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To expect an appointment with all my child's teachers?

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ACTIVE123 · 10/01/2024 06:14

My only child has started High School for the first time this academic year.

Appointments have been made available for parent consultation evening (5 min zoom appointment per teacher) but despite looking at all slots, I can only get appointments with 4 out of 12 teachers.

I logged onto book only 2 hours after the email was sent saying appintments were made available.

I contacted the school and was told I'm on a waiting list as there are simply too many children to get an appointment with every teacher.

Am I being unreasonable to expect an apppointment with every teacher? Is this how it works at High School? Asking genuinely as I'm new to this and not sure if it's just me?

The school is an ofsted outstanding and is highly oversubscribed.

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BargainOffer · 10/01/2024 17:52

Teachers didn't teach fewer pupils in the eighties, at least not in my area.

Then as now lots of parents didn't turn up. And if most teachers were in the hall, maybe those who did turn up had more awareness of the need to keep it short.

Bibbitybobbitty · 10/01/2024 17:50

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect an appointment whatever level your children are performing at. Our school now doesn't do any reports until really late in the year - so for exam year students this would be in April & exams are early May. Mine all perform well but I still need & deserve for them to have feedback. Some kids perform well & drop off for all sorts of reasons, without the 2 x 5 mins appointments I would have no idea if this was happening to my kids. Also sometimes that 5 mins is used for asking about info related to where they progress onwards, 2nd of our parents nights is just before subject choices are made.
If parents evenings aren't long enough then the onus is on schools to be proactive about how they feedback to all parents.

Spomsored · 10/01/2024 17:45

It would be worth contacting the school to find out how many appointments each teacher has (2 hours would be 24 five minute appointments) and how many parents might be wanting to see them (one class of 30 would be reasonable, two or three classes less so). If there were concerns about your child they would probably be in touch but I understand the desire to have some dialogue with their teachers.

In the olden days, before zoom and online booking, my DS took great delight in making appointments for us as inconvenient as possible - consecutive appointments at opposite sides of the school, retracing our steps several times.

peanutbutter00 · 10/01/2024 17:38

Depending on how many students a teacher has it's not always possible. As others have said the teachers pay and conditions limits how many hours teachers can be directed to be working this includes parents evening so it limits the length of parents evening especially in a high school where teachers may do 7 parents evening events per year if they have a sixth form

cassy16 · 10/01/2024 17:34

unless you have a problematic child, you’re just going to get the same Rinse & Repeat conversation that all of the other parents have with no real substance, five minutes isn’t really long enough to have a decent conversation and if you have any particular concerns when it comes to your child’s learning you can request to speak to those teachers separate to parents evening anyway, and probably have a more substantial conversation. And then when it comes to exam times, they usually host special parents evenings in the subjects that they do exams in. We had about three lots of parents evenings in relation to the exams within a three months period leading up to the end of year 11.

Meredusoleil · 10/01/2024 17:24

At my dds' school we have 5 minute zoom slots on School Cloud with a maximum of 6 teachers ie 30 minutes altogether.

I'm surprised to hear other schools using School Cloud have more than 6 teachers, as I thought that was a fixed number. Appears not!

marcopront · 10/01/2024 17:21

I remember my first parent's evening as a teacher. One pair of parents spent 25 minutes with me - appointments were for 5 minutes.
So everyone else was delayed.

The worst part was they were complaining about what I was teaching which wasn't my choice as I kept telling them. They were teachers themselves so knew how wrong it was.

Zoom calls that cut off means that can't happen.

cansu · 10/01/2024 17:20

I think more parents would get to see the teachers they needed to if parents chose more carefully who they booked. Someone logs on as soon as booking is open and books a slot for every teacher. This will probably include subjects where their child is doing very well and where there are few areas to discuss. It would make more sense if people actually prioritised the subjects which their child found hard or where there were concerns.

celticprincess · 10/01/2024 17:12

Flensburg · 10/01/2024 07:10

When I was at secondary school in the eighties, for parents' evenings, teachers sat at desks in the hall and parents queued to see whichever they wanted to. Mine were able to see all my teachers. Why is there not enough time now? What has changed?

