the years following, there was a whole mass of new publications which showed that indeed he was.

But that's a very specific and time-limited group. And I hope those affected have gone on to get the vaccines - either when the parents came to trust that Wakefield was badly wrong or the DC deciding for themselves (as they are all adults now).

Cerealkiller4U · 10/01/2024 17:55

Happybunnytoday · 10/01/2024 12:59

No they don’t. They get paid per service they provide, getting paid anything else is illegal in the UK, especially if you’re trying to imply they get paid by pharmaceutical companies to give out more vaccines.

Yes! Thank you!

Alloveragain3 · 10/01/2024 17:53

OP, I completely agree with you that the government and NHS's response to COVID has been eye opening to me and I've realised the importance of not simply doing what you're told because someone tells you to.

It's made me appraise things like vaccines in a different way.

I think it's so important to have an open discussion and for people not to just shout you down. It's like a reflex for some.

We've been told for a long time that vaccines save lives and the benefits outweigh the risks but we'd be fools to simple nod and agree, without constantly questioning this.

There's no denying that vaccines cause quite unpleasant side effects in young babies and that the diseases we vaccinate against are currently very uncommon (thanks to successful vaccination programmes).

I've just had my 8 week old jabbed but thought much harder about it than I did for my 4 year old.

I was happy that the vaccines were the right choice but I reserve my right to question this and not just jump in line because NHS said so.

viques · 10/01/2024 17:50

If you read the causes of death in the Guinea Bissau report you come to this sad statistic that for measles in an unvaccinated group of 94 children , 9 children, ie nearly ten per cent died of the disease. If nothing else that statistic should put cold shivers down the spine of any parent.

mumsytoon · 10/01/2024 17:44

People have been rude to you because you deserve it. Absolutely stupid of you to not do it. You're not cute or clever by thinking you googled and heard some gossip stories and endangering your child's life.

mumsytoon · 10/01/2024 17:42

Becles · 10/01/2024 10:46

Are you absolutely intoxicated with first world privilege?

In countries without running water, stable government or food security parents queue for days to ensure their children are vaccinated. They do it because they've seen the children crippled by polio, family members die from Meningitis, measles want of basic immunisations and would judge you for putting your child at risk through basic health illiteracy.

Vaccinate or don't, just stop looking for people to cheerlead your foolishness.

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Best post.

Typical first world mentality.

GettingStuffed · 10/01/2024 17:41

I was born before the measles vaccine and contracted it. I was very ill and there was a point when the doctor told my parents that there was a good chance I'd go blind. Luckily I didn't but my life would have been so different if I had

justteanbiscuits · 10/01/2024 17:39

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 17:34

These are only looking at underdeveloped countries and they are not long term studies looking at general health over say 20, 30, 40 years i.e differences in skin problems, asthma, cancer etc etc. they are looking at differences in vaccine disease only. I want to see studies looking at the UK / USA/ French population and the difference in general health between vaccinated and unvaccinated.

Your requirements are quite specific! maybe start applying for funding for this?

Sorrento79 · 10/01/2024 17:38

I'm a senior hospital doctor in a competitive specialty. I've worked in the NHS for 20 years. My undergraduate training was at both Oxford and Cambridge universities. I was made a scholar based on my 1st year exam results at Cambridge. I was well up amongst the cleverest people at my school, and I have always worked hard. I have had specific training in research methodology, in reading journal papers and primary research, and in meta-analysis of the same. I have performed research myself, I have published in good journals, I have presented at international conferences. I tell you these things for context on my thoughts of doing one's own research.
Have i vaccinated my child? Yes. I have done everything that has been recommended by the healthcare professionals, because I respect their advice and the process by which that advice has been derived. I have not 'done my own research', as I know that what I glean will not be as impartial and informed as that from the NHS. Forgive me, but are you sure your research is better than everyone else's?

Mainats · 10/01/2024 17:38

Goinoutalone · 10/01/2024 12:25

I’m a microbiologist, I work in pharma, I’m pro vaccine, my children have had all of theirs including the chicken pox vaccine. The Covid vaccine left me with high blood pressure and tachycardia…unfortunately.

if I had another baby would I vaccinate them…yes absolutely

And yet you were told that the Covid vaccine was completely safe and effective. The cognitive dissonance must be mind-blowing.

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 17:34

These are only looking at underdeveloped countries and they are not long term studies looking at general health over say 20, 30, 40 years i.e differences in skin problems, asthma, cancer etc etc. they are looking at differences in vaccine disease only. I want to see studies looking at the UK / USA/ French population and the difference in general health between vaccinated and unvaccinated.

Pratchettt · 10/01/2024 17:31

WithACatLikeTread · 10/01/2024 17:29

Have you got grandparents alive or friends from developing countries? I am sure they can give details of the diseases that they had to deal with that will kill your newborn or at least give them nasty side effects. Did you know mumps can make your baby boy infertile? Imagine explaining that to a son because you didn't want to vaccinate. It is thanks to vaccines that we aren't so familiar with these diseases. As a parent we put our children first and IMO you wouldn't be doing that and I would consider you selfish.

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You don’t even need to be from a developing country. I had a British relative who had TB and it was horrific for them, affected their whole life in ways that people wouldn’t have even expected.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 10/01/2024 17:30

Don't.

What's the worse that can happen? It's only your child's life at risk.

WithACatLikeTread · 10/01/2024 17:29

Have you got grandparents alive or friends from developing countries? I am sure they can give details of the diseases that they had to deal with that will kill your newborn or at least give them nasty side effects. Did you know mumps can make your baby boy infertile? Imagine explaining that to a son because you didn't want to vaccinate. It is thanks to vaccines that we aren't so familiar with these diseases. As a parent we put our children first and IMO you wouldn't be doing that and I would consider you selfish.

Sidge · 10/01/2024 17:25

stillmissmyboy · 10/01/2024 12:48

OK.

So questions - Why insist on so many different injections in one single visit? Surely much much safer to give a vaccine for one thing, let the baby's body deal with it and then go back for the next one when they're well again?

If the baby is seriously ill, and you've whacked in 6 different vaccines at the same time, how on earth is the Dr in the hospital supposed to know which vaccine has caused the problem?

Why such an insistence on vaccinating against measles but no one seem to give a shit about chickenpox? Looking into both diseases, both can be equally fatal. One of my children was very seriously ill with chickenpox, admitted to hospital. Yet I had measles as a child and breezed through it. I remember having chickenpox a year later and also being very seriously ill. So clearly my 'genes' and those of my son's do not agree with chickenpox.

Why do we stigmatise measles and not chickenpox? Both can be a 'normal' childhood disease - both can be deadly, depending how your individual body reacts to it. Why is the same parent who is deemed negligent for not having the MMR not being told the same for not getting a chickenpox vaccine?

MMR - why oh why do they not still offer single vaccines? A lot of people who currently do not have the MMR would have single vaccines. I definitely would have vaccinated my two earlier if single was available. As it is, I've waited until their bodies were big enough and strong enough in my mind. Both were still poorly after their MMR and neither wants to go back for the booster (they will but you get my point, they're not 'nice' vaccines and do make you sick)

Why keep telling people vaccines are the only way to prevent serious illness? They're not 100% efffective. I saw this myself when my child , vaccinated, got taken into hospital with whooping cough. Seriously ill. Doctor iniitally refused to believe it was whooping cough as he was vaccinated and then had to admit he was wrong. The vaccine simply hadn't worked for him. Please don't tell me it would have been much much worse without as that's just rubbish! He had the disease , a disease he shouldn't have been able to get according to the the information vaccinators give out.

Why do we not acknowledge at all the huge numbers of people, adults and children who are permanently damaged by vaccines? They do exist. Yes, your chances of being seriously affected or killed are higher by the disease itself, but let's not pretend they're 100% safe. They're not. I've read some heartbreaking accounts of babies who have died days after their MMR. True stories. Unbelievably heartbreaking true stories. I can guarantee those parents 100% regret getting the vaccine.

There's always two sides.

But on MN we only ever seem to push the one side.

I was very very grateful that I had a Nurse at my Dr's surgery, and a GP, who were both very open to the idea of spaced out vaccines. GP actually said it was very sensible of me.