What has changed is you some parents wanting to spend half an hour talking one teacher and holding everyone up. Some parents becoming aggressive towards teachers. Whilst I’d love to meet my kids’ teachers in person I get the new zoom thing means you get your 5 minutes and you get cut off!! I’ve usually gone straight on to make appointments and usually get one with each teacher but the time they’re released has worked for me up to now. If they were released during my work day I’d struggle - I’m also a teacher and can’t just leave my class to go online for these appointments. They do tend to be 7pm though when released so work for me but I guess people do work evenings.

BakewellGin1 · 10/01/2024 17:12

DS secondary parents eve is per year group.
Slots opened online at 6pm one evening and an email was sent 24 hours prior to inform of booking opening.
Logged on at exact time and managed to get all slots required.
I went for Maths, English, Science, Engineering, Geography and Design Tech.
Didn't bother with Tutor as she only sees them 10 min per day.
Didnt book PE as not taken as an option and is used as 'down time' for those not taking it as an exam.
No concerns should be a Suprise. We are advised to email any tutors we don't get a slot for if we require an update or wish to raise any concerns

Hatty65 · 10/01/2024 17:10

GreyhpundGirl · 10/01/2024 06:47

I'm a teacher, I have 2 year 11 groups which is about 50 students. There aren't 50 appointment slots in the time allotted to parents evening. For Ks3, teachers may have 3 or 4 groups in the same year group so over 100 students. Follow up with individual teachers for a phone call or message updating progress.

Me too. Sadly I cannot see everyone's parent. After a full day's teaching, I have 36 slots from 4pm - 7pm - and I actually have 58 Y11 students. Also, as a pp said, the parents I really want to see probably won't make an appointment.

I'll be seeing the parents of the keen Grade 7-9s who love History and really want me to meet their parents and probably talk about A level. Not the ones who are doing no work and look like being a Grade 2/3.

whyamiawakestill · 10/01/2024 17:07

@annahay I saw that and after my post I said "ignore my post" I wasn't on a laptop so couldn't edit..

annahay · 10/01/2024 17:05

whyamiawakestill · 10/01/2024 08:49

Teachers should see each parent of each child they teach. If they can't fit it in 1 night then they need to add evenings or slots.

It's shit organisation by the school and discrimination against anyone who's not bloody online at 9am. (My experience)

Used to drive me spare and they need to sort the systems out, back to old school parents evenings in person where the teacher sits in a class and the parents wait in turns.

It would take 27.5 hours for me to see every parent for 5 min. We just don't have the directed time for that.

TeenLifeMum · 10/01/2024 17:03

Our secondary manages it - 1000 students in the school. They do a tutor parents evening in term 1 where you have 10 minutes with the dc tutor to check they’ve settled back in okay/raise any issues. The dc are home schooled for a day (before half term) with work set on Google classroom to free up teachers to do this. Parents evenings with subject teachers are over 2 evenings and one afternoon with students for that year doing a group activity to free up teachers.

I’ve never not spoken to a teacher and ours are actually really helpful (and honest).

dd1’s year is high achieving (was at primary and seems to still be in her secondary state school). The head teacher commented that they’d had to change parents evening for our year to accommodate all the parents wanting to speak to teachers and be actively involved in dc school life. She felt there was a direct correlation between the high achieving year group and parental support.

BoswellTheScribe · 10/01/2024 17:00

The way our school works parents evenings is much better than the appointment system in my opinion.
We book an hour time slot, eg: 3:30-4:30/4:40-5:40/5:50-6:50.
We then have a table allocated to us and the teachers walk around and find you. They will sit with you for 5 min or so and then move on to someone else. This way no set appointments need to be made and the teachers get to see everyone.
We've only ever had one or two teachers not make it round to us.

annahay · 10/01/2024 16:59

Flensburg · 10/01/2024 07:10

When I was at secondary school in the eighties, for parents' evenings, teachers sat at desks in the hall and parents queued to see whichever they wanted to. Mine were able to see all my teachers. Why is there not enough time now? What has changed?

Fewer teachers teaching more children.

OhmygodDont · 10/01/2024 16:57

We just picked tutor, core subjects and then once in year 10 included the special subjects.

So we never did music, dance, drama and a few others as we knew he would be dropping them all. Did art once on the auto system and even the teacher said good student behaves etc but I know he doesn’t like art so as long as he completes his work I expect nothing more or less from him. Year 10 dropped art.

I think talking to every single subject teacher at secondary level is more a box ticking exercise. Half the subjects will be dropped, anything important such as falling behind you should already be aware as you should if they are exceptionally fabulous.

They all know their set groupings as top, top 2nd, middle, lower and bottom which tells you quite a bit as well.

If you have a question surely you just pop an email across and get an answer in a few days. No point waiting till just parents evening.

MamaBear4ever · 10/01/2024 16:51

We are allowed to book up to 8, can usually book an appointment but then they don't all turn up on the night !

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/01/2024 16:41

What subject do you teach to do this????

I’m always fully booked, 3 hours non stop which is why I like online as it ensures appointments stick to 5 minutes. Yr 7 and Yr 11 PE are fave to face at my school and Yr 11 ran over by nearly half hour!

MFL, but it was the same for all subjects, in that while parents' evenings were online, my school had a policy that all teachers were only to book 30 appointments, regardless of how many classes we had, and could block out gaps wherever we wanted them. When it was online, the parents' evening was over a longer period of time, so there was plenty of space for decent gaps. Appointments were 3 or 4 mins.

MrsMurphyIWish · 10/01/2024 16:22

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/01/2024 16:09

We are online too. Considering how many teachers are at home rather than school, I suspect that the teachers like it too.

I prefer it online as a teacher and a parent for the same reason - I can do things like put the dinner on or get a cup of tea in between appointments rather than standing/sitting around in school waiting for the next one. As a parent it means it doesn't matter if I can only get appointments that are far apart.

What subject do you teach to do this????

I’m always fully booked, 3 hours non stop which is why I like online as it ensures appointments stick to 5 minutes. Yr 7 and Yr 11 PE are fave to face at my school and Yr 11 ran over by nearly half hour!

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/01/2024 16:09

We are online too. Considering how many teachers are at home rather than school, I suspect that the teachers like it too.

I prefer it online as a teacher and a parent for the same reason - I can do things like put the dinner on or get a cup of tea in between appointments rather than standing/sitting around in school waiting for the next one. As a parent it means it doesn't matter if I can only get appointments that are far apart.

Lougle · 10/01/2024 15:50

enchantedsquirrelwood · 10/01/2024 14:53

That sounds a little smug. But I think all parents should have the chance to discuss their kids' progress - not just the ones whose kids are doing less well for whatever reason.

I was one of the parents whose child wasn't perfectly behaved in Y7. It got much better in Y8. The Y9 parents' evening was a lovely experience where everyone said how well he was doing. Admittedly, I only chose to see the teachers whose subjects he was carrying on to GCSE. But still. I think I had just as much right to see the teachers in Y9 to hear the good things as the parents whose children needed more support/discussion.

DS's sixth form actually took the approach you describe, and the straight A* students didn't get to see the lecturers.

Edited

Oh believe me, no smuggery - my children all have SEN. But they were making the progress expected and behaving well.

AnneValentine · 10/01/2024 15:48

planetarynoodle · 10/01/2024 06:20

I think the teachers shod be responsible for who gets a slot. They know who's parents need speaking to

If there are parents who need speaking to they don’t wait for parents evening.

SunnyWinterDay · 10/01/2024 15:40

We are only offered slots with SENCO and the head of year. I would if there are any issues these aren’t left to raise at parents evening. We get reports and I emails the teachers directly if needed. I don’t need a slot to be told my child is doing well. I only want to know about issues I need to address.

MoreDollies · 10/01/2024 15:37

Which teachers are at home rather than at school? That's quite a sweeping generalisation for what might just be your experience