But listening to you, it's just get them vaccinated, as many as possible, as quickly as possible.

Are you 100% sure that a vaccine you've given hasn't severely affected a child?

So questions - Why insist on so many different injections in one single visit? Surely much much safer to give a vaccine for one thing, let the baby's body deal with it and then go back for the next one when they're well again?

OK. So I'm not an immunologist and don't draw up vaccine schedules but I believe it's a combination of risk reduction and epidemiological knowledge as to why our schedule is what it is. There is no need to separate them so much as the immune system can deal with thousands of pathogens simultaneously. And let's be honest why would you want to give each element separately increasing the length of time a baby is unprotected and increasing the needle count from 2 to 7+ each time? The schedule is already such that there are 4 weeks between most vaccines to allow an immune response and recovery.

MMR - why oh why do they not still offer single vaccines? A lot of people who currently do not have the MMR would have single vaccines. I definitely would have vaccinated my two earlier if single was available. As it is, I've waited until their bodies were big enough and strong enough in my mind. Both were still poorly after their MMR and neither wants to go back for the booster (they will but you get my point, they're not 'nice' vaccines and do make you sick)

Single vaccines are unnecessary when we have a perfectly safe effective vaccine that gives good immunity against all 3 diseases. The NHS doesn't really offer pick and mix vaccines - it would be expensive, unnecessary and would only reinforce the idea that there's something wrong with MMR vaccine.

But listening to you, it's just get them vaccinated, as many as possible, as quickly as possible.

I think you'll find I said no such thing.

Are you 100% sure that a vaccine you've given hasn't severely affected a child?

Yes, I have never seen a child I've vaccinated with any side effects more severe than those one would expect - fever, malaise, sore limbs etc. The joy of working in primary care is you get to know your patients and families well, so I would know if any of the babies and children I've vaccinated ended up with serious illness, hospital admission, disability or death. I do not agree with your claims that "huge numbers" of adults or children are permanently damaged by vaccines. I have never seen a baby die within days of it's MMR vaccine.

I am all for parents wanting to discuss the risks and benefits of vaccination. I will always aim to have a sensible balanced discussion with them and provide them with as much information as I can.

EvelynBeatrice · 10/01/2024 17:24

I'm afraid that many people in the U.K. no longer trust the NHS at all. This all trickles through so that no one takes anything on trust at all.
It's fine if people want to do their own research - perhaps signposting reputable sources of information and statistics etc might be the way to go.

CouCouCachou · 10/01/2024 17:22

Cant wait to see the spurious excuse Ann3347 comes up with for discrediting these peer reviewed, controlled studies despite having suggested she was totally open to reading them.

bringmelaughter · 10/01/2024 17:20

Verbena17 · 10/01/2024 13:01

If your reply was to me I didn’t google.
I was a student midwife and researched through much academic literature, case studies and trial outcomes (some of which were hidden after animal trials).

Do you have an awareness of your limitations in interpreting complex data during your time as a student midwife?

I’m twenty odd years into a clinical career, with a masters, currently doing a PhD, write and review articles for publication, write national guidance in my clinical area but I would not be more able to interpret vaccination data than the JCVI.

I think we should be very careful about saying we researched something if we didn’t follow a methodology of research analysis/synthesis and have the skills to do this with the type of data we were looking at. It’s more likely that many people are googling and calling it research and others, with a bit more knowledge, are doing some targeted reading. Neither of these things are research. There is a whole committee of experts doing the research and interpretation of this research for us.

Pratchettt · 10/01/2024 17:13

I’m still waiting for someone to give me some decent resources. People keep saying ‘Do your own research’ or saying that the Covid vaccine was bad but there’s been nothing provided to support these statements.

Biochemist · 10/01/2024 17:12

Ann3347 · 10/01/2024 17:00

I've looked for studies and the only ones I've found are small scale and show unvaccinated are healthier. I'd 100% read any you can link for me please.

Which vaccine? What kind of population? Demographic group?

Yes in general for a lot of vaccines the unvaccinated group will be healthier on average, because higher risk people tend to be offered more vaccines...

